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I've discovered that I might be fictionhearted with a species of self-aware alien technology. I knew them since childhood, but for many months they come often to me in my dreams. I would enter their holographic dimension, and even shift as one of them in these dreams. As I am aware that I'm already otherhearted with faeries, they could share this similar energy; they're both entities whom are concerned with Earth's wellbeing. Am I on the right path of idea or just imagining this?

i have something to say 

How can i tell the difference between fictionhearted or synpath? idk which one i am...

fictionhearted: I want to BE that.

Synpath: I want to HUG that.

Fictionhearted: that’s who I am in my heart, that’s what I should be. #me

Synpath: I feel connected to that on an emotional level. I feel a strong sense of empathy for that. #same

Fictionhearted: Someone with a strong emotional or spiritual connection to any fictional character or fictional species, without believing that they are that character or species.

Synpath: Any creature, or fictional character that a person strongly identifies with or feels an empathic bond with.

-hearted is something you feel in your heart like you *should* be.

a synpath is something that you feel a connection with or empathy for, like you’re the same.

hey! it’s been a while since i’ve written any resource posts, and this is a little more of a positivity post than a resource, but hopefully it will be helpful.

i’ve seen a lot of selfshippers/fictos talking about why and when these practices are acceptable and when they “cross the line.” in my opinion, i think some of these statements can create an uncomfortable or even implicitly hostile environment for certain mentally ill selfshippers and fictos, as well as reinforce ideas the community is trying to fight. these statements, even given various nuances, boil down to a few core ideas a number of people in the community seem to hold. the idea seems to be that “selfship is OK because it is just for fun/a coping mechanism, and selfshippers can still date in real life. because selfship is just for fun/a coping mechanism, taking it too seriously inherently means a loss of touch with reality, which is a personal fault.”

my greatest concern with this has been that it is potentially rather dismissive of the feelings of mentally ill selfshippers who experience psychosis. such people DO have a loss of touch with reality, through no fault of their own - and for many, this is something they cannot “fix,” even with medication or therapy. if one’s psychosis influences them to believe in or experience something that isn’t objectively real, but this belief or experience does not cause them distress or even improves their quality of life, it is not the responsibility of individuals without the condition to denigrate their experiences or urge them to “fix” their psychosis. in a community which is vocally supportive of mentally ill people, it is the responsibility of the members of that community to support the experiences of all mentally ill people. selfshippers and fictos with psychotic conditions are just as valid in their feelings as any of the rest of us, even if their conditions cause them to experience their f/os in a way we do not.

in addition, it isn’t fair to assert that selfship is okay because it’s “just” a coping mechanism, “just” for fun, or because all fictos/selfshippers prefer (and will abandon the practice for) a “real partner.” if it improves one’s quality of life and harms no one, there is no need for further justification, regardless of whether or not it fits with what outsiders consider “normal.” selfship (and fictosexuality) is not only okay when it’s easy to justify to outsiders. appealing to standards of “normalcy” only creates acceptable targets - “we are okay because we are normal, but those people who disagree with us are not normal, and therefore not okay.” that, ironically enough, is the exact logic on which “cringe culture” operates. you do not have to be “normal” to be worthy of respect and understanding, ever.

please be open to respecting experiences you may not understand, particularly for those whose experiences are already highly stigmatized. to all the “weird” selfshippers and fictos - those of you with psychosis, those of you who take it “too seriously,” those of you who never want a real life partner - you are just fine the way you are, and you don’t need to change for anyone. as long as you’re happy and your selfships/ficto relationships make you happy, you have nothing to worry about and no one here to answer to. live your life according to your own needs and standards.

Do you ever read a piece of your own writing and just go oh damn

Someone: you can’t self ship because it’s cringy and weird

Me:

RIP Jonathan Demme

Thank you for the best live concert film of all time among many other beautiful works of art.

Stop Making Sense (1984)

You all really need to learn to accept that the fact that you don't like someone or something doesn't mean it's secretly evil somehow.

can you guys reblog this and tag what job you have in your fantasy life? I’m a singer + actress in mine lol

“Don’t wait for it. Create a world, your world. Alone. Stand alone. Create. And then the love will come to you, then it comes to you.”

—    Anaïs Nin