"There's No Way This Person I Hate Could Face Any Hardship" Is Pretty Common In TERF Thought, So Idk

can I say something mean. I think the obsession some guys have with """transandrophobia""" is just like, they thought transitioning would magically make gender not a prison. and then they continue to experience gender (which is a prison) and get confused because they stopped being a woman shouldn't it all be better now??? and it's not (because gender is a prison, even if conforming with it gives you privilege over others) but they lack the introspection and awareness to make that connection. so instead they go "no it must be the trans women who are oppressing me"

ofc the person saying intersex people can't be trans if they don't conform to the sex binary and mtf or ftm "standard" also recommends the platform that's actively erasing us intersex and transmasc people

and to archive their latest take on us:

jesus christ

People will really act like talia bhatt just has haters because she's a brown trans woman and not that she's an asshole who covers up her caste status, lashes out at random trans women who she thinks are slighting her, comes up with racist theories about how all genders from other cultures are just misgendered binary trans women with no input from queer people from those cultures, and lied about the existence of a cult and the harm of its survivors. It's just because miss radical feminism: trans flavor is all these minority identities.

I wasn't going to comment on Thicced-Witch going full Transandro Space Lasers but now she is just outright uhhh

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

oh jeezy weezy

this is a lot

If hatred is what fuels your activism, then your activism is probably bullshit

for all it seems like they enjoy talking about how they're pushing forwards theory and advancing the understanding of transphobia etc by... let's see... claiming that trans women are the most oppressed and should always get priority, that trans mascs are bad and untrustworthy because men bad, and that any trans women who disagree with them must not actually be trans women... hm.

...despite those, uh, self-evidently "effective" methods of advancing understanding of trans issues, i find myself wondering.

do trfs understand ideas as basic as "misgendering trans people is bad"? like. they clearly understand "misgendering trans women is bad", but do they understand that it's because it's a specific example of "denial of the agency and identity of trans people as a whole", rather than because "men bad yuck gross"?

they seem to be aware for the most part that trans women are often treated as whatever gender is convenient for bigots and bigoted systems to harm them, but do they understand that that happens to trans people as a whole? that when, say, trans men are framed as "women" by society, it's usually not to their benefit? that erasure is, in fact, a thing that happens to trans people?

if the conclusions they're led to by their theory leave me wondering if they're aware of some of the most obvious, simple, and basic elements of, you know, transphobia... maybe that theory isn't very good.

do trfs understand ideas as basic as "misgendering trans people is bad"?

Let's ask!

@fleshengine Was thicced-witch wrong to do this, or do you still trust she had a good reason?

For optional bonus points, you may elect to give your opinion on this:

Me: makes a post giving examples of malgendering for trans women and fems. Because I saw a post making fun of the concept, talk to my girlfriend about it, and decided to make a post. Let me tag whit a wide amount of transgender tags so the most amount of people can see-

This person for some reason:

Didn’t even say the word trans man, just tell me you’re out of pocket about a group of people without telling me you’re out of pocket !

Also, this comes from a misunderstanding because I’m dyslexic and use voice to text. I was talking about how Julia Serano dose talk about malgendering she just doesn’t use that word, if you go by the basic concept in the definition, she does talk about it in her works. She doesn’t use the word malgendering, not because the “concept is stupid”, but because it’s a word I believe was invented within the last few years(2023,2024,or 2025)! Way after 2007!

Also, what I mentioned isn’t just regular generalized misogynistic statement towards women, I was talking about a very specific type of rhetoric that used against trans people! Saying 

“Of course she’s a trans woman, she’s a fucking bitch”

It is making a generalized misogynistic statement against women and transwomen/fems, being transmisogynistic, and purposely affirming that trans woman’s gender by being hateful to her. It’s associating a potential negative characteristic about that person (even if it’s not true) to that person‘s gender transition/identity, and thus still confirming that person gender.

Also, fun fact about that post, I think the majority of the likes and re-blog on that post are by transmasc and men people! IM NOT JOKING! And honestly, this is something I see consistently from transmasc and men, because the majority of transmen/masc aren’t some type of evil monster coming to hurt you. They’re just capable of perpetuating transmisogyny as everybody else in the world, including transwomen/fems, they’re not specially capable of it. Also not saying that transwomen/fems don’t boost transmen/masc, because they do, because transwomen/fems aren’t some types of evil monster coming to hurt you!

But yes, evil trans men always hurting the poor trans women by being evil evil men being violent pussy man on a post about trans fems, that does not mention trans men(MINES IN THE TAGS), is the way to go to fight bigotry within your community! But you did this anyways, ways to go couyon!

the main reason i am such an active advocate for trans solidarity and trans unity is precisely because i know from experience how much adopted radfem ideas hurts the trans community.

i used to hate myself for being a trans man! i used to believe i wasn't truly oppressed despite the very real transandrophobia i faced! i used to make "i hate all men too don't worry im sorry for my fellow men" jokes! and it made me fucking feel like shit!

as an older and wiser man, i now know the difference between productive discussions of misogyny, and straight up radfem bootlicking!

if i can find at least one trans boy like i was and help them unlearn what i thought as a baby trans, i would be the happiest man alive

I'm just gonna say it: people using the term "transandrobros" gives me the exact same vibe as people saying "feminazis".