Whenever I See Someone Saying They “wish They Were A System,” I Don’t Think: “Oh How DARE They

Reblog this post if you love asks about your thoughtforms (or if any of your thoughtforms are happy to answer asks directly)! This includes soulbonds, daemons, tulpas, willomates, etc.

proxy median system host culture Imposter Syndrome Blast 1000. because of the curses (being in the front forever and the others have to talk through you and sometimes it just. fucking feels like roleplaying because it doesnt really feel like anyone else is in front With me but i know theyre Somewhere There). you understand -💤

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For those that want to public gear but are to scared to start

If you're area is safe do so at all, I would recommend going to the mall and hanging out in stores like hot topic! One of the only times I've worn ears in public I was at the mall and I got so many compliments there, easy stress-free environment that lets you start getting used to public gear and have a less likely chance of getting weird looks or anything like that, I cant guarantee you wont get that but at least from my experience it was very pleasant, did get stared down from a random old dude tho- that was near the food court though so not surprised 😭

Its been ages before I have had to speak up about someone elses harmful actions since that system hottake blog.

But I am actually done just sitting around doing nothing when anti endos like this person are encouraging bullying towards endogenic systems

This doesn’t make me any less anti endo, nor does it mean that we support endogenic systems, in fact, we personally don’t believe that it’s even possible to be endogenic and that most of them are either:

- misguided by those who prey on minors (like sophie),

- have DID but don’t remember their trauma,

- are confusing their symptoms for DID when they probably have a different disorder,

- are experiencing something that no one is able to give a proper name to so they make it sound like a CDD when it’s clearly not,

- or are just straight up insane (ahem, like sophie)

You do not, under any circumstances, bully people, even if they have hurt you or you really really hate them to the core. “Oh but endos are evil, they’re ableist scums of the earth and they constantly hurt us and shit-” YOU DONT STOOP TO THEIR LEVEL.

Wanna know why they absolutely despise us? This is why

When you give radical anti endos a platform to speak, a platform to target endos who are most likely just trying to exist, you get people bullying them. You get people who are attacking the other community and harassing them. When you enable radical anti endos a platform to speak, you are hurting both communities

Anti endos have been fighting for ages to get basic respect from the other side and to just be left alone and not have people roleplay or romanticize the disorder, but radicals literally undo all the hard work by giving pro endos a reason to bully and harass back and invalidate all of us because of a select few, which is also exactly how we treat them when we are being attacked by people like sophieinwonderland or other radical pro endos

I could probably guarantee you that the majority of the system community just wants this useless fighting to stop and for all the bullying, harassment, and ableism to stop. I can guarantee you that most people on BOTH sides are not fully one or the other, and that we fall closer to the middle and have nuanced stances on certain topics. We are not robots, we have complex opinions, and syscourse is no exception.

If you don’t want the other side to interact with you then block them and set your boundaries. Filter out tags you don’t want to see, block people like this person who you know are toxic and hurt people regardless of what their stances are. You are responsible for how you want to interact and contribute to the community. It is your responsibility to be the better person.

And if you see problems within your own community, SPEAK UP ABOUT IT. When you stay silent knowing that you have seen the problems that exist within the community, you are complicit in the bullying and harassment. You are letting radicals dictate the reputation of your community. This goes for both anti and pro endos. Stop staying silent, otherwise nothing will change.

I know this system community can do better. I have seen the good from both sides. We really should stop fighting and actually respect each other and understand that our experiences are different from one another and it doesn’t automatically make their experiences invalid just because they don’t match yours. Who knows, if we can actually get along we would be a lot more empathetic towards each other and maybe, JUST MAYBE, we could stop the actually ableist fuckers and the bullies who are ruining it for everyone. We could actually work together and take down harmful spaces like r/syscringe and r/fakedisordercringe, these harm BOTH COMMUNITIES and are places that ENABLE BULLYING AND FAKECLAIMING.

Nothing gets done when people stay silent, when people stay divided, and when you ignore the problems in your own community that the opposition has constantly been highlighting on for ages. Learn what makes someone radical in their beliefs, learn the difference between what is actually wrong versus what is just an opinion that conflicts with your own beliefs because those two are NOT the same. Learn to stay away from toxic spaces and warn others of these places, like the K9 Cave server on discord or r/syscringe on reddit. Educate yourself, not just on CDDs and how they actually work but also on endogenic experiences and how they affect people who genuinely believe that they are endogenic. You may not personally believe in them, but if you stay educated on these topics then it benefits both communities and you could actually help someone who may have something misunderstood or is unknowingly spreading misinformation about it. You really can’t expect pro endos and endos to do their research about CDDs but then also not listen to their experiences and their ideas on the complexities of plurality. You don’t have to agree with it, but if you refuse to even listen to them then its pretty hypocritical to ask them to listen to you.

