If You Aren’t Doing It Authentically + From Your Heart, Why Do It At All?

no matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and consclentiously,

unknown friends will come and seek you

Staying consistent even when it’s not immediately rewarding is where the shift happens.

i love you shy women. i love you melancholy women. i love you aging women. i love you perverse women. i love you romantic women. i love you strange women.

Every woman needs a simple day dress. Something easy to throw on and wear out, flattering and feminine, not too long or too short, and preferably form-fitting. I have a cream Ted Baker midi dress that I love; it flatters my body, I’m constantly getting compliments on it, and it fits my vibe perfectly.

I wear my dress with gold jewelry, a little pair of gold Steve Madden kitten sandals, put on some soft bronzed makeup, run my curling iron through my hair, and I’m ready to go. Looking good isn’t hard; you just have to invest your time well and be ready and willing to put yourself together before you leave your home.

Say it with me: I owe it to myself to see how good it can get.

Things you swear by?

Faux blowouts using my 1.5” T3 curling iron.

A very soft hand on the makeup and lashes.

Clean perfume, nothing cheap or overpowering.

Feminine outfits, I go out of my way to look nice.

High quality, but relatively simple, accessories

Iconic image of Princess Diana on a yacht in Portofino, Italy, in August 1997.

Sunni Gaines by Raoul Alejandre

Things you look for in men?

Put together (usually subtle designer), good haircuts and neat nails, expensive aesthetic dental and vision care, a high quality/rigorous educational background, a pricey hobby or two, a network of personal and professional connections that would boggle the mind of an average person, a good family name (no matter how small), experience traveling, good manners and a mild temperament, a set career path with a reasonable backup plan, little to no debt, and good mental health.