Sometimes I wonder what the world would be like if there was no patriarchy, no gender roles, no men.
I imagine I'd be more secure in myself. I would be less afraid to allow my body to exist as it naturally is. I could jump into a lake shirtless and never feel the real or imagined lingering eyes on my back. There would be no "man-peering-through-the-keyhole" psychological phenomenon women experience - the urge to always be palatable to the male gaze. I could feel completely comfortable cutting all my hair off in the summer so I could comfortably tend to my garden without sweat dripping from my hair. There would be no "does this hairstyle fit my face" bullshit that men interestingly never subject themselves to. I would walk home alone at night in the city and I wouldn't feel the urge to check behind me every minute. I could stretch my arms high in the air without the urge to immediately put them back down lest others see that I am human enough to grow body hair - to be human as a woman in this world is to be a beast - I could lay on the warm sands of a beach without the urge to cover my legs with a towel for the same reason. I wouldn't ever feel anxiety when making connections with other women because I would know with confidence they won't sell me out for a corn chip of validation from the patriarchy, because there wouldn't be one. Other women wouldn't look down on me for existing against the grain. And there wouldn't be the other kind of human to beat, rape or kill me for the same. Other women wouldn't be pushing their daughters, themselves, or me to conform to the identity of "decorative object to be oggled" because there would never have been anyone to start the demand.
I could rip my clothes off and grow my claws, my fangs. I could become the beast I'm meant to be. I could run to a hilltop with my sisters under a full moon and dance around a fire while we howl "This is freedom! This is freedom! This is freedom!" We could laugh heartily, loudly. We could feast decadently on all the delicious things we deny ourselves. We could take up all of the space we desire. We could love - truly love - one another and the Earth. Life would flourish.
I am deeply saddened that will never be the world.
The social coercion women face to date people theyāre not attracted to is fucking insane. I remember distinctly thinking āwell, I can just force myself to be attracted to himā¦ā
Films, books, etc, all show the trope of beautiful woman and unattractive man. There is still the myth that an unattractive man will treat you better than an attractive one (more women are waking up to this, but still). Even now the left thinks that activism happens between the legs of women.
Donāt date people youāre not attracted to. Donāt feel guilty for not giving them the time of day. No means no.
dont think ive ever posted about radfems being anti-trans?
the idea that men should be included in feminism is actually insane. why would womyn include their oppressors in a movement for their liberation?? if men didn't exist, we wouldn't need feminism!
we dont need male allies. womyn make of the population, and men have NEVER liked feminism thats not because of "misandrists", its because they dont want to give up their power and dont see womyn as equal.
coddling men and letting them put their problems into feminism wont make them allies, itll just dissolve feminism till its a movement for everyone instead of our own.
men would NEVER defend you on this like you defend them, especially as a feminist!
the idea that men should be included in feminism is actually insane. why would womyn include their oppressors in a movement for their liberation?? if men didn't exist, we wouldn't need feminism!
"not all men!" in 2025 is actually insane LOL and im not saying men arent people, im saying they have no place in feminism because they arent victims of misogyny and DONT NEED LIBERATION!
womyn are the only oppressed group who are expected to share their movement for liberation. you wouldnt try to force poc to include white people in blm, or lgb people to include straight people in pride!
this is probably because you dont see misogyny as a valid form of oppression, which isnt my problem to fix.
the idea that men should be included in feminism is actually insane. why would womyn include their oppressors in a movement for their liberation?? if men didn't exist, we wouldn't need feminism!
girl if you have to go to a subreddit for advice about your boyfriend he is not the one
a few centuries, womyn were only introduced to sex ON THEIR WEDDING NIGHT. if the girl knew what sex was before, she would most likely hide it, so her husband thought he was the one showing her what it was.
i honestly hate history. the standards for womyn get more and more pedophilic the farther back you go, till its just middle aged men actually marrying little girls.
and literally no one cares about those girls, because well womyn have their rights now so its not important and we need to focus on other oppressed groups! right?
Hey girl I just want to say that I see a lot of your posts and I think youāre doing a great job, especially for someone so young. Keep that spark and fire alive and donāt let people dull or quiet you like I let them do so when I was your age.
i really appreciate this š thank you so much!
You're very young. I hope you protect yourself and stay sane. Godspeed lass
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yeah girls haha imagine being.. 14..
I just needed others to suffer with me. (She also made the āif i were a fishā thing, if you recognize her)
wish i could grab coffee w my mutuals. mentally we are in a cute cafƩ right now
If you took womenās studies online, where/how did you go about that? How much did they cost? Did you get a degree or a certification?
