With the new year approaching, there’s a buzz in the air. It’s the perfect time to reflect on where we’ve been and where we’re heading. This year doesn’t have to look like the last one. If you’re planning a glow-up, stepping into a new mindset, or just becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be, here’s a method that can genuinely change the game: your YouTube feed.
Let’s be real, YouTube isn’t just entertainment. It’s also one of the most powerful platforms for self-improvement and learning. But if your feed is filled with videos that no longer serve your goals, it’s time to take charge and reset.
First things first, go through your subscriptions and be brutally honest with yourself. Ask, “How often do I watch content from this channel? Does this align with who I’m becoming?”
Don’t worry about missing out. This isn’t about cutting off enjoyment—it’s about making space for growth.
Personal Example: I used to be subscribed to a lot of gaming channels because they were my go-to for entertainment. But now? I’m focusing on building my best self, so I said goodbye.
If you’re ready to go extreme (and trust me, this works wonders), delete your YouTube watch history. This is your ultimate clean slate.
Here’s how: Go to your YouTube settings, click “Manage All Activity,” and clear your watch history.
Why this works: YouTube’s algorithm will stop showing you videos based on your past habits. This means no more random recommendations that pull you back into old habits.
Pro Tip: Pair this with your new subscriptions to train the algorithm into showing you content that inspires and uplifts.
This is the fun part. Fill your feed with creators who embody the energy you want to bring into the new year. Look for channels that motivate you, teach you, and align with your goals for 2025.
Being a femi girl, I will recommend some channels that are personally helping me upgrade myself:
Tam Kaur ▹ link
Alonna Elaine ▹ link
Bahja Abdi ▹ link
Adama Lorna ▹ link
Maya Galore ▹ link
Jillz Guerin ▹ link
Kisha Alejandra ▹ link
Thewizardliz ▹ link
Estelle Richter ▹ link
Simonesquared ▹ link
How to Find More: Search for videos with keywords like “level up,” “self-improvement,” “becoming her,” or “glow up in 2025.” Spend time exploring until you find creators who truly resonate with your vision.
It’s okay to watch fun and lighthearted content too, but be intentional. Ask yourself, “Is this adding value to my life?” If not, consider limiting your time with it.
Create playlists: Dedicate a playlist to motivational and growth-oriented videos. This will be your go-to space when you need a boost.
Schedule your entertainment: Watch for enjoyment, but don’t let it consume hours that could be spent learning or creating.
Resetting your YouTube feed might seem like a small change, but trust me, it’s powerful. When you surround yourself with content that aligns with your goals, you’re reinforcing the mindset and habits that will take you there!
So, I wish you the best of luck,
be in the present and notice those little things you never saw before, but that have always been there
experience new exciting things that bring you joy
love people, listen to them and create meaningful connections
make art and don’t label it as “good” or “bad,” just let your soul be free
stop scrolling on social media and start turning pages of an interesting book
do mindfulness meditation and feel your body and mind calming down
move your body, no matter how as long as you’re enjoying
listen to music that matches the moment you’re in
eat nourishing food, feel your stomach full without discomfort
get a good night of sleep and feel yourself ready for another day
HOW TO STAY UNBOTHERED!
1. Never say more than necessary.
2. Don't allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.
3. Lower your expectations from others.
4. Let your success do the talking.
5. 10 people 10 different opinions. Stop pleasing.
6. Remember your haters are your fans.
7. Don't be afraid to say "NO".
8. Know your truth and be okay with someone else not believing you.
9. Stop taking things personally.
• Let go of control: You can't control others' actions or words, just your reactions.
• Humor: Learn to laugh things off when appropriate.
• Set boundaries: Limit contact with negativity and prioritize supportive people.
• Communicate clearly: Ask for clarification Instead of assuming negativity
• Shift your perspective: Consider the source and if their comment reflects on them more than you.
• Focus on what you can control: Improve your own communication and self-care.
• Thicken your skin: Build strong self-worth and know your value.
10. Healthy detachment.
• Let people be who they want to be, then decide if you want them in your life.
• Trust that rejection is always redirection to something bigger and better.
• Some people are only meant to help you grow, not be in your life forever.
• What if everything is falling apart to come together in a way you can't guess?
• Focus only on what you can control.
TIDY UP YOUR SPACE!
open up your curtains
wipe / dust off surfaces + shelves
clean mirrors and windows
wash sheets, clean out underneath bed
vacuum / mop floors
do your laundry, fold any you have out now
if you have a whiteboard, clean it
organize your closet, donate clothes you no longer want, throw out tarnished ones
organize self care stuff + cosmetics, clean makeup brushes, throw out anything expired
EVERYTHING SHOWER
oil hair and apply hair mask (pre-shower)
exfoliate
apply shave oil/cream, shave legs, underarms, etc.
soap up
wash hair
wash face
anything else you'd usually do
ps: you can swap for a relaxing bubble bath 🎀
OUT OF SHOWER CARE
apply glycolic toner to areas you shave (do NOT apply to facial or bikini area)
moisturize
apply body oil/perfume
dry hair (you can blow dry, heat absorbs oil)
brush your teeth, floss, use mouth wash or oil pulling mouth rinse
do your skin care
wear a cute face mask + under eye patches if wanted
RELAXATION STATION
light some relaxing scented candles/incense if you have
put on some pajamas (i personally prefer nightgowns and silk matching sets)
the time is now yours! you can do whatever feels right, but some things i like to do include: making myself a small snack and putting a movie/show on, journaling my thoughts and feelings, playing video games, or reading a good book
DIGI CLEANSE
if you're gonna be on your phone, might as well get something done!
clean out your camera roll
go through your apps, delete anything taking up space or not benefiting you
for social media, go through your followings, unfollow anyone who makes you sad / uncomfortable
organize playlists, pinterest boards, tumblr blogs, insta stories, etc.
if you're in the mood for re-decorating, you can fix up your layout / homepage or revamp your social media accounts
clean up
skincare routine
put your phone on do not disturb mode
30min reading
diffuse lavander / ylang ylang oil
play relaxing music
journal about your day
create a to-do list for tomorrow
have quality time with loved ones
drink tea / hot water with lemon
It's about you; you are the main character of your life.
Sometimes you need to get uncomfortable to get comfortable.
People who get angry at you for putting yourself first are the same people who benefit from you putting yourself last
You are allowed to say, "Nah, that's not good enough."
Stop wasting energy that you can use to become your best version.
Becoming selfish is the best thing I ever did.
I can make myself fulfilled, and whatever he gives me is just an extra.
Start now with what you have.
Enough crying, enough being sad, enough saying "tomorrow".
Sometimes you lose people that are not meant to be with the highest version of yourself, and you have to let those people go.
You vs. you, honey.
Some people just don't deserve you. Not mentally, physically or spiritually.
I don't argue with people because most of them are stupid.
People don't really care what happened to you or what you went through. They really care about what you can do for them.
Only here to impress myself.
When a Queen does not like her situation, she plans her exit.
Manifesting is a lifestyle.
The best revenge is creating a better life for yourself.
I started prioritising my own needs and wants; whatever I want goes first. That's it; I do not care anymore.
I could honestly go on forever since Liz has so many great things to say, so let me know in the comments if I should make a part 2! <3
✩‧₊*:・love ya ・:*₊‧✩
How to feel more feminine 🎀🩰🫶🏼
For the longest time I’ve been trying to find ways to feel and look more feminine and I’ve found some things that really helped me achieve this so here are my tips. I want to remind y’all that you DO NOT have to be feminine. This is what I personally want to give off but please never feel pressured to be more feminine this is for anyone of any gender and sexuality to feel more feminine ONLY if that is what they want. I love u and u are beautiful regardless.
Doing my nails
Going to bed in cute clothes
Keeping my room clean
Candles
Wearing one necklace at a time instead of a bunch at once
New makeup look to make my eyes pop
Thinning my eyebrows
This does not apply to everyone but I found that hoop earrings (specifically big ones) don’t match me and made me look less feminine for some reason
Lip combos
I have big brown eyes and I had blonde and light shades of brown hair for a while which made my eyes less noticeable, going back to dark brown made my eyes pop SO much more again
Sweet perfumes
Lip gloss or a lipstick with some shimmer is something else
Lotion (even though I barely put on lotion)
Buying more bags and carrying one with me always
Looking at least somewhat put together regardless of where I’m going
Looking cute at home
I always say this for everything but jewelry especially gold or a mix of silver and gold (if u do it right)
Long boots make me feel like the baddest baddie ever
So random but keeping a cute makeup bag in my bags make me feel so girl 🩰
That’s it for now babes
Feel free to message me with things you need tips on and I’ll make posts abt it if I can I love making these posts so much
Love u 🫶🏼
Xo, Ary 💋
→ journal out who you want to be in 2025:
1. What does she look like? (Physical appearance, style)
2. How does she dress on a typical day?
3. What does she like ?
4. What doesn't she like?
5. What is her behavior like in different situations?
6. (Social interactions, demeanor)
7. How does she prefer to be treated by others? (Expectations from relationships)
8. How does she treat people around her? (Interpersonal relationships, kindness)
9. What does her daily routine entail? (Activities, schedule)
10. At what time does she usually go to bed? (Sleeping habits)
11. When does she wake up in the morning? (Morning routine)
12. What are her hobbies and interests? (Leisure activities)
13. What is her profession or occupation? (Career, job responsibilities)
14. What are her long-term goals and aspirations? (Career ambitions, personal achievements)
15. How does she handle stress or challenges? (Coping mechanisms, problem-solving approach)
16. What type of books does she enjoy? (Cultural preferences)
17. How does she maintain her physical and mental well-being? (Health and self-care routines)
18. Does she have any specific dietary preferences or restrictions? (Food choices)
19. Who are her closest friends, and what are her relationships like with them?(Friendship dynamics)
20. How does she navigate conflicts or disagreements? (Communication style, conflict resolution)
21. What values and principles guide her decision-making? (Personal ethics)
22. How does she spend her leisure time on weekends? (Weekend activities, relaxation methods)
At some point in your life, you just have to realize that your laziness, your lack of goals and ambition, your unhealthy coping mechanisms, the books you're not reading, the people you're not meeting, the healthy food you won't even touch, the effort you won't put in.... it's called disrespecting yourself. Don't know about you, but I'm done with it.