I’ve Taught Myself To Never Give Anyone The Satisfaction Of Getting A Reaction Out Of Me, No Matter

if no one else gets me I know gonegirl1996 gets me

Essentialism, Greg McKeown

Be highly selective. Don’t attend meetings when you have nothing to contribute, don’t read newsletters if you already know or if it doesn’t really matter to you. Stop moving an inch forward in a million different directions and start gaining momentum in getting one major thing done.

Pursue less but better in a disciplined way

Warren Buffet owes 90% of his wealth to just 10 investments

On trade offs: don’t ask ‘what do I want to give up?’ ask ‘what do I want to go big on?’

Less, but better : if trying to start a journaling habit, start by always writing less than you want to. Usually, on the first day, you’ll write many pages, and then you’ll quickly start to dreading having to write so much. Until you’ve made journaling a habit, write very little.

Your strategy can’t be “pretty clear”. Anyone who wears glasses knows there is a difference between “pretty clear” and “really clear”.

Learn the art of the slow yes and the quick no

Beware the sunk cost bias: continuing something we would otherwise move on from, simply because we have already invested time or money in it. It’s a vicious cycle

To attain knowledge, add things everyday. To attain wisdom, subtract things everyday. - Lao Tzu

Cues are essential in making routines smoother: if you charge your phone each night and you’d like to start journaling, put your journal right by your charger

Tackle your routines one by one: to get big results, we must start small

Eat mindfully. Live in the moment

Check in often to ensure meaningful progress

Let your man cook for you sometime and just relax while you wait for the food. Let him enjoy serving a goddess and let yourself enjoy the act of receiving.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Character Principles that shape who and what you are.  Habit 1: - Be Proactive. Proactive people are agents of change, taking more than initiative to get shit done. It means you are responsible for your own choices, not being a victim or blaming others. 

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind. You’re focused on the end goal always, you’re not out here running in these streets like a lost puppy. All your daily actions are based on where you want to be with a clear purpose in mind. 

Habit 3: Putting First Things First. Successful people do the most difficult tasks at the beginning of the day. Why? Because that’s how you get shit done. Organising your day will keep you focused. 

Habit 4: Think Win-Win. It’s an abundance mindset, a frame of mind.  Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood. When you listen with the intent to understand, rather than the intent to reply, true communication can begin.  Habit 6: Synergize. It’s solving problems, seizing opportunities, and working out differences. Key to any successful relationship, it’s a complimentary partnership, it’s teamwork. 

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw. This is about consistently renewing ourselves in the four areas of life: physical, social/emotional, mental and spiritual. 

Wing Shya

I cannot stress this enough- Build a routine. Build Habits. Wake up every day and get used to being productive, one day at a time. Do this for long enough and eventually you’ll be at your goal without even realising it. 

The Four Agreements

Be impeccable with your word.

Don’t take anything personal.

Don’t make assumptions.

Always do your best.

Learn to detach, from people that are no longer serving you, from past experiences that have no direct bearing in your present, from your comfort zone that is keeping you stuck in the same complacent habits. Unwavering attachment brings with it stagnation, pain, resentment. Learn to let go, to start new chapters, to see life from a different lense with endless possibilities, to see the beauty and thrill in the new things, experiences, and people that are yet to come into your life.