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And she was so kind about it too! I saw her original announcement on her story and she was so polite and kind in how she explained why she’d chosen to make it a single-sex space. And all she’s gotten is some absolutely nasty responses.

It doesn’t matter how kind we are, how much we obediently, tearfully explain how our bodies have been violated a thousand times over, how much we debase ourselves and “check our privilege!” and educate ourselves and “listen to other people’s experiences!” they will still display a disturbing level of hatred and threatening language. I follow some trans creators because I try to keep an open mind, but I had to unfollow one (TIF) because he made a video saying that he’s going to show up and frighten everyone there with his appearance and behavior because, “I’m biologically female and you said you wanted me here!”

I get it. Being excluded can hurt sometimes. But that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to spaces, or to people’s bodies, to soothe that hurt. No, this is not the same as racial segregation. This is a singular, private space in which women, a group of people who suffer immensely, are wanting to gather to support each other and have s respite from a male dominated world. Give me a fucking break. I’m tired of trans rhetoric co-opting racism as their defense and I’ve been told by a lot of women of color that it’s frustrating to them too, and considering the fact that the lovely owner of this gym is a woman of color I can only imagine how invalidating and frustrating this all is to her.

womyn, please, show some love and support to natalee barrett. she’s a black woman who created a gym for women only and after deciding to exclude trans women (for obvious reasons), she has been unfollowed and insulted by trans activists. in the first link below, @/prowomyn on instagram explain the whole situation. the second one is her instagram profile.

1. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DHHSxBoPxtLMhBcajpaVB2alVCBV4jvPQtIlH80/?igsh=OHp1djl0dTB2MW9z

2. https://www.instagram.com/nataleebarnett_?igsh=MTJzdHlxZGg5bDQ2NQ==

Y'all know you can draw a butch woman engaged in sex without giving her a penis, right? To REALLY challenge yourself, draw her without a strap, too! It's just important to me that y'all know these are very real possibilities.

1) This is disturbing and I feel so sorry for this poor couple

2) Stealing lingerie, underwear, or even sexual toys is a huge pattern among TIMs. I remember a male ex I had (before I realized I was a Lesbian) telling me this story of a friend of a friend. This man was “experimenting with his sexuality/gender” and would continually steal his mother’s dildos to fuck himself in the ass with, not even using condoms as a barrier, and then putting it back, and eventually she found out and just let him have it. (I have no issue with anal if that’s what you want to do so don’t get me wrong, but it does have a higher risk of bacterial contamination so extra cleaning and/or protection needs to be involved)

And I had a surprised and disgusted reaction to this, obviously, and he accused me of being transphobic and got pretty upset about that. At the time I wasn’t even a radfem but the idea of people stealing intimate items that touch genitals, and especially returning them so they can be re-used unknowingly by the original owner, is just really gross and inappropriate? I don’t really care what it is or what your purpose of doing so is, unless you’re a 10 year old girl who was jokingly putting on her mom’s bra while doing the laundry, it’s incredibly disgusting. And I see stories of that happening over and over again, and I just feel really bad for their poor mothers and sisters because that has to feel like an incredible violation of privacy.

Male secretly abuses his lesbian sister's clothing for god fucking knows how long...... This is so disgusting I don't even know what to say here. (link)

This whole idea from Conservatives/the right in general that men are “leaders” is completely a farce even in their own groups, and I can speak to this firsthand because I grew up in it. Super Catholic, church services were all in Latin, women weren’t allowed to wear pants or cut their hair shorter than their shoulders, and they were sporting all of America’s current insane political views a decade before they became more popular. And men still did jack all.

I was running the church choir in all but name by the age of 14, despite the choir director being a man in his 20s. Women handled all the childcare and child rearing, women were the ones who organized everything. Who put up the decorations for each season. Who provided the food. Who kept the church clean and in repair. Who taught the children during Sunday School. They were the ones who made decisions for their families, the ones who kept tabs on everything, the ones who organized playdates and homeschool meetups and church potlucks. Women built everything and men only placed their stamp of approval on it to claim the work.

And I wish more people would WAKE UP to this realization. Being a leader means nothing if you aren’t actually working. Simply sitting on your ass and giving the occasional instruction is not true leadership, nor is it even the servant leadership Christ himself advocated for. Those men were completely useless in the grand scheme of things and we would have continued on without them with relative ease. They hold onto relevancy by forcing women to depend on them financially but that’s all they have to stand on. And it just pisses me off idk this is just a rant

Im not afraid of God, I am afraid of men.

