compliment people more often
pick up a crafty hobby
start to learn a language that you've always wanted to speak
take more photos and videos
watch movies, documentaries, shows, read, write, etc etc..
practice your makeup skills and try different styles
law of affirmation
start a blog (or just read mine hehe <3)
write essays on whatever interests you at the moment
make new playlists and update old ones
workout, stretch, go for walks
allow yourself to be bored sometimes; you don't have to constantly be doing things
talk to yourself with love and kindness
go thrifting and update your wardrobe
try new coffee shops and find your favourite one
embody the energy that you'd like to attract
dress up every day, you don't need a special occasion to wear your favourite outfits
decorate and rearrange your room until it feels like you
journal and write about your day, dreams, and ideas
manifest and visualise
reach out to your friends more often
visit more museums and art galleries
talk to the moon
As always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments! <3
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love ya シ:*ââ§âŠ
DAILY AFFIRMATIONS
You can choose whatever time youâd like to say positive and affirmative statements to yourself. When saying affirmations, use the first person and present tense. E.g I am healthy, I take care of myself, and I am strong academically.Â
Affirmations are so helpful because our brains struggle to tell the difference between imagination and reality. So, when we visualise ourselves doing something that's not actually happening, it stimulates the brain areas as if we were actually experiencing it.
So, repetitive affirmations will encourage your brain to treat it as fact. While this only works to an extent, it does help with self-sabotaging thought actions and thought patterns.Â
EATING MINDFULLY
Eating mindfully is the practice of when consuming anything, you put your full focus on that meal. There are no devices that may distract you, youâre eating slowly and paying close attention to how different meals make your body feel.Â
To eat mindfully, focus on the time it takes for you to finish your food. Is it enough time for your body to give signals about your meal? To chew thoroughly? Another thing is to turn off and eliminate any distractions. Such as being on any devices or multitasking.Â
Eating too quickly means that your body may not have enough time to tell you that it's full. When you eat mindfully, it's easier for your body to register when it's full. Furthermore, it's easier to distinguish between true hunger and non-hunger triggers for eating.Â
CREATIVE OUTLETS
For a lot of us, 2024 was a stressful year. Weâre constantly hustling and not letting ourselves process what's happening in and around us. Having a creative outlet helps us to release and detach from those emotions. It allows us to experience that feeling, but leave it all behind in the end.Â
Some examples are painting, clay artwork, creative writing, designing, sewing, crocheting and music. Thereâs a lot more you could do, but ultimately you have to do what's best for yourself.Â
LEARNING SOMETHING NEW EVERYDAY
At least one thing each day: aim to learn something completely new to you. Other than the fact that you are learning something new, it allows for your curiosity to grow and expand outside of your typical education institution. With curiosity, comes with the skill of being able to explore complications and come up with solutions.Â
There are many ways you can learn, but I think the best way is by coming up with your questions in an area youâre unfamiliar with and then looking for an answer to your question.Â
My favourite way has to be watching video essays. Doesnât always have to be social commentary, but anything that seems interesting enough for me.Â
COMPLIEMENT-A-DAY
I love receiving compliments from strangers. It leaves the widest smile on my face and I swear I feel so much lighter like Iâm floating around. However, I never think to give a compliment to someone else who I donât know. So, whenever you see the cutest outfit or the perfect lip combo, make sure to say it!
For those who may be shy in those kinds of interactions, practice saying it in your head. You donât have to say it out loud to them, but thinking positively of other people will reflect on how you think about yourself.Â
That is it for this post, thank you for reading until the end âĽď¸ Until next time, take care of yourself ᥣđŠŕžŕ˝˛ŕžŕ˝˛â âš
she starts her mornings with a glass of water and stretches because it makes her feel good
her evenings are a mix of journaling, dancing in her room and turning her phone off when she needs time to be introspective
sheâs empathetic and patient, specially with herself
sheâs a great listener, but she never lets herself be a dumping ground for negativity
sheâs not afraid to walk away from people who drain her energy and make her feel bad
her mantra is âi deserve to be cared, specially by myselfâ
she knows that healing can be messy and sheâs fine with taking one step at a time or even going one step back because life is not linear
sometimes she stays in bed all day because she knows that rest is productive too
she celebrates small wins like taking her vitamins/meds, finishing a good book etc. because she believes joy is found everywhere
she values quality over quantity in every part of her life
she surrounds herself with people who respect her boundaries
her style isnât about trends: itâs about what truly resonates with her
she values the present moment, even when itâs messy
she leaves every person she meets better than when she found them
she reminds you that youâre allowed to be a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time
she loves herself just the way she is <3
the it girlâs spring cleaning
phone reset
delete old contacts and messages
go through social media following
delete unused apps
go through photos
set a new wallpaper
add widgets for reminders, weather, battery, etc.
