Shessuchavirgo - Mystique

something you think all women need to learn?

Some people need to learn how to shut the hell up.

The most important lesson I’ve ever learned was how to keep my mouth closed, there are things that do not need to be said to people who you do not know and there is a time and a place to speak about certain controversial topics. One of the things I’ve heard time and time again from my friends is that they’ll go out on dates with men, begin speaking about taboo topics and things that absolutely do not need to be spoken about with strangers, and end up being completely shocked when the things that they said end up backfiring and making them seem like fools or the men they were trying to impress end up becoming irritated instead. I’m all for finding out the basics and then moving on, I’m not interested in wasting my time arguing with someone who’s basically a stranger to me and the best part about going out on a first date is that I can decline a second if I disagree with them. I’m too old and too tired to argue with men who aren’t going to budge from their beliefs and I’m not going to budge from what I believe in so I keep my mouth shut, inform them that I’m not interested in carrying on with them, and then I move on. I’m not interested in tiring myself out, I’m not interested in proving a point, and I’m not interested in fighting with a man who could potentially go out and talk to his colleagues or his friends and ruin the reputation I’ve made for myself or tarnish my name, I’m not interested in any of that and so I keep most things to myself. I’m also going to say that I’ve got a few hot takes that I believe in with my life and absolutely NOTHING that someone that I don’t know had to say to me regarding those beliefs would matter, I’d just double down and let them waste their time.

You’re not always going to be the victim and clinging to victimhood is annoying.

I have this acquaintance, Ruby, who’s been on what seems like 350 first dates. She’s been on date after date with men from each religion and ethnicity and she’s managed to strike out on each and every one of them. There’s always been a little voice at the back of my mind telling me to not give her the chance to go out with anyone I know and she’s asked me to set her up multiple times and I’ve said no each and every time she’s asked me to just because Ruby ALWAYS has to play the victim. In every relationship she’s been in, she has to be the victim even when she’s not, she does to great length to constantly paint herself in a positive and innocent light even when it’s not necessary at all and shows are for what she is, she’s an extremely manipulative person and men don’t trust her. She’s the common denominator in all of her failed relationships and friendships, she knows it, the world knows it, and the fact that she’s 27 and unable to admit any sort of wrongdoing makes her look absolutely terrible. It’s not cute to refuse to take accountability when you’re in the wrong, especially when you’re an adult, no one wants to be friends with someone who always has to be the victim and no one wants to date a perpetual victim. The best thing you can do for yourself is grow up, learn how to own up to your mistakes and apologise when necessary, and always keep it moving. There’s no need to regress or stand your ground when you’re wrong, it’ll make you look like an idiot in the long run and it can be much more admirable to own up to shit and apologise.

You can’t do your worst but expect the best outcome.

There are some people who are able to slack off in life and still have all of the best things in life end up on their plates but you aren’t one of these people. The people who do get the best in life without much effort or talent usually have people in the background who prop them up and wait around as a fall back plan, they usually have money, and they usually have connections. If you don’t have these things then you can’t sit around and assume that you’re going to have all that you want without ever having to lift a finger. There’s no such thing as levelling up without hard work and it’s so tiring to hear from women who think that they can do the bare minimum but still get the most, you’re only holding yourself back with a mindset like that and people aren’t going to go out of their way to help you because they’re going to view you as someone who’s lazy and who doesn’t believe in hard work or they’re going to assume that you’ll be good on your own. This really applies to everything in life, I went to Uni with a girl who came from a disadvantaged background but who thought that she could live the same life as our super privileged peers just because she spent most of her time in close proximity to them and she was absolutely shocked when she started to fail and be forgotten, she was shocked that they wouldn’t allow her access to their private tutors and resources, and she was shocked when they basically bid her farewell and told her that she’d be able to sort shit out on her own. I didn’t respect her, her professors and tutors didn’t like her because she didn’t try, and she was genuinely delusional about her place in this world and the fact that she wasn’t at the same status level as her peers. Sometimes luck will give you the privilege of slacking off for a while and still winning but that luck always ends up running out pretty quickly.

Ligeia.

Occupation: looking sexy & perfect 24/7

I cannot stress this enough- Build a routine. Build Habits. Wake up every day and get used to being productive, one day at a time. Do this for long enough and eventually you’ll be at your goal without even realising it. 

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I stretch anywhere a total of 45 minutes to 2.5 hours throughout the day, averaging closer to 2 hours each day. I stretch while chopping for dinner. I stretch after meditation. I stretch before leaving the house and after coming back home from riding my bike. I stretch while folding clothes low to the ground. I stretch at night to good music. I didn’t start actively stretching this way until 3 years ago and if I knew in my 20s and 30s what I know now, I would have started then. Stretching is the most important part of my practice, right behind nature/warm sun. Stretching helps the body release old narratives and receive new more updated ones. We reprogram our minds when we bring more lubrication to our bodies through releasing or softening the contractions in our tissues, ligaments, and joints. Because the perceptions, beliefs, expectations, conditionings and programmings locked into our folds greatly influence the quality of our reality.

The female body is mainly absorptive and receptive—meaning it takes in, sucks in, and receives all manners of information physically, spiritually, and energetically from morning to night. The noisier our bodies are, generally the more contracted and tighter we tend to be, often living in unconscious fight or flight states, even though there is no real threat in sight. But stretching often throughout the day helps to relax calm the body down from its unconscious holding patterns and release the shadowy accumulations we pick up by nature of being female and having a womb, even the accumulations from other timelines. If your womb has been removed, your body still receives energetically/spiritually. That’s because stretching is not just physical, it’s exceptional spiritual hygiene. Too many accumulations makes our bodies dense and loud. The aim is the soften and quiet down the noise living inside. When your body becomes less noisy, you may notice that you give better eye contact and have more of a relaxed presence in the world. If you are genetically very flexible, you have to discover other ways shadows show up in your body and life.

Most people live disconnected from what is living in their bodies and offshoot the consequences of their lives onto someone or something else. You must know that no one is coming to save you and consciously use your mind, breath, and body to deliberately create from in your current reality. Even 5-10 minutes of stretching morning and night to chanting tones, harp sounds, or affirmation music makes a vast difference overtime. —India Ame‘ye

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