Constantlyquestion - LiveAndLetLive

“Try not to feel jealous about things, or other people and what they have. It will make you bitter and kill you inside. Just keep living, and find your own path, and one day you’ll discover your own happiness.”

— Unknown

“It’s never too late to start over. If you weren’t happy with yesterday, try something different today. Don’t stay stuck. Do better.”

— Andy Wootea

The Rolling Stones - Waiting on a Friend

From the album Tattoo you

mutuals, non-mutuals, ops of years old posts, you can all catch these paws

The amount of nonbinary friends I've had ask me, a binary trans man, if they're "allowed" to call themselves a part of the trans community is so sad. Yes, of course you can. We are all in this together. You can fly the trans flag you can call yourself trans you can celebrate TDOV and mourn TDOR with us please come hold my hand and fight by my side. When you started identifying as nonbinary you got an optional trans bundle, too—you don't have to take it but you absolutely should if you want to. The white stripe is for you.

every mother who’s critiqued her daughter’s appearance based on ~what men do or do not like~ owes that child an apology

if you have a chronic illness or disability i need you to hear this- this will be long.

you're allowed to feel sad/depressed/down, you're allowed to grieve your life and/or yourself, you're allowed to want it to be over.

you're allowed to have happy moments, you're allowed to enjoy your life and/or aspects of it, you're allowed to smile and just because you feel happy doesn't mean your pain is less.

good days are good and bad days are bad, and it's okay if you have no good days, and it's okay if you have mostly good days. it's okay if you're not diagnosed, it's okay if you are, and it's okay if you have lots of diagnoses. any of this doesn't make you any less valid.

no one gets to tell you that what you're feeling is not what you are feeling, just because you portray a picture of yourself to be something differently.

fuck being 'strong' and 'brave', you're surviving and every minute that you do is a minute of your life that's yours and only yours to choose how you live, don't let other's opinions on how they think a chronically ill/disabled person should live govern or influence your life. it's yours.

love you all, my dears

i wanna say fuck you to anyone who shame disabled, chronically ill & neurodivergent people, especially homebound folks, for "spending too much time on their phone/on the internet/etc." when it's the only (Somewhat) accessible way for them to experience the world. many people don't get to get out much even if they want to because of their disabilities. shaming someone for trying to connect with the world, make friends and engage with hobbies in ways that are accessible to them is beyond cruel and unnecessary

there is no aging out of having fun. there is no expiration date for joy. if you see someone freely and unabashedly expressing themself in a way that is ultimately harmless, and you balk because you think that person should have "grown out" of whatever it is that's bringing them happiness by now: you have GOT to start asking yourself questions. where did you learn to treat enjoyment the way a grocery store treats blemished fruit, sooner sent to the landfill than the malnourished? who benefits from the narrative that aging and spiritual suppression go hand in hand? and what harmless amusements, dear neighbor, are you telling yourself that you're not allowed to indulge anymore, for fear of scalding judgment by so many shame-filled strangers who don't even know your name?