delete old songs and add new ones
environmental reset
clean your bedroom (vacuum, dust, put clothes away, etc.)
sort through and donate old clothes
organize your makeup, skincare, etc.
wash or change your bedsheets
rearrange your bedroom
open your windows and curtains to let fresh air in
get outdoors
clean your home with fresh scented products (lemon, lavender, etc.)
physical reset
try a new workout routine
get some new outfits
do a face mask
exfoliate and shave
oil your hair or do a hair mask
try a new hair color, cut, or style
do your nails or get your nails done
get some fresh makeup and try a new makeup routine
do a lip mask and scrub
mental reset
start journaling or try some new prompts
do a refreshing meditation
try a new yoga practice or workout
read instead of scrolling
put a time limit on your phone usage
reset your sleep schedule
beauty
hair gloss/hair oil
lanolips
fino hair mask
cosrx serum
rhode lip tint
- RECOMMENDED SHADES:
raspberry jelly
ribbon
cinnamon roll
philosophy 3-in-1
- RECOMMENDED SCENTS:
fresh cream
raspberry sorbet
pink frosted animal cracker
blush
gisou lip oil
rhode glazing milk
foundation
gel nail polishes/nail sets
victoriaâs secret lip gloss
- RECOMMENDED FLAVORS:
candy baby
sugar high
strawberry fizz
kiwi blush
juicy melon
perfume/body care set
makeup brushes
gua sha/jade roller
cute skincare from the crème shop
false lashes/lash extensions
led face mask
electric toothbrush
under eye masks
laser hair removal/wax kit
heatless curl kit
pimple patches
body lotion
- RECOMMENDED SCENTS:
warm and cozy by victoriaâs secret
the righteous butter by soap and glory
heavenly dream angel by victoriaâs secret
body scrub
- RECOMMENDED BRANDS:
tree hut
victoriaâs secret
bath and body works
fashion & clothing
cute pj set
workout sets
fuzzy socks
mary janes
uggs/fuzzy slippers
knee-high/thigh-high socks
basic tees/tanks/sweatshirts
health
cute water bottle
walking pad
resistance bands
eye mask for sleep
foam roller
liquid iv
light therapy lamp
hot water bottle/heating pad
hand sanitizer
yoga mat
wrist/ankle weights
miscellaneous
cute coloring book
books
palm stone
noise cancelling headphones
sofia coppola archive
throw blanket
chocolate
kindle
airpod case
phone case
speaker
candles
claw clips
perfume/body mist
- RECOMMENDED SCENTS:
warm and cozy by victoriaâs secret
champagne toast by bath and body works
cupcake by body fantasies
autumn drive by bath and body works
champagne apple and honey by bath and body works
rebellion isnât what you think it is
Self-care is an act of self-love đ¤
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a mini series on the art of becoming a better you
inspired by this podcast i watched recently !!
chapter one â THE ART OF LETTING GO
letting go is one of the strongest and bravest things we can do for ourselves. whether it be letting go of toxic relationships, bad habits, or simply just things that no longer serve you, being able to do something like that will help us grow stronger and create a better life for ourselves. iâm sure thereâs so many things, or even people, that have been weighing you down or hindering your own progress, so take that first step and let. them. go.
ἍáĄ. things/people to let go of
bad friends/partners
toxic relationships, whether romantic or platonic, are extremely hard to free yourself from, but you have to put yourself first. you are always your number one priority. if you believe in âtreat others how you want to be treatedâ, then you should believe in making sure others are treating you the way you want to be treated. you can always give and give to the people in your life, but relationships are a two-way street, babe. you canât give your all when the person or people youâre giving too isnât giving anything in return! donât continue to expend any more of your energy on those who wonât even consider trying to give you even an ounce of energy back. itâs not worth it.
when youâre in a toxic relationship, you start to realize how poorly youâre being treated, but because you want to try and fix the relationship or mend it somehow, you stay. and staying is one of the worst things you can do for yourself. while you try and try to fix something that you arenât even responsible for fixing, you just keep hurting yourself over and over; making yourself even more miserable in the relationship. and you donât deserve that! you donât deserve to be treated poorly time and time again, you never deserved that kind of treatment to begin with!
let them go. leave. free yourself from the constant heartbreak, betrayal, and pain. youâll lose yourself if you stay, and i know that youâre trying to find a better version of yourself, so if you stay youâll never find that person. youâll keep getting lost and youâll keep getting further and further away from your own happiness that you do deserve.
