Imagine Your Usually Softspoken And Level-headed F/o Peacocking For You, Suddenly Padding Their Speech

I had an epiphany

Reminder to myself and all self shippers

Don’t feel forced to stick to the canon.

If you want to take into account just one part of your f/o’s story, do it. If you don’t want them to be dead, keep them alive. If they are married/engaged/whatever, make them yours.

Even if they are a villain who want to destroy or dominate the world, they love you. Even if they are a king/queen and you a simple civilian or servant, you’re their queen/king. Even if they’re an evil creature, they’ll protect you.

Don’t feel unworthy of their love and adoration just because of the canon.

If you want to mix different stories and universes, you can. This is all about your imagination. Do whatever you want. Create your own universe.

Hitachi 1980

Hey! Do you have any tips on how to cope with the loneliness that comes from not being actually able to hold your partner? ;-;

hey there! this is always a tough one and a LOT of people struggle with it in terms of these sorts of relationships. it was really tough for me in the earlier stages of my relationship, too.

it’s different for everyone, of course, but there’s multiple things you can do to bridge the physical gap. “proxy items” are really helpful, i find, and can be almost anything you feel fits. some people have the stereotypical body pillow or plush of their f/o, but others simply associate a plain pillow or soft object with the f/o and hug that. it’s always a good idea to have something soft you can hug, and if you consistently think of this object as some aspect of the f/o or just them while cuddling, it can really help in creating an association and making it feel as though they’re with you.

it’s possible to create that association with other things, too. i wrap myself in a specific blanket that reminds me of my partner if i need a hug, and holding something small to fiddle with like the charm of a bracelet if i’m out and about works for holding hands. ultimately the idea is simply to think of the physical contact you want in conjunction with a specific situation or object until those things get associated in your head and bring the same comfort.

imagination helps, too! just relaxing for a bit and visualizing these things can feel pretty good, especially if you have a vivid imagination. there are techniques for improving your visualizations you can find all around the internet, and they’re great for creating an experience that’s strong, even if it’s not physical.

this should absolutely be taken with a grain of salt, as well, but some people report that lucid dreaming helps with this. in a lucid dream, you’re aware you are dreaming; with practice in cultivating this awareness you can consciously shape the plotline of your dreams and participate in them actively. it’s not for everyone, and it can be quite a process to master it enough to control your dreams. there are multiple techniques of varying ease concerning it, some of which involve attempting to force sleep paralysis (for the record, i wanted to mention this method specifically to say it’s potentially extremely distressing and to avoid it). there are a lot of resources on that, too, if you want to look into it - lucid dreaming is just fun in general, anyway, if it’s a good fit for you!

there are more things than this, of course, but those are what come to mind immediately for me!

-mod moon

i loves stars

Instead of making fun of people who do things at an older age that are normally done younger ( like getting their diploma or GED, learning to drive, even learning to read ) how about you:

don’t

Tom Tom Club - Genius of Love (1981).

I wish more people would write self insert fanfic, it’s so fun and easy to read and I hate the stigma around it.