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Transmultiphobia is discrimination against multigender individuals. It intersects with other kinds of transphobia like transmisogyny, transandrophobia, exorsexism, enbyphobia, and more.
For those unaware, being multigender means being two or more genders. This is commonly male and female, but not always. Someone could be female and agender, or male and a demigirl. Any combination is possible.
(Personally, I'm male and female and probably something else I don't have a word for. I use bigender, multigender, and genderqueer interchangeably to describe how I feel. If anyone was wondering.)
Why do we need a word for this? Well, largely because our discrimination is something it's important to speak up about, and doing that is easiest when there's a word. Speaking is harder when I have to say "those who discriminate against multigender people" versus "transmultiphobes." Having a word can also help to bring awareness to the issue.
So, what is the issue?
Quite a lot!
Some of my favorites (by which I mean least favorites, they suck)
Being told to pick a side? Sound familiar? A lot of this is recycled biphobia/panphobia/etc. Can exclusionists come up with new rhetoric?
The phrase "men and non-men." This is one I see a lot in queer spaces. Most people don't see a problem with it. The problem, other than reinforcing a new binary and pushing nonbinary people in with femininity, is that some people are both a man and a gender that is not a man. The two can't be separated. People try anyway.
Invisibility. I so rarely see multigender identities talked about, even with other queer people. I barely knew it existed until recently.
Pronoun erasure. Pronouns don't always equal gender, of course, and multigender folks can use pronouns other than he/she, