be in the present and notice those little things you never saw before, but that have always been there
experience new exciting things that bring you joy
love people, listen to them and create meaningful connections
make art and don’t label it as “good” or “bad,” just let your soul be free
stop scrolling on social media and start turning pages of an interesting book
do mindfulness meditation and feel your body and mind calming down
move your body, no matter how as long as you’re enjoying
listen to music that matches the moment you’re in
eat nourishing food, feel your stomach full without discomfort
get a good night of sleep and feel yourself ready for another day
Girly Comfort Movies
Little collection of my favourite comfort movies (take with a grain of salt lol) <3
Legally Blonde (1 and 2)
the devil wears Prada
The Princess Diaries (1 and 2)
Little Woman
Clueless
Mean Girls (1 and 2)
Pride & Prejudice
Roman Holiday
Uptown girls
Marie-Antoinette
The Virgin Suicide
10 things I hate about you
Lady Bird
Jennifer’s Body
how to lose a guy in 10 days
American Psycho
A Cinderella Storie
Emma
Watching the detectives
La La Land
Peters to Juliette
Bling Ring
Fight Club
Dead poets society
13 going 30
The Notebook
Breakfast at Tiffanys
Sex and the city
Dear John
The breakfast club
Mamma Mia
Monte Carlo
Black Swan
Girl Interrupted
Pearl
Bridget Jones (ty @dionysus-drabbles 🫶🏻)
If you guys have any more suggestions and/or recommendations (maybe some shows and series as well!!), please feel free to share them with me in the comments!! <33
— the princess guide on glowing up:
recently i noticed how in love i've become with my appearance after a long time of strongly hating how i look. i wondered how i got to this point so i worked backwards to figure out what changed and made this post.ᡣ𐭩
GETTING OVER MY INSECURITIES
social media is one of the main things that attributed to my insecurities. when you're constantly bombarded by posts praising girls that look nothing like you for their beauty it's easy to trick yourself into thinking that must mean you're not beautiful since you have nothing in common with them. someone's beauty does not take away from yours, but it can make you forget yours. the first change i made that signified the beginning of my new found self love was when i started to look at models and influencers and actresses that looked more like me. i believe there's beauty in every feature, you just have to see it in a beautiful light. i stopped considering my features ugly when i distanced from any content that would insist on them being flaws and instead exposed myself to beautiful girls who had the same exact features and realised they didn't make them any less beautiful.
SETTING MY OWN BEAUTY STANDARDS
a crucial point in my journey to loving my physical appearance was disregarding society's already set beauty standards and it's expectations. the truth is you can't build your confidence based on how much you fit others' standards because everybody has their own idea of beauty and what might make you beautiful in someone's eyes might make you ugly in another's. so that's why i decided to create my own standards and measure myself based on what i personally think is beautiful.
i did this by taking out my journal, closing my eyes for a few seconds and imagining what i considered to be the epitomy of beauty, then i wrote down a description of what i imagined. if you're having trouble picturing the details, you can try answering some of these questions:
what kind of girl would i see on the street and would leave something that is more than an impression on me? what texture is her hair? what color is it? how is she wearing it, is it parted in the middle or to the side? is it styled or is it down? is it long or short? is she wearing makeup? if yes, is it natural makeup or is it more on the bold side? is she wearing jewellery? is it dainty or flashy? what is her body type? is she skinny or curvy? does she have her nails done? are they long or short? what type of clothes is she wearing?
after i decided on my own beauty standards, i made changes to my appearance and the closer i got to that image i had of the perfect girl in my head the happier i grew with myself.
EMBRACING MYSELF
now while i was picturing the perfect girl in my mind, i made sure that she had my features. i didn't imagine her without my 'insecurities'. essentially i was just imagining myself if i reached my maximum potential, i didn't change anything i was already born with i only changed the customizable things in a way that i thought was beautiful / suited me more. and that's what i wanna talk about in this part, the importance of embracing myself the way i am.
embracing myself didn't only help me in the mental aspect where i started to love myself more, but it also helped me physically. i started to look a lot better when i stopped trying to force myself to look 'sexy' and admitted that i was more suited for makeup & clothes that are more on the cuter side.
obviously i'm not trying to tell you what to do, but i'm willing to bet that you would look a whole lot better if you wore clothes that fit your body type instead of forcing yourself into tight and uncomfortable clothing. the idea is to understand that there isn't only one type of beauty, so you don't have to force yourself to do things that don't suit you to be beautiful.
IDENTIFYING YOURSELF + YOUR STYLE
i've talked about how you should do things that suit you, but how do you even know what does or doesn't suit you? well you have to start by identifying what 'you' are first.
while i was going through this phase of my glow up journey, i found that there are three things that you have to know about yourself: your face shape, your skintone/undertones and your body type. you can figure them out by looking at yourself in the mirror and referencing these charts below. if you're having a hard time determining where you fit, you can ask a family member/friend for their opinion. i think that wearing things that compliment you makes you look put together no matter what your style is, it gives you the perfect 'canvas'.ཐིཋྀ
from these three things you can figure out what eyebrow shape, hairstyles + hair colors, clothes and colors would suit you the best. you can do that by simply going on pinterest or tiktok and looking up "hairstyle recommendations for ____ face shape". you can also use celebrities with similar traits as inspiration.
as for developing your style, i think that is something you naturally develop over time as you try out things and evolve your taste. but if you're stuck on where to start, i recommend quizzes! there are a lot of korean/chinese quizzes scattered over the internet that can help you. something else i recommend is checking out @/dreamgrlarchive's blog, she has a lot of posts dedicated to finding your style. also, don't shy away from trying out trends or aesthetics that pique your interest, you're drawn to them for a reason so don't let people online shame you for it.
