What My Finance Mentor, Who Manages A Billion-dollar Portfolio Sent Me This Morning

You will disappoint people you care about when you put yourself first.

Perspectives shifts to make peace with this:

• Disappointment is unavoidable; it’s part of being human.

• Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you care less about others.

• You can’t pour from an empty cup—your well-being matters.

• People who truly care will understand your need for boundaries.

• Disappointment is temporary; resentment from overgiving lasts longer.

• Prioritizing yourself sets an example for others to do the same.

• Your worth isn’t tied to how much you sacrifice for others.

• Saying “no” to others is saying “yes” to yourself.

• You’re responsible for your happiness, not their expectations.

• Growth often feels uncomfortable, but it’s necessary for a fulfilling life.

When it comes to family (as many such cases):

• Family expectations can feel heavier, but you’re still allowed to set boundaries.

• Disappointing them doesn’t mean you don’t love them—it means you’re human.

• Your needs matter, even if they don’t always align with family traditions or values.

• You can explain your choices, but you’re not responsible for their feelings.

• Loving your family doesn’t mean sacrificing yourself.

• Putting yourself first can strengthen relationships by reducing resentment.

• Healthy boundaries lead to healthier family dynamics over time.

• It’s okay to grow in a direction that feels right for you, even if they don’t understand.

• You are not obligated to meet everyone’s expectations—family or not.

• Peace comes from accepting that love & disappointment can coexist.

Sabrina (1954) dir. Billy Wilder

#Tips

another big list?

Start from the top down.

Start with your hair. I wore wigs for years, switched to clip-ins and extensions for convenience, and now my hair is healthy enough to wear on its own. Figure out what you want to do with your hair in terms of style and colour and begin nourishing it so that it looks good and you’re happy with the way you choose to wear it. Wigs are a great option and I know so many women of different races and ages who choose to wear them because it’s convenient and they’re able to do whatever they want without worrying about how their natural hair will react to drastic changes.

Find a skincare routine that suits your needs and run with it. I’ve experimented a lot and finally settled on a routine and it works for me, my face, shoulders, décolletage, and neck look good, and I’m comfortable in my own skin. Finding a routine that works for you and doesn’t break the bank is SO important for the entire process and your skin is your largest organ and a good reflection of your health. The one thing I will say is sunscreen and a good lip balm are a part of every good skincare routine.

Drink more water and either eat or drink your greens. I thought juicing was a joke for the longest time and I didn’t enjoy it at all but I started drinking hella water, juicing, and focusing on small ways to improve my health and I feel better. I drink iron supplements, make sure I’m getting my greens in by drinking juices (still experimenting with this one), make sure to have at least 2.5 litres of water every day, take my supplements, and feel great. Not everyone needs supplements and a bunch of extras but they can be great for the women that do have deficiencies and I love my selection.

Get to the gym. I do pilates 6 days weekly, go to barre on Sundays, walk 10,000 steps daily, keep up with my cardio, and do some light lifting to stay in shape and I actually look much better than I ever have. Making sure to move your body is an essential part of success and surgery can’t and won’t fix everything; you need to put the work in to see real results and going to the gym can be the most satisfying experience. I’ve been getting more into swimming and trying to swim early mornings and embracing water aerobics and fun classes, I’ve been having the time of my life keeping my body toned, and my stamina has majorly improved.

Find a hair removal routine that works for you and stick with it. I favoured epilation for the longest time but my sister in law convinced me to try the woman she goes to for laser so I’m going to switch to that. Having smooth skin, no hair, and a good canvas for whatever you’re choosing to do with your body is so important and keeping your body moisturised and free of ingrown hairs and bumps is so satisfying. I personally use exfoliate and use oil whilst my skin is still wet from the shower and then use lotion to make sure my skin is deeply moisturised and I love the sheen it gives my skin.

Do not start down the surgery path unless you know how to say no to yourself. It’s extremely important that you don’t start fucking around with fillers, botox, implants, and the entire world of surgery unless you know when to stop and when to tell yourself no. One of the saddest things in the world is seeing women who’ve gone too far and have started looking for cheap surgery in order to keep going or somehow get their old look back. Don’t start with surgery if you can’t afford quality surgeons, don’t get procedures you don’t need just to fit in, don’t go too far, and listen to doctors when the tell you that they don’t think that you need something.