I don’t have to accept their experiences as pure fact or scientifically proven, but I can respect it and be empathetic instead of bullying them and understand that in reality, we don’t know everything. I shouldn’t have to risk “looking like a pro endo” or seem like I am siding with them when I am very much anti endo to get this point across:

That bullying someone for having completely different opinions, views, and experiences is wrong, and you cannot justify it.

I’m not here to say that “oh endos are valid” or “oh endos are invalid” that is not my point. My point is that even if you don’t share the same views, opinions and experiences with them, you have no right to bully them.

There is a fuckton that we don’t know. This world is already against all of us in general. The best we can do is work together and have basic respect for each other. Just, basic respect, you don’t even need to interact with the other side, just respect each others boundaries.

Please reblog and share this, both anti and pro endos. And please don’t go harassing this person, don’t give them a reason to target you. This post is incredibly important for both communities especially since the rise of bullying from BOTH sides has caused extreme turmoil for those who end up getting caught in the crossfire.

Wanted to make a positivity post regarding some things that we see fake-claimed based on our experiences.

So shout out to systems who:

Are mostly fictives!

Can sometimes/frequently willingly switch!

Have low amnesia barriers!

Have little to no difference in how alters type/speak!

Aren't entirely sure about being a system!

Are certain in being a system!

Speak aloud more often then internally!

Have/had maladaptive daydreaming!

Split due to hyperfixations!

Have had alters fuse due to trauma!

Openly switch in public!

Split tons of headmates at once!

Have had some sort of communication since childhood!

Don't want to fuse!

Don't have access to their headspace memory!

Have triggers that pull alters OUT of front!

Believe your own experiences! If you feel like you might be plural, you probably are.

Okay so who would want a youtube channel about plurality and systems but like- fun.

Not the usual:

"hurr durr, lookie here singlets i'm weeeeeeird. But look! I can make myself palatable for you while still making myself out to be a circus freak show exhibit! like my video pls pls follow me like my video LIKE MY VIDEO GIVE ME MOOOONNNNNEEEYYY"

or

"This is why if you are a system you should be suffering 24/7 and not ever be happy ever. By me, a system host who is a grade A asshole to my alters and definitely is not the reason why they all hate me and I haven't rEcOvErEd yet"

or

"Look at this I'm a normal neurotypical singlet and I am talking to this WEIRD FUCKING WEIRDO who is WEIRD!!"

or

"THIS PERSON IS A FAKER BECAUSE THEY'RE UNDER 18, USE ON SOCIAL MEDIA, HAVE DYED HAIR AND ARE AUTISTIC!! BULLY THEM OFF THE INTERNET MY LOYAL VIEWERS!!"

But like actual fun content!! Positive and entertaining, with some educational stuff sprinkled in. Plural people want to watch fun videos for them too!! We're think of things like this:

- Fun activities to do with headmates

- reacting to my headmates fanfics of my source

- plural adjacent media recommendations

But also some commentary and help vids

- plural news: a monthly look at the community

- systok and what's wrong with it

- etc.

Bc who doesn't like a bit of gossip ;3

Does anyone have any other ideas??? Oh and also tell us if you like the idea!!

headspace when i accidentally type “my sustem” instead of system

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"I've never met anyone who's so nervous all the time" ← all my headmates to me

Maybe we shouldn't be telling people to end themselves, actually. I don't care if you're pro endo, anti endo, endo neutral, say you're endogenic in origin, willogenic, anything. No one should be telling anyone to end their lives.

Sometimes, I wonder...

Sometimes, I wonder if anyone else in my life is plural, but too scared to tell anyone.

Sometimes, I wonder if anyone else in my life is plural, but they just don't have the language to describe it.

Sometimes, I wonder about my friends' "imaginary friends" who've taken on a life all their own.

Sometimes, I wonder about the folks who think in conversations, who have named each and every one of their emotions, each speaking with its own distinct voice.

Sometimes, I wonder about the people who stay up late at night crying, only to be comforted by a familiar voice from within, telling them not to give up.

Sometimes, I wonder about the beings with elaborate and sprawling internal worlds, where a thousand other beings they've known in their daydreams wait to welcome them home.

Sometimes, I wonder about the headmates, forced back to the subconscious, patiently waiting for their host to figure it all out.

Sometimes, I wish I could tell all of them.

Sometimes, I wish they all knew they weren't alone.

Sometimes, I wish they all knew how freeing it can be to embrace plurality.

Sometimes...

Sometimes, I wish they all knew that the future is plural.

I hope the future is plural...

We hope the future is plural.