EMBODYING CONFIDENCE
the mental aspect of glowing up is something that often goes unnoticed. glowing up doesn't only require changing physically but also mentally. you have to make sure the inside matches the outside. journaling allowed me to work through any negative thoughts and feelings i had towards myself as well as identify any habits i used to do out of insecurity that i needed to get rid of. you'd be surprised at how many beautiful girls lack self esteem. become comfortable with the fact that you're beautiful.ᡣ𐭩
This is a masterlist to help you , elevate your mindset. It only works if you actually implement it , just watching videos and daydreaming, will not.
I'm always open to suggestions to add any videos to this , just send me an ask or a comment
how to master your emotional intelligence
"friends" to watch out for
you are a queen , u were born one
bye bye lazy girl era
the song jia effect
overcome your phone addiction
acceptance and change
learning to value
not taking risks , is the biggest risk
the perfect student
your enemies are secretly addicted to you
creating a successful mindset
mindset is everything
being your own dream girl
stop being lazy and pathetic
Here’s the thing no one tells you about social climbing.
It’s not about trying to impress people. It’s about being someone they want to impress. The real move isn’t flexing your accomplishments or name-dropping who you know. It’s making people feel seen, interesting and a little bit curious about you.
The best social climbers? We don’t shove our way into rooms. We get invited back because we know how to make the right people feel like stars.
Be confident, a little mysterious and genuinely invested in others. That’s the cheat code no one will tell you about.
she starts her mornings with a glass of water and stretches because it makes her feel good
her evenings are a mix of journaling, dancing in her room and turning her phone off when she needs time to be introspective
she’s empathetic and patient, specially with herself
she’s a great listener, but she never lets herself be a dumping ground for negativity
she’s not afraid to walk away from people who drain her energy and make her feel bad
her mantra is “i deserve to be cared, specially by myself”
she knows that healing can be messy and she’s fine with taking one step at a time or even going one step back because life is not linear
sometimes she stays in bed all day because she knows that rest is productive too
she celebrates small wins like taking her vitamins/meds, finishing a good book etc. because she believes joy is found everywhere
she values quality over quantity in every part of her life
she surrounds herself with people who respect her boundaries
her style isn’t about trends: it’s about what truly resonates with her
she values the present moment, even when it’s messy
she leaves every person she meets better than when she found them
she reminds you that you’re allowed to be a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time
she loves herself just the way she is <3
How to emotionally regulate yourself
so. You find yourself getting upset or angry or guilty over something. Negative emotions don’t feel the most comfortable, do they? They feel almost physically uncomfortable, sometimes painful. You wish you could block them out immediately but it’s impossible. Even if you try to ignore them, they somehow bounce back in your face.
what we’re not taught from a young age is emotion regulation. We are, in the end, only human. Its part of our nature to screw up, make mistakes and do things at times that we’re not supposed to.
bottling away feelings does no good - not to yourself and not to those who care about you.
so the next time you find yourself feeling emotionally imbalanced, take a look at this framework and work it out!
beauty & brains
under 30 minutes
5 minute daily stretch by madfit
7 minute post-workout stretch by daniela suarez
10 minute neck & shoulder stretch by growingannanas
10 minute lower body stretch by eleni fit
10 minute back pain relief stretches by mady morrison
10 minute stretches for neck, shoulders, and upper back by mady morrison
12 minute daily stretch by madfit
12 minute leg stretch by marie steffen
12 minute essential stretches by madfit
14 minute cooldown & relax stretch by mizi
15 minute neck, shoulder, & back stretch by eleni fit
15 minute neck, shoulder, & back deep tension relief stretch by eleni fit
15 minute recovery stretch by growingannanas
15 minute stretch for mobility & flexibility by growingannanas
15 minute post-workout stretch by madfit
15 minute relax & recover stretch by madfit
15 minute daily stretch by madfit
15 minute full body stretch by growingannanas
15 minute daily stretch by pamela reif
15 minute full body stretch by mady morrison
15 minute stretches for tight hips & lower back by mady morrison
15 minute leg stretch by mady morrison
15 minute daily stretch by fitbymik
20 minute lower body stretch by madfit
20 minute deep & dynamic stretch by marie steffen
20 minute full body deep stretch by marie steffen
20 minute hip & lower back stretch by eleni fit
20 minute full body daily stretch by eleni fit
20 minute stretch & strength for back pain by eleni fit
20 minute debloat stretch by eleni fit
20 minute full body stretch by eleni fit
20 minute daily stretch by emi wong
20 minute total body stretch by fitbymik
20 minute hip alignment routine by mizi
20 minute no talking full body stretch by yoga song
20 minute stretching for flexibility by daniela suarez
20 minute full body stretch by caroline girvan
20 minute beginner flexibility routine by madfit
24 minute leg stretch by hailey c.
25 minute full body stretch & mobility by madfit
25 minute no talking full body stretch by madfit
25 minute stretch & core by growingannanas
30+ minute routines
30 minute relax & recover stretch by growingannanas
30 minute full body stretching by pamela reif
30 minute beginner flexibility routine by madfit
30 minute flexibility stretching by eleni fit
30 minute flexibility stretching by eleni fit
30 minute stretching for flexibility & relaxation by eleni fit
30 minute full body deep stretch by marie steffen
30 minute full body daily stretch by yoga with tim
1 hour full body deep stretch by marie steffen
1 hour full body stretch by marie steffen
1 hour flexibility boost by marie steffen
bitch this is all you’re gonna get. this life, this face, this body. you better not ‘maybe in another universe’ your way out of everything. sit your ass down and face this. go make tea and have a picnic and read a goddamn book. kiss your loved ones, send that damn text, and hug your siblings. this is all you’re gonna get.