I'm Struggling To Feel Like A Valid Regressor Because I'm Pregnant...

Aftercare

I’ve organized some of the things I need from aftercare (in person or long distance) into 4 components, and thought it could be helpful for others too! I’ve put some examples for each, but it will of course look different for everyone.

1. Physical Care/Needs -

Wiping away tears

Helping up from floor

Getting a warm towel

Soothing bruises

Getting a glass of water

2. Physical Comfort/Affection -

Gentle kisses and hugs

Holding eachother tight

Breathing with eachother

Cuddling and/or napping together

Brushing fingers through hair

3. Scene Validation -

“That was so fun/sexy”

“That felt so good when you ____”

“You were such a good ____ for me”

“I love the bruises/marks you gave me”

“Thank you for (carrying out some fantasy) with me”

4. Human Affirmations -

“I love you; I care about you”

“I’m so grateful to have you in my life”

“I always have a great time when I’m with you”

“You’re a wonderful/kind/etc person”

Mentioning a non-sexual part of your relationship that you like, or reiterating that you value eachother as more than just a sub/dom(me)

I think that this can work whether you have a deeper connection or a more casual play partner! I always feel best when all of these components are covered during aftercare.

These things can obv be done in person, and I think it’s also really important to give this kind of care when you’re long distance, even if it’s just through words after sexting… for example-

“When we were done, I would help you up and wipe away your tears, bring you a warm towel and make sure you’re ok. Then I’d love to cuddle, with your head on my chest, and give you forehead kisses while telling you how good you made me feel and how wonderful of a person I think you are.”

Thanks for reading! Be safe everyone 💕💕

You’re allowed to be excited about the little things. You’re allowed to be goofy. You’re allowed to be dorky about your favorite tv show, to make blanket forts, to enjoy cheesy movies, even just to sleep with stuffed animals. You’re allowed to do any of the things that make life a little more bearable. It’s fine, ok?

I drew YUNGBLUD in his album "Sex Not Violence" with a cigarette and smoke that made him.

Lies Hidden on the Inside

You see that I smile 

You see that I cry

You see that I'm calm on the outside

But you don't know me.

You would know me if…

You knew how loud I scream inside

You knew how I hide that anger, scared to black out

You knew how my mum manipulated me, made me scared to let out that volcanic eruption of rage.

You see that I wear the clothes that I love

You see that I cry when I hurt my friends and family 

You see that I keep “bad” feelings inside

But you don't know me.

You would know me if you took a second to look in my eyes, at the emotion hidden inside, to feel the anger and rage boiling up inside like a kettle, water almost reaching the top. 

You would know me if…

you let me trust you enough to let you in

You would know me

But you don't. 

You don't know how I worry about my body, I hate the way I look, because my dad called me a slut.

You don't know how I forced myself to throw up because as a kid I was obese.

You don't know how I wasn't even allowed to hate because “hate is a strong word” so instead I said I “strongly disliked” someone or something instead. I felt too anxious to even feel my emotions fully because what if my family got upset about it because GOD FORBID I feel any emotion aside from happiness. 

You don't know how I've had to learn to gauge people's emotions so I didn't get hurt.

You don't know how I was raped 4 times and none of them got caught because obviously they're “mentally younger” than me so I'd get in trouble, not them. 

You don't know how everyday for years I cut just to feel something other than pain. 

You don't know me and I hope you never do.

I hope you never figure out my “lies hidden on the inside.” 

I've regressed a lot lately so I wanted to do a couple things

My name is: Chaoss

Please call me: Axle, Chaoss, Apollo

I'm from the United States

My birthday is August 12th 2004

I think of myself as cute but crazy

I'm into drawing, anything arts and craftsy

I love reading

I'm good at art

I usually spend my time on Amino roleplaying, reading smut books, or watching YouTube shorts

My Favorites

Emoji

🥺 or 🙄

Food

Ice cream, usually chocolate or strawberry ice cream

Animal

Cats or foxes

Game

Hide and seek

Anime

Black Butler or Diabolik Lovers

Character

Kanato or Alois

Youtube

Layze

Artist

Confidence moment ✨ Myself ✨

Colour

Pastel Pink, Lavender, Baby Blue, and Black.

I thought the best feeling was a cup of coffee and a perfect husband in the morning or breakfast in bed. I think now that the perfect feeling is having your child who's been in DCFS custody for months asleep in their pack n play while your getting cuddles from a perfect partner. He might not be completely perfect but he's mine. ❤️ My babygirl is in her pack n play, sleeping, she just woke up for 10 minutes and I rocked her back to sleep, she's in the living room and currently so are we as we went to my mum's for 5 days while our friend and their partner house sat for us because they're cool like that so we pulled out mattress from the bedroom and put it in the living room but I decided I like it there until I'm comfortable leaving my daughter in another room by herself, which won't be for a while. I love my babygirl and my husband, they're my Beautiful Things.

Me on Tuesday and Wednesday when my dom fucked me 4 times and fingered me 4 times in 2 days.

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