Maybe this is just me but maybe it’s not. I think that everyone looks good with a little bit of colour but the key is only going for what’s natural for the skin tone you already have. I only tan a little bit, I never go too dark, I try not to let myself get patchy, and I don’t go for any unnatural forms of self tan. I call the colour I go for ‘summertime glow’ and I love it because it’s natural and not at all orange, perfectly bronze, and it suits me whilst still looking like my natural skin colour. The goal is beachy vacation, not whole different race. I also think that self tanning is great for covering up scars and it gives you a little bit of warmth when the weather turns dreary.

Figure out what works for your nails and stick with it. Literally every woman I work with has a French tip, I see how a little tip has suited my sisters, and I found that a little acrylic overlay and gel polish work wonders for me. I’ve done the same nail combo ever since I moved to Texas and I love the way it looks, it gets me the MOST compliments from men, and it’s simple enough to match every outfit. I talk about French tips constantly and how they’ve never done me wrong so I’ll leave off here but having a go to nail combo for your mani-pedi will take so much stress out of your daily routine and help your o look polished even when you’re down.

Experiment with perfumes, soaps, and scents but DO NOT overdo it. Experimenting with scents, figuring out what suits you, trying out custom blends, and finding ways to enjoy perfume will bring joy to your life. I love love love perfume and experimenting with different scents and I think that the perfumes and scent blends I choose to wear have levelled up my look exponentially. You don’t have to spend a million dollars on designer perfumes when you can work with soaps, scrubs, and affordable choices, there are so many indie perfume makers who have great blends, and it’s fun to start with samples and work from there so that you can figure out what you like without breaking the bank or having to do lots of blind buys.

Makeup and accessories are going to go into one category because I talk about both far too often but I’m going to tell you this: less is more when you don’t know what you’re doing. If you don’t know how to apply makeup then maybe starting off with a full face, heavy contour and conceal, and a complicated eye isn’t the way to go. Start slow, watch tutorials, take the time to learn what you’re doing, and don’t spend millions on high quality makeup before you know what you’re doing and know what you like. It’s the same with choosing your accessories; don’t buy a million different bracelets and necklaces before you know what you’re doing or you know what your personal style is and don’t chase after aesthetics and ideals that don’t fit you and waste money on trends that you actually hate.

All things I’ve said before.

Best mineral rich waters 💧

💎 Best Overall (High Minerals + Electrolytes)

Gerolsteiner – Highest mineral content, rich in magnesium, calcium, and bicarbonate, great for hydration & bone health.

💧 Best Still Spring Waters (Purity + Alkalinity)

Mountain Valley Water – Naturally alkaline (pH 8.2), high in minerals, glass-bottled to avoid plastic contamination.

Eternal Water – Naturally alkaline (pH 7.8 – 8.2), electrolyte rich, sourced from underground springs for clean hydration.

Voss (Norway) – Low mineral content but ultra-pure with a crisp taste, great for clean hydration.

🪨 Best for Electrolyte Balance & Cellular Hydration

San Pellegrino – Naturally carbonated, high in sulfates, which support digestion.

Icelandic Glacial – Super alkaline (pH 8.4) with a smooth taste and low mineral content.

🚀 Best for Deep Cellular Hydration & Detox

Sole Water (Himalayan Salt + Water) – If you want the ultimate DIY mineral-packed hydration, mix Himalayan salt with spring water to replenish electrolytes!

Half the game is getting yourself out of environments that no longer serve you & that don’t align with the life you want

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you have got to learn how to style your hair and wigs.

