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Safeword lessons

I had cause to use my Safeword last night. I knew that I needed to because my body wasn’t reacting well to what was happening to me. This is the first time I have had to use it with My Master, and we didn’t handle it as well as we should have Hopefully our lessons after talking it through may help some others.

When I used my Safeword everything stopped, as it should always without exception.

I wasn’t in a good place emotionally, I felt like my body was rebelling against me. I felt that I could take more mentally but not physically. Did this feel like I was letting my Master and myself down…. Yes it did.

The very first thing that came out of my Masters mouth was a question. Not ideal at least not for me. I couldn’t think straight let alone give a suitable answer to a question. Did he have a right to ask… of course he did. We have a completely open dialogue within our relationship, it was more that I wasn’t capable of answering.

What happened due to the question was that I questioned myself, I doubted that I had done the right thing, I doubted myself. I let the negativity in and from there it was a snowball going downhill fast.

I created within our dynamic a negativity. I allowed myself to feel less than. Not acceptable…. I am not permitted to put myself down, by doing so I am putting my Master’s most loved down…me!

The outcome really was that he got angry with my actions and thoughts. Not that I Safeworded not for one second was he upset about that, but it was my actions after I used it.

Once I was in a better place emotionally I was able to express not only what I was feeling emotionally and physically, I could also and appropriately express to him the need to be held not questioned after I Safeword, the questions can and should come but not until I am settled again.

As I write this I am still going over it all in my mind, I am still processing what happened, as I am sure he is, you go through these experiences and you learn. You learn about each other and what works.

Don’t ever feel that you can’t use your Safeword no matter how the outcome plays out, it is your safeguard and the most valuable word that you possess.

❤️🙏

Ladies I have another question for you....

What’s one thing you wish guy did while he was going down ?

Love yourself and your body and curves I know it can be a struggle but just find one thing everyday you love about yourself and the rest will come

For all who's suffer from hurricane Dorian 🍀🍀🍀

END BODY SHAMING

Too many people are being body shamed by total arseholes and there’s just no fucking need for it.

When you look at someone’s body and then send vile messages about their size just take five minutes and think to yourself “Hmmm they could gain/lose weight but I will always be a dickhead” Instead of being ‘That dickhead’ try to imagine why they are the size they are. Do they have a medical issue (mental or physical), are they too self conscious to exercise (not all large people are unfit and not all slim people are fit), are they being pressured by a partner to be the size they are. There could be many reasons they are the size they including they are just happy with there body and don’t want to change it and that is perfectly fine.

I have never liked my body even when I was a size 8-10 with a stomach so flat you wouldn’t believe it. I have had 2 children which resulted in stretch marks, quit smoking after nursing my Dad through terminal cancer, this resulted in a weight gain of 5 stones (first two photographs) which caused even more stretch marks, lost 4 with diet and exercise, gained 3 because I thought I had a handle on my weight, lost another 2 with exercise (I love naughty food too much). The third photograph was a couple of months ago and I still wasn’t comfortable in my own skin (trying to hid the apron 🙈). The last photograph wasn’t long after the third, no difference in size but there is in confidence. I now accept that my body tells a story which will never be finished until the day I die.

I never thought I would have the courage to share these photographs but you know what, if it helps to change the way of thinking of just one dickhead then my anxiety over this post is so worth it.

If anyone wants to share this post then just do it 😘🐺