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people only bring this up when you talk about issues they dont think are important tho and idk shit abt this
"can men be lesbians?" bestie in 100 countries women can't be lesbians is this really the most pressing issue rn
mood af recently
genuinely devastated thinking about the amount of times I was nice to men in situations where they deserved to be told to fuck off and die š
to eliminate casual sexism, which is very present everywhere in the world. and why would i only be talking about western womyn?
if you look at history on a timeline, womyn only got our rights VERY recently. theres obviously still work to be done, just like with any other oppressed group
I would like to put out here that feminists (me) donāt hate men
We can certainly hate particular men. Just like we could hate particular women. Itās okay to be mad at bad people, whoever they are
The way I see it, feminism is about equal rights, being allowed the same opportunities regardless of gender, and generally just being normal
Maybe we should call it gender-equal-ist
Anyways, I donāt usually post anything too serious on here, itās just itās come to my attention that some people think all feminists are like ārahhhh we hate all mennā and donāt realize that these people are a very small minority and/or are probably joking
I can advocate for gender equality without being radical
except for the fact we havent taken it back yet? and they have no right to be annoyed with womyns freedom and liberation??
I would like to put out here that feminists (me) donāt hate men
We can certainly hate particular men. Just like we could hate particular women. Itās okay to be mad at bad people, whoever they are
The way I see it, feminism is about equal rights, being allowed the same opportunities regardless of gender, and generally just being normal
Maybe we should call it gender-equal-ist
Anyways, I donāt usually post anything too serious on here, itās just itās come to my attention that some people think all feminists are like ārahhhh we hate all mennā and donāt realize that these people are a very small minority and/or are probably joking
I can advocate for gender equality without being radical
when someone is accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression!!
I would like to put out here that feminists (me) donāt hate men
We can certainly hate particular men. Just like we could hate particular women. Itās okay to be mad at bad people, whoever they are
The way I see it, feminism is about equal rights, being allowed the same opportunities regardless of gender, and generally just being normal
Maybe we should call it gender-equal-ist
Anyways, I donāt usually post anything too serious on here, itās just itās come to my attention that some people think all feminists are like ārahhhh we hate all mennā and donāt realize that these people are a very small minority and/or are probably joking
I can advocate for gender equality without being radical
men will reply to my posts and end up just proving my fucking point like wow thanks for the extra evidence buddy
consent accident ā ļø jesus christ what is he? a child?
Notice how tumblr users were delighted at conservatives "showing class consciousness" regarding the ceo shooting and regularly praise misogynists and even rapists for their pro-trans statement, but are awfully upset when they find out they agree in any capacity with those they label "terfs".
if the definition of "womyn" is "an adult human person with a desire to be in accordance with the particular set of cultural and social norms typically associated with the female sex",
what are the things associated with us that youre talking about? thats just a fancy way of upholding gender stereotypes.
further, if a womyn from an area/time that still views womyn as property said she wanted to be in accordance with how the MALE sex is treated in her society to escape her oppression, would that make her transgender?
would that make her less of a womyn?
In trans activist-spaces, ācis womanā is essentially used the same way āKarenā is
no i dont think women starving themselves and reconstructing their entire faces with makeup and plastic surgery is feminism and female empowerment
Itās so disgusting the things people say on here. Iām nearly 17 and Iāve been on radblr since I was 13, but I pretended to be 20 so people would take me seriously. I think there are probably many more of us than people think- like opabinia. I think there are lots of teens and young women who are so caught up in all the TRA stuff because, well, teens are the most dedicated activists for TRA shit and also the most vulnerable and gullible, and Iām sure there are many many teenage girls who arenāt quite in agreement or are fully opposed to trans ideology, or who are just rubbed the wrong way by any element of it, and they may find themselves on tumblr. Itās so disheartening for young women to see so much hatred forā¦feminists? So strange how things have changed so much in such a short period of time. Misogyny always finds a new form. Anyway sorry idek what my point is, I just bet that a lot of the āadultsā or those we assume are adults on here are actually minors because this is the only place they can go and also minors are the most surrounded by trans ideology of anyone. I bet there are droves
theres 100% alot of people on radblr llying about their age XD
Just notice, how every female-exclusive space soon turn the rules to "non-binaries, transgenders, dogs, parrots, everyone is welcome" while male spaces, stay for males only. We women should STOP sacrificing our space, we should stop being afraid of speaking up, we should stop reducing our body, we should stop being our last priority, all for the sake of not hurting men's feelings. This is not inclusion, it's misogyny with a mask, hidden behind the name of representation.
as an 18 year old radfem Iām so proud to see a girl your age so intelligent and introspective when it comes to feminism. you are going to go far in life my dear!
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