I’ve been styling and making wigs, doing hair, and enjoying playing cosmetologist since I was young and I’ve found that it’s saved me so much money and gotten me so much clout within my friend groups. I’m known as the one who can do hair and I take a lot of pride in it, it’s important to know how to do something and know how to do it well and it’s important to take a lot of pride in your work. I have specialised hair, I’m not always able to find a stylist who I trust and I don’t mess around when it comes to my hair and making sure that it looks good, it can be incredibly annoying to have a mishap and have to figure out what to do last minute and it can be a nightmare to take care of wigs and buy them, below are videos on how to make your own wigs, style your wigs, dye your wigs, install your wigs, and care for your wigs so that you have hairstyles that last.

here’s the list.

beginner braid pattern for a wig install.

beginner middle part braid down tutorial.

arrogant tae swoop tutorial part one.

arrogant tae swoop tutorial part two.

full frontal install with detailed plucking.

lace frontal and closure plucking masterclass.

how to bleach, pluck, and customise a closure.

how to install an HD lace frontal for beginners.

how to tint your lace to the correct colour.

how to cut and style a blunt cut bob.

how to do a bald cap installation.

how to install a lace frontal perfectly.

how to make a closure look like a frontal.

how to create wispy bangs.

how to use a hot comb correctly.

how to dye your wig blonde.

how to pluck da fuck out of a hairline.

how to tweeze a perfect middle part.

how to do a 360 lace install with waterproof glue.

how to highlight your wig easily.

how to highlight like a pro.

beginner friendly detailed highlighting.

how to highlight with a highlighting cap.

how to dye a wig jet black.

how to dye a wig red/burgundy.

how to dye a 360 lace wig bronze.

how to dye a wig honey blonde.

how to dye a wig ash blonde.

how to dye a wig half and half.

how to dye a wig chestnut brown.

how to do bombshell curls on a wig.

how to cut layers in a wig.

how to install a frontal wig and cut layers.

how to do a wolf cut on a wig.

how to do curtain bangs with layers on a wig.

how to do voluminous layers on a wig.

how to do a roller set on a wig.

how to do a flexirod set on a wig.

how to do a middle part flexirod set on a wig.

what you need in a wig kit.

the best wig glue.

how to make a synthetic wig look natural.

how to straighten a part.

how to straighten a wig with no frizz.

how to fix a hole in your wig lace.

how to straighten a blunt cut bob.

how to make a closure wig.

how to make a flat closure wig.

how to make a closure wig using a sewing machine.

how to make a u-part wig.

how to install a u-part wig.

how to make a u-part wig for beginners.

how to make a natural part u-part wig.

how to do a flawless u-part wig install.

how to install a versatile u-part wig.

how to turn a closure wig into a u-part wig.

how to make a synthetic wig look natural.

how to customise a synthetic wig.

how to install clip-ins like a pro.

how to flawlessly blend clip-ins.

how to install clip-ins on relaxed hair.

how to install clip-ins on pressed hair.

how to install tape-in extensions.

how to blend clip-ins with relaxed hair.

how to do a frontal ponytail.

how to do a frontal high ponytail.

how to do a frontal low ponytail.

how to install a 90’s style wig. 

how to install a half up, half down swoop wig.

how to do a simple quick weave.

how to do a diy versatile quick weave.

how to do a detailed middle part quick weave.

how to do a natural quick weave with leave out.

how to do a versatile sew in with no closure.

how to do a sew in with a closure.

how to do a flawless 5x5 closure sew in.

how to do a beginner friendly closure sew in.

how to do a sew in with minimal leave out.

how to do your own natural looking sew in.

how to clean and wash your lace front wigs.

how to wash your hair underneath your wigs/sew ins.

I’ve also thought of this a lot and I can finally say that I truly believe that while the quality of the hair and the products you use are definitely extremely important, so is the technique you use. You could spend a full $1k on a wig but it wouldn’t look good unless you knew how to pluck and install it, there are plenty of really hot affordable synthetic wigs and synthetic/human hair blend wigs currently on the market, there are ways to install wigs that are simple but still end up making you look like you’re on fire, and there are wigs that are on the more expensive end that just won’t look good if you don’t know how to install them. Knowing how to do your own hair is truly an S-Tier skill, some salons and stylists are so expensive these days that it’s just not feasible to go in every week to have your hair done and it’s great to be able to do your hair whenever you want to and make it look good, you’ll end up saving so much money and exchanging only time, you can learn how to do your own styles, and you can even take all the skills you’ve learned and make a profit from them.

Ligeia.