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating to stop the abuse and violence they go through daily

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating for them not to be subjected to sexual illness or infections on the daily

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating to stop them being trafficked and forced into the industry

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating for them to be given higher wages to help them out of the industry

“You just hate sex workers” but I’m advocating to just have them treated as human beings

Literally fixed my mental health by so much 😭😭 I didn’t realize how much forcing attraction to men was weighing me down and causing me to be out of touch with a lot of the rest of my personality because I would be constantly questioning my likes/dislikes. Now I just exist as myself and it’s amazing.

realizing I was a lesbian literally felt like this

And yet if you assume pronouns it’s also hurtful towards other people within the trans community?? This was one of my biggest issues when I used to think I was trans because it’s extremely “every man for himself” type ideology.

“I don’t like it when people check with me about how I’d like to be be treated so I’ll complain or even lash out at them.”

“Well I don’t like when people DONT check with me so I’ll complain or lash out at them.”

There’s no compassion for those of us trying to simply be respectful and accommodate you, and definitely no compassion for those within the community who have a different experience than you.

Also what type of work environment is allowing miniskirts? I have never found a job in my life that allows that so far, and never known a woman who wished to wear one to work.

This is in fact what everyone is thinking, yes. And policing language more won’t make it stop.

Adding onto this, “No Ethical Consumption Under Capitalism” started in the punk community/more radical leftist spaces (to my awareness) as a way to call awareness to the hidden exploitations of capitalism and urge you to look more deeply and be responsible with your actions. Sure that $65 shirt can be greenwashed and said that it was sewn in an ethical factory with well-payed workers and environmentally positive policies, but where did they get the fabric from?

It’s supposed to be a call out against the system, but then it somehow got twisted by shein-guzzlers to excuse their actions. It’s supposed to be, “The system is so fucked that we’re forced to rely on slave labor at every turn whether we like it or not, so let’s call it out and push for change and do what we can.” Not an excuse to joyfully profit off of the underpaid labor of thousands and claim that we’re all on the same level.

Leaving the house to get your Temu parcel from the mailbox and wallowing in porn is not actually fighting fascism so jot that down

I’m currently on dating apps and have been very frustrated to find out how true this is. The amount of, “Just a doggy with no brain :3 I want to be tied up and then jacked off UwU” transfemmes I’ve come across is crazy. And I’m not on kink apps, just the usual (Hinge, Bumble, HER, I’m not even on tinder). It’s also really frustrating because I already have the fact that I’m not kink friendly in my bio so I wish they’d stop liking my profile and leaving odd messages.

I’ve also gotten a lot of trans men? Despite the fact I have “lesbian” in my bio, which confuses me because if you believe yourself a man, and I am a person only attracted to women, wouldn’t that make you feel invalid?? Confuses me.

Just an observation. Why are such a significant amount of trans people (specifically TIMs) so engrossed in fetishes? Why is ‘puppygirl brat transfem’ so common? I’m supposed to believe it isn’t a fetish for 75% of them when the most popular trans-identified creators on twitter and tiktok post fetish shit. And I wondered this when I was a TRA too.

Just my humble experience

'mens rights' dont exist theyre just mens extra privileges on top of the thousand privileges they already have

sick of ppl calling themselves feminists and then being highly uneducated. just halfassing it. i wish to be that peaceful and ignorant but unfortunately im not dense like that :/

or worse they say feminism is for everyone and not just for women

what are your thoughts on drag? personally i find it to be misogynistic but i know many would disagree

so incredibly tired of choice "feminists"

ECGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO THE DEPENDENCE OF / ADDICTION TO THE PSYCHEDELIC KNOWN AS ECSTASY OR MDMA

OLOGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO THE DEPENDENCE OF / ADDICTION TO THE PSYCHEDELIC KNOWN AS OLOLIUQUI OR MORNING GLORY SEEDS

MARIGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO THE DEPENDENCE OF / ADDICTION TO THE DRUG KNOWN AS MARIJUANA OR WEED/MARY JANE

DIMETGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO THE DEPENDENCE OF / ADDICTION TO THE PSYCHEDELIC KNOWN AS DIMETHYLTRYPTAMINE OR DMT

ACIGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO THE DEPENDENCE OF / ADDICTION TO THE PSYCHEDELIC KNOWN AS ACID OR LSD

SHROOMGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO THE DEPENDENCE OF / ADDICTION TO THE PSYCHEDELIC KNOWN AS SHROOMS

PSYCHGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO THE DEPENDENCE OF / ADDICTION TO PSYCHEDELICS

ADIGENDER

A GENDER THAT IS STEMMED FROM/EXTREMELY CONNECTED TO ADDICTION

i wish that there were female only vacation resorts. even if there were i dont think id be able to go any time soon, but still. imagine how amazing that would be. no worries about creepy men at beaches. my dream