Intj And Travel

This is so true

How do you know if an INTJ likes you?

I wrote something about it in a post in my main blog some time ago, here’s the link if you want to look at it. However, as it is much of an embarrassment for me, I will try to write a better one. Seriously, you don’t need to look at the link.

INTJs are private by nature, so the way we show we like a person may not always be evident. Some ways to tell if an INTJ likes you would be:

A change in attitude. And by that I mean something that it won’t go unnoticed because the INTJ suddenly seems nicer, more willing to help and smiles much more. This is different from the way I’d help a person I don’t like, for example for the person I like I’d take so much more time to make sure they understand what they needed me to explain, ask if they need extra help, and try to understand their point of view so my explanations will adjust to their way of thinking. That also applies to emotional help: one of the few occasions in which I’d ask you if you are okay is when I truly care. That leads us to the next point.

Stalkerish mood. You might not see it, but deep inside the INTJ is observing, analyzing and memorizing everything they learn about you. This helps them find patterns in the way you think, so it is easier to predict how you will react, what will make you happy, and almost everything we consider valuable to get closer to you. This is usually noticeable if you ask their friends: the INTJ pays close attention when they mention you, and would like to know every detail when with other people they wouldn’t care. So for example, it shouldn’t be a surprise that the INTJ knows much more about you than what you have told them: either they have figured it out by observing, or based on what other people they have come to this conclusion.

Challenges you. This includes asking for your opinion, to support it with facts, and in general trying to see where you can reach. Before liking someone we decide if it’s worth the effort. It may sound arrogant, but the truth is that we don’t want to pursue something that won’t work. It has nothing to do with you, but rather with our sometimes impossible to meet standars. What I mean with that is that once this phase is over, they will ask for your opinion, observe your work or something like that and point out some flaws, but not because they don’t like you or anything, but because we would like the people we like to improve and grow, so we offer what we believe is constructive feedback. It sure looks like we don’t like you, but I swear we become even more cynical when we like someone.

Stands up for you. Due to what I said in the previous point, if they have high regard for you, they will defend you against anybody: somebody we like and trust will have our constant support.

Goes out of their way to talk to you. I don’t spend time with people I don’t like if I can avoid it (and that’s probably 99% of the time), so if your INTJ is making the effort of finding time to talk to you, ESPECIALLY if it takes away time for doing activities that are important to them, like homework, housework, or any other they might be focused in, they care. A lot.

Shows off their intelligence, wit and sarcasm. It depends on the person we like, but we try to show how intelligent, witty or thoughtful we can be. For example, if I like an ISTP I will try to sound more witty than if I like an ENTJ, in this case I will try to show off my intelligence more. So if you see that your INTJ starts mirroring your behaviour to try to adjust to what you might like, chances are that for once we have abandoned all reason and decided it is worth all the effort.

Hope these are useful, thanks for asking!-Laura

Should I leave this beauty behind?

I just hope they do Sansa's storyline justice next season...because this girl belongs in winterfell. .with her family.. with Jon... with Bran...and with Arya.. They need to get together

Are we not going to talk about how easily/coldly Sansa realized and accepted the fact that Rickon is going to die?

Dating Guide for your INTJ Part 1

1. A place where they can hold puppy dogs or kittens…OR BOTH. Also where they don’t need to feel like they have to talk to you as a social obligation. Their joy in playing with puppies will bring you joy later. 2. A book store that carries antique and leather bound books. Be prepared to follow them around while they inspect everything.  3. Take them to a screening of an old Indie Film related around one of their many varied interests.  4. Unleash them at a Museum.  5. Go to a hipster coffee shop, sit in a corner and quietly judge all the people with your INTJ. 6. Take your coffee to a park, sit on a bench and quietly judge all the people walking by.  7. Go to antique stores.  8. Take them to a lecture based on their area of study or an area of interest.  9. Teach them a new hobby that you’re really into. * 10. Sit next to them and watch really dumb tv. Judge all the reality tv stars together.  11. Buy them a cheap disposable camera. Take them on a hike. Let them take pictures of everything. Develop the film.  12. Take them on a road trip with stops along the way that deal with the historical significance of the area you are in. Bonus points if you read ahead and can teach* your INTJ new things. *INTJ’s become easily frustrated by people who are not good teachers, if you are not a good teacher do not try and teach your INTJ.

Reblog with other ideas. :)

Intj and travel

I am now questioning my self proclaimed love for travelling. I am on a business-ish trip and all I want to do is stay holed up in my hotel room.

“In the end, fate and destiny do not just happen out of coincidence. They are products of earnest, simple choices, that make up miraculous moments. Being resolute, making decisions without hesitation, that is what makes timing. He wanted her more than I did, and I should have been more courageous. It was not the traffic light’s fault. It was not timing. It was my many hesitations.”