âbut how do i leave?â
if weâre talking toxic friends: distance yourself. put distance between you and them until youâre too far away for them to reach. keep conversations short, keep responses to a minimum until you eventually have gone so far that they canât find you anymore.
or simply: cut them off, immediately. block them on everything. instagram, twitter, tiktokâ all social media. block their number. block them out of your life for good. they donât deserve to see you, to hear from you, to have the chance to try and speak to you; they do not deserve you.
if weâre talking romantic relationships: send them a message. whether itâs a letter you send to their house or even through a text, send them a message. if you do it through text, do not feel any remorse for doing so. thereâs this whole idea of âif you break up with them over text, youâre a cowardâ, and in most cases i can see that to be true, but if youâre in a relationship where your partner does not value you, respect you, or even love you the way youâre meant to be loved then they donât even deserve the courtesy of an in-person break up.
sometimes weâre put in situations where even sending a message may seem impossible because our partner has taken too much control over us. when this kind of situation happens, we have to put our foot down. if you feel like you have no control, even over yourself, you need to leave. you have to do whatever it takes to leave because you should never, and i mean never, be put in any kind of situation or relationship where you feel like you have no control over yourself. you should never stay in a relationship that makes you feel trapped or that makes you feel scared to leave. you are allowed to leave no matter what anyone says.
additional note: if you are ever put in a situation where you feel unsafe in a relationship, please reach out for help. whether it be your family, a friend, or even an authoritative figure, please reach out for help. you do not deserve to ever feel unsafe by someone whoâs supposed to love you.
negative self-talk
most times we are our own worst enemy. there have so many time where iâve put myself down with extremely hurtful wordsâ words i would never say to someone i loved. if i wouldnât say those awful things to someone i cared about, why should i say them to myself? we need to let go of talking down on ourselves. the more we put ourselves down with hurtful words, the more we let our insecurities take over and eventually consume us.
we have to be kind to ourselves. at the end of each day, we only ever have ourselves. you need to always have your own back! talk to yourself like you would to someone you love! talk to yourself with love.
negative self-talk gives more energy to those who try to hurt us. the more energy we put into hurting ourselves, even more energy will put into those who feel like they have power over us. do you really want someone who puts you down feel like they have so much more power over you? no, right? then, please, use that energy to bring more confidence and power into yourself. the only person who should have power over you, is you. use your own power to bring yourself up, not bring yourself down.
âbut it seems too hard, where do i start?â
applaud yourself for making achievements no matter how big or small! did you make your bed today? then congratulate yourself! did you get a promotion or raise at your job? then tell yourself how proud you are! it doesnât matter what the achievement is, if you accomplished it then you deserve more than a pat on the back from yourself. always take pride in your work, always treat small wins as the biggest win of the day, always tell yourself that you are so proud of who you are becoming and what youâve accomplished.
compliment your appearance, makeup, or outfit! maybe your skinâs been improving, so you should look in the mirror and say âhey, you have really beautiful skin!â or maybe you snapped a pic of the makeup look you just did, then you should say âwow, iâm really talented at doing my makeup! it turned out great!â or maybe you put together an outfit for your day, then you should say, âi made a really great choice in my clothes today! this looks so nice!â
treat yourself with kindness, care, respect, and love. you need to uplift yourself to feel like your best self! literally, just talk to yourself. look in the mirror and have a sweet conversation with yourself and just admire who you see in the reflection.
sometimes we have to fake it til we make it, and honestly? it works! even if you start out and you feel like youâre lying to yourself, still do it. do it until it finally starts to feel real and then keep doing it from that point forward.
feeling embarrassed
we live in a day and age where everything that anyone does is labeled as âcringeâ, and itâs exhausting. now, people feel like they canât be who they are without feeling like theyâre being âcringeâ or without feeling embarrassed for being themselves or taking part in things they enjoy.
you should never feel embarrassed for being who you want to be or for enjoying things that genuinely make you happy. let go of feeling embarrassed! you are allowed to have fun and be happy being yourself. donât ever let anyone make you feel like you canât.
i always like to think, âwell, if someone thinks iâm âcringeâ then they must not know how to have fun with their own life!â because thatâs more than likely the truth! people will feel threatened by those who exude confidence in what they enjoy and who they are and those people will do anything to project their own insecurities onto others. itâs never anything youâre doing thatâs wrong. whatâs wrong is the fact that some people just canât stand seeing others thrive. let yourself be someone that those haters canât stand to see thrive.
iâve said this before, and iâll say it again, be unapologetically yourself.
