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And sometimes we just don’t know how to answer that because we don’t really know what happened. One day we were okay and over some period of time things just kept getting worse and we woke up one day and realized, “Fuck, is this what disability feels like?” And we still struggle to admit we’re disabled. Or maybe someone was born this way and nothing “happened.” Either way, we aren’t obligated to tell you anything. And that’s just how it is.
One thing abled people need to realize, is that when you ask a disabled person "what happened", not only are you inquiring about a person's medical history, which is personal information, but also you are potentially asking them to relive what might have been the most traumatic time of their life.
An accident that left them unable to walk again. An illness that wrecked their life. A natural or man made disaster that took their loved ones.
Your curiosity simply is not worth digging up someone else's pain.