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How do you know if an INTJ likes you?

I wrote something about it in a post in my main blog some time ago, here’s the link if you want to look at it. However, as it is much of an embarrassment for me, I will try to write a better one. Seriously, you don’t need to look at the link.

INTJs are private by nature, so the way we show we like a person may not always be evident. Some ways to tell if an INTJ likes you would be:

A change in attitude. And by that I mean something that it won’t go unnoticed because the INTJ suddenly seems nicer, more willing to help and smiles much more. This is different from the way I’d help a person I don’t like, for example for the person I like I’d take so much more time to make sure they understand what they needed me to explain, ask if they need extra help, and try to understand their point of view so my explanations will adjust to their way of thinking. That also applies to emotional help: one of the few occasions in which I’d ask you if you are okay is when I truly care. That leads us to the next point.

Stalkerish mood. You might not see it, but deep inside the INTJ is observing, analyzing and memorizing everything they learn about you. This helps them find patterns in the way you think, so it is easier to predict how you will react, what will make you happy, and almost everything we consider valuable to get closer to you. This is usually noticeable if you ask their friends: the INTJ pays close attention when they mention you, and would like to know every detail when with other people they wouldn’t care. So for example, it shouldn’t be a surprise that the INTJ knows much more about you than what you have told them: either they have figured it out by observing, or based on what other people they have come to this conclusion.

Challenges you. This includes asking for your opinion, to support it with facts, and in general trying to see where you can reach. Before liking someone we decide if it’s worth the effort. It may sound arrogant, but the truth is that we don’t want to pursue something that won’t work. It has nothing to do with you, but rather with our sometimes impossible to meet standars. What I mean with that is that once this phase is over, they will ask for your opinion, observe your work or something like that and point out some flaws, but not because they don’t like you or anything, but because we would like the people we like to improve and grow, so we offer what we believe is constructive feedback. It sure looks like we don’t like you, but I swear we become even more cynical when we like someone.

Stands up for you. Due to what I said in the previous point, if they have high regard for you, they will defend you against anybody: somebody we like and trust will have our constant support.

Goes out of their way to talk to you. I don’t spend time with people I don’t like if I can avoid it (and that’s probably 99% of the time), so if your INTJ is making the effort of finding time to talk to you, ESPECIALLY if it takes away time for doing activities that are important to them, like homework, housework, or any other they might be focused in, they care. A lot.

Shows off their intelligence, wit and sarcasm. It depends on the person we like, but we try to show how intelligent, witty or thoughtful we can be. For example, if I like an ISTP I will try to sound more witty than if I like an ENTJ, in this case I will try to show off my intelligence more. So if you see that your INTJ starts mirroring your behaviour to try to adjust to what you might like, chances are that for once we have abandoned all reason and decided it is worth all the effort.

Hope these are useful, thanks for asking!-Laura

Two major types of INTJ

One of the most interesting things I read in relation to personality theory was Cognitive Styles. It is completely separate personality profiling system, but it can be used in conjunction with MBTI. And when you combine the two, you find out that there are two major types of INTJs

The ones that don’t wear a ‘social mask’ (perceiver INTJs)

The ones that do wear a social mask (contributor INTJs)

There are other variations, but these are the most common. Out of the two, the perceiver INTJ’s are the most common. Contributor INTJ’s (I am one of these) often feel out-of-step within the community, because they are always wearing some form of public mask, and always playing the social game, whereas their INTJ perceiver peers denounce such things.

Perceiver INTJs

Hate social games, and usual rebel when possible and do their best to not comply.

They don’t respect authority at all unless its proven itself, and even then, they are forever skeptical.

They have a strong moral compass, and they follow it. They have a very, very strong sense of justice. Pretending to be someone else, i.e. wearing the “social mask” feels dirty, because it is deceptive and not who they really are.

While most like things, they are less concerned with material matters.

They do not care what society thinks of them.

Contributor INTJs

Contributor INTJ’s do care about what society thinks of them. They wear lots of social masks, and they usually wear them well. They play the social game, and they usually do this without being bitter about it (even if it makes them tired).

They key to understand why they do this, is that they are inherently pragmatic. Socializing is often not natural for them but they learn the skills because it pragmatically assists them in achieving their abstract goals. They don’t have an inherent drive to be liked for the sake of being liked, but they want to achieve their goals.

They care more about possessions because things help them get other things; contributor INTJ’s do well in sales and business.

Respect authority more because they take-on social roles when it is necessary.

Because they are incredibly goal-based, their morals tend to be weaker. They are more likely to blur the lines. They will do things to get ahead. Unlike the perceiver INTJ who doesn’t like to lie about who they are (even if it means achieving their goals will be harder), the contributor will “wear the mask”.

Which type are you?

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erkology

9 years ago

Intj and travel

Despite my protest that we just stay in the hotel, despite the seizure inducing lights, despite the loud music and despite the numerous amount of people surrounding me.... I actually enjoyed the night. I need to venture out of my comfort zones sometimes.

Dating Guide for your INTJ Part 1

1. A place where they can hold puppy dogs or kittens…OR BOTH. Also where they don’t need to feel like they have to talk to you as a social obligation. Their joy in playing with puppies will bring you joy later. 2. A book store that carries antique and leather bound books. Be prepared to follow them around while they inspect everything. 3. Take them to a screening of an old Indie Film related around one of their many varied interests. 4. Unleash them at a Museum. 5. Go to a hipster coffee shop, sit in a corner and quietly judge all the people with your INTJ. 6. Take your coffee to a park, sit on a bench and quietly judge all the people walking by. 7. Go to antique stores. 8. Take them to a lecture based on their area of study or an area of interest. 9. Teach them a new hobby that you’re really into. * 10. Sit next to them and watch really dumb tv. Judge all the reality tv stars together. 11. Buy them a cheap disposable camera. Take them on a hike. Let them take pictures of everything. Develop the film. 12. Take them on a road trip with stops along the way that deal with the historical significance of the area you are in. Bonus points if you read ahead and can teach* your INTJ new things. *INTJ’s become easily frustrated by people who are not good teachers, if you are not a good teacher do not try and teach your INTJ.

Reblog with other ideas. :)

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erkology

8 years ago

Creating options can be good sometimes. But when you're faced with 2 choices each as good as the other, deciding can be a lot difficult

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erkology

9 years ago

INFJ gets a job

INFJ: I have to get a job in order to make money and survive in this world…..

*gets hired for a new job*

INFJ: I hate working

INFJ: I forgot to remember what they are teaching me

INFJ: I’ll just go with it

INFJ: Im trying to not have anxiety that I have to work. every. day.

INFJ: I want to be free

INFJ: You can’t tame my spirit

INFJ: Today I work this crap job, tomorrow my dreams will come true

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erkology

9 years ago

Introvert problem

I felt feverish in the middle of the day, still I went about doing what needs to be done. Work has been so busy lately and adding to it the pressures of applying for another job. Just came from a 16 hour duty and still I need to wake up early. I feel so tired and I think I'm going to be sick. Then it struck me. I didn't realize that I've been around too many people lately and just didn't have my alone time.

Arya Stark

Spoilers!!!!!! So did Arya snapped a face from the House of black and white or did she cut it off from the serving girl at Frey house? Was she the same girl who flirted with Jaime? And Jaime has a lingering look on the girl????

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