ἍáĄ. how to let go
letting go just means detaching yourself from the things/people that have held you down. it means to simply stop caring. i know i said âsimplyâ, but of course it isnât all that simple. this is something you have to work towards!
emotional detachment.
when you bring yourself the inability to attach your emotions to something or someone, you practice emotional detachment.
now, in some cases, emotional detachment may not be a good thing, but when youâre practicing or in the process of letting go itâs best to emotionally detach yourself from that thing or person.
acknowledge and reflect on your emotions! what do these things or people that you want to let go of make you feel? sadness? anger? frustration? grab a journal and write down all that youâre feeling. acknowledging and being aware that there are things/people who are making you feel a negative emotion is a great first step to emotional detachment. youâre being made aware of your feelings, thoughts, and emotions that are a result of the things/people you want to let go ofâ and thatâs a good thing! it allows you to see how youâre still attached and helps you think âwell, i donât want to feel this way anymoreâ and will begin the next thought process of how you will start letting go of those particular feelings.
set boundaries! now that youâre aware of how these things/people make you feel, you can start setting boundaries for yourself. with people, like i mentioned earlier, you can create distance or even block them. of course, you can always try to set a boundary with that person, but remember: if they cross your boundary and continue to cross it, let them go. you put these boundaries in place and whoever it is that you are setting boundaries with needs to respect them just as they would want you to respect any of theirs. when it comes to setting personal boundaries for things like the ones i mentioned above, itâs the same idea of cutting off what makes you act on that negative self-talk or gives you that feeling of embarrassment. blocking hateful people on social media, unfollowing accounts that donât make you feel good about yourself, and/or taking a break from social media and making more time for yourself in the real world.
focus on self care & yourself! after youâve set some boundaries, whether it was with yourself or with others, start putting in more time focused on you. focus on things and people that genuinely make you happy, consume content that makes you feel good whether in general or makes you feel good about yourself, and practice self care! as i said in the beginning, you are always your number one priority. your happiness, your peace, and you overall should always come first in your own life.
ἍáĄ. final notes
this is âthe art of letting goâ and art is always something you have to practice so that you get better at it! take your time and be patient with yourself. letting go isnât an uphill battle, thereâs going to a lot of ups and downs and feelings of uncertainty or even anxiety and fear, but i know you can do it! i know there isnât a single thing that you canât accomplish for yourself! you are capable of change and you are more than capable of becoming a a better version of yourself for yourself.
with lots of love, juno đˇ
With the new year approaching, thereâs a buzz in the air. Itâs the perfect time to reflect on where weâve been and where weâre heading. This year doesnât have to look like the last one. If youâre planning a glow-up, stepping into a new mindset, or just becoming the person youâve always wanted to be, hereâs a method that can genuinely change the game: your YouTube feed.
Letâs be real, YouTube isnât just entertainment. Itâs also one of the most powerful platforms for self-improvement and learning. But if your feed is filled with videos that no longer serve your goals, itâs time to take charge and reset.
First things first, go through your subscriptions and be brutally honest with yourself. Ask, âHow often do I watch content from this channel? Does this align with who Iâm becoming?â
Donât worry about missing out. This isnât about cutting off enjoymentâitâs about making space for growth.
Personal Example: I used to be subscribed to a lot of gaming channels because they were my go-to for entertainment. But now? Iâm focusing on building my best self, so I said goodbye.
If youâre ready to go extreme (and trust me, this works wonders), delete your YouTube watch history. This is your ultimate clean slate.
Hereâs how: Go to your YouTube settings, click âManage All Activity,â and clear your watch history.
Why this works: YouTubeâs algorithm will stop showing you videos based on your past habits. This means no more random recommendations that pull you back into old habits.
Pro Tip: Pair this with your new subscriptions to train the algorithm into showing you content that inspires and uplifts.
This is the fun part. Fill your feed with creators who embody the energy you want to bring into the new year. Look for channels that motivate you, teach you, and align with your goals for 2025.
Being a femi girl, I will recommend some channels that are personally helping me upgrade myself:
Tam Kaur âš link
Alonna Elaine âš link
Bahja Abdi âš link
Adama Lorna âš link
Maya Galore âš link
Jillz Guerin âš link
Kisha Alejandra âš link
Thewizardliz âš link
Estelle Richter âš link
Simonesquared âš link
How to Find More: Search for videos with keywords like âlevel up,â âself-improvement,â âbecoming her,â or âglow up in 2025.â Spend time exploring until you find creators who truly resonate with your vision.
Itâs okay to watch fun and lighthearted content too, but be intentional. Ask yourself, âIs this adding value to my life?â If not, consider limiting your time with it.
Create playlists: Dedicate a playlist to motivational and growth-oriented videos. This will be your go-to space when you need a boost.
Schedule your entertainment: Watch for enjoyment, but donât let it consume hours that could be spent learning or creating.
Resetting your YouTube feed might seem like a small change, but trust me, itâs powerful. When you surround yourself with content that aligns with your goals, youâre reinforcing the mindset and habits that will take you there!
So, I wish you the best of luck,
stop ignoring yourself. fix your posture, get a new hair cut, do your nails, take care of your skin, brush your teeth, drink water, eat foods that give you energy. get strong, stop looking sloppy. when you feel good, you do good. invest in yourself.