How to Develop the Functions

Here are some tips to strengthening each of the eight functions. I would suggest strengthening the weaker functions in your stack primarily, and put less focus in on your shadow functions. If you are in a loop, this can be used to develop your auxiliary function. You can also use it to generally develop your tertiary and especially inferior functions if these are weak. Having a developed inferior function can also help prevent you from falling into “the grip”, so it’s good to try to have a good control over all of your functions. 

Extroverted Feeling (Fe): Find a close friend and share how you’re feeling with them. Journal about your feelings and read them over to yourself or someone else. Talk to a therapist if these outlets aren’t enough for you. Reach out a hand to help others out: volunteer, give someone advice, listen to someone talk about their problems. Find groups of people or situations where you can put yourself in the shoes of others so you can develop your empathy skills. Find situations where you are around those you care about. Ask others their opinions on decisions that affect others, and take time before you take action to consider how it will affect the people around you. Ask for affirmation from those closest to you, and remind yourself to give it to others as well. Examine the facial expressions and manners of speaking of those around you and try mimicking them.

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Study an area of morality and ethics that interests you, and consider what your viewpoints on the situation are. Consider why humans as a whole or other people in your life do the things that they do, and how morality as a concept even exists. Consider social justice arguments and find one that you have a strong opinion on. Take time to step back and consider how you are feeling, what values you are exerting, what your likes and dislikes are in a certain situation. Consider yourself as an independent, unique individual with a set of morality outside of society. Journal about your feelings. Think about what is important to you in your life and what motivates you personally.

Extroverted Thinking (Te): Try to develop your ability to be assertive: ask for that raise, propose something ambitious, etc. Formulate your ideas into a concrete plan and share them with someone around you. Use data and facts to back up your assertions. Plan an event or other project and focus on the whole over the details. Remember that external organization and structure is necessary in a society, and try to incorporate your skills and plans into one around you. Develop your aura of confidence and consider how others view you in a professional light. Take charge of a project and lead with self-assurance.

Introverted Thinking (Ti): Find some word game, puzzle, riddle, etc. that challenges your intellect and causes you to think. Find something that interests you and research it until you fully understand its intricate details. Have an intellectual debate or discussion. Apply yourself to some hobby or area of study and try to develop your internal sense of discipline and focus. Look at projects and consider the weak points and areas of improvement. Take time to draw back and consider things in an objective light, understanding the situation instead of becoming emotionally influenced. Develop your sense of independence, and work on projects that allow you to use your personal skills and get a sense of personal achievement.  

Extroverted Intuition (Ne): Play games or engage in activities that encourage divergent thinking and creativity. Think about some event (general or specific) coming up in the future and imagine all the great things that could happen during it. Surround yourself with people and pieces of art/literature/movies that are creative and exciting. Look at the future as a place of exciting opportunities, not of possible anxieties. Make a bucket list of things you could do in your life that excite you: the crazier, the better. Think about the things that you would want to change in your life. Brainstorm all the possible ways you could do it. Go on a spontaneous adventure with your friends.

Introverted Intuition (Ni): Watch a stranger out in public and try to paint a picture of what type of person they are from the way that they look. Reflect on the underlying themes or symbolism of a book or movie. Look at the overt facts of a situation or how someone is acting and piece them together to try to understand what is actually going on underneath the surface: how they are actually feeling, etc. Take individual pieces of information and concisely bring them together to form one general idea. Project yourself or a situation into the future and try to understand what will most likely come to be. Reflect on why things are the way that they are, even seemingly straightforward things. Follow your gut belief in a situation.

Extroverted Sensing (Se): Find a hobby such as a sport, artistic endeavor, craft, etc. Work with your hands on a project and try to physically understand how something works. Take a walk somewhere in nature or go to a museum and focus on the specific details of the beauty around you. Listen to music and try to pay attention to the individual sounds. Remember to live in the moment and experience life as it is happening around you. Do something spontaneous and crazy with your friends. Take a step back and remember to take things for as they are, and not to overanalyze anything. Think about the things that you want to or need to do this moment and go do some of them.

Introverted Sensing (Si): Take out old photos and try to place yourself in the emotions and experience of when you were there. Go visit a place of old memories or watch a movie you loved as a child. Re-start up an old family tradition. Create some sort of routine in your life to give you a bit of reassurance and organization. Appreciate the simple things in life and seek the unassuming nature of contentment. Reflect on the lessons you have learned in a situation once it has passed. Realize that not all mistakes need to be made, and that sometimes it is better to stick with what is safe.

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