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the future should be plural

children should not be abused to the point of their brains physically altering itself and shattering itself to protect itself. Children should not have trauma. Children should not have to go through this. When we say the future is plural it means having a society that supports plural folks and works to make sure people have spaces to heal from trauma. No one is obsessed with traumatizing children to make new systems. Anyone who thinks that doesn't think very highly of children. Just no.

In the meadow, time stands still.

ig credit: travvvvis_pnw.

I was holding the hand of a little in co-con as we were walking and it was genuinely so weird to go at my walking pace. Like yeah we’re in the same body but they’re small and can’t keep up :((

Being plural sometimes is being super deep in a self destructive maladaptive daydreaming session and having another alter *literally* shake you back to being aware, being able to give them hugs and have someone to cry on while you try and ground yourself. An extreme act of love and care.

Other times the little bitch that runs this blog steals AN ENTIRE HALF GALLON OF MY CHOCOLATE MILK AND THE LAST OF MY HOMEMADE BBQ SAUCE

May you're a bitch and imma eat whenever snacks our boyfriend buys you next /hj

-Eef

I've been thinking about trauma and what may qualify, and I'm starting to realize that raising animals probably did contribute to the trauma we have.

(tw explicit animal death/killing, general gross/gore warning)

I remember watching a family friend crack open eggs that hadn't incubated fully to hatching when I was five or younger, and she explained that it's just the way things are on a farm sometimes as I watched those soggy underdeveloped chicks lay still on the straw.

When I was older one of my goats had a stillborn kid - but it had been dead long enough to rot in the womb, and its corpse was literally falling apart as we pulled it out.

I raised a couple batches of turkeys that I loved so, so much, even though I knew we'd butcher them. I named them and carried them around and spent so much time with them they were incredibly docile. One turkey from the second batch I raised got injured - I think he broke his wing or something? - and the bigger tom that was with him was doing what turkeys do and trying to bully him to death. He was in so much pain, and while I agreed to help my parents butcher him for meat, I asked that one of them kill him because I hate killing animals. Unfortunately, mom decided to wait until later in the day when it would be more convenient to butcher him. When I found him suffering in his pen hours after I thought my parents had put him down, I got my sharpest knife and sobbed as I pinned him down and slit his throat.

I have so, so many stories like those that I am starting to acknowledge qualify as traumatic for a tenderhearted kid, but I feel like I shouldn't be traumatized by them. It's the way things are on a farm, after all. It's what happens. It's how life goes. So many of my animals died because I owned a bunch of animals for a long time and it's the way things go. Was I really not strong enough to handle it? Surely I should have been able to. Surely it's just the way things are, am I really so weak as to let those facts of the circle of life hurt me?

This is what life is. Why did it break me?

🌌List of Ways to Spend Time with Your In-system Partner in the Exoworld🌌

Journaling Together(sending letters to another, conversation, love notes, feelings)

Listening to Music together

Watching movies or shows together and talking to another about it

Gaming together, maybe spectate another or make decisions together

Going on walks or exploring nature together

Cooking and baking together

Working out together, maybe one will possess the body while the other helps encourage

Drawing or writing together

Getting a physical representation of your relationship, like a ring

Meditating together

Divination together(tarot)

Letting your partner make decisions for or with you

Planning and doing a Morning or Night ritual together, like helping another get dressed or brush their teeth

Self care time together

Eating together

Clean and organize together

Shopping together

driving together

reading together

show/save images and memes your partner might enjoy

"Texting" another throughout the day (using simplyplural chat or pluralkit discord)

Mental check-ins, if you have fronted and haven't spoken to your partner, just call them up and ask them how they're doing

Encourage another throughout the day

Help another with homework or work(If one is tired, maybe take over for them, or help guide them through studying or not getting distracted)

making some simply plural custom fields because all the ones i& find are exclusionist.

names ,, nicknames ,, petnames ,, pronouns ,, terms ,,

age ,, maturity ,, birthday ,, formation ,,

species ,, appearance ,, alterhumanity ,, kins ,,

gender ,, romantic orientation ,, sexual orientation ,, mogai labels ,, amory (poly, mono, etc) ,,

languages ,, verbality ,, scribality ,, typing quirks ,,

roles ,, type (fully formed, frag, etc) ,, proxy ,, front frequency ,, clinical type (anp, ep, etc) ,, community type (host, protector, etc) ,, subsys ,, source ,, source connection ,,

dni ,, likes ,, dislikes ,, interaction status (oti, iwc, etc) ,,

front triggers (i& advise not to share these) ,, trauma responses (i& advise not to share these) ,, insys relationships ,, out of sys relationships ,,

hobbies ,, religious beliefs ,, mbti ,,

I could hear a discussion happening nearby in the headspace when I was focusing on Tetris and I could tell it was important, or at least the two that were talking thought it was important, and I was casually listening along as they came to a decision, but then the moment my game finished it was yoinked from my brain like a dream fading the moment you wake up. It’s a bit D: to feel like there’s something I’m supposed to know, though I’m not sure if they knew I was listening or not

"Worst thing about plurality is the amnesia" "worst thing about plurality is in-sys fighting" LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER worst thing about plurality is the strain on our bank account trying to accommodate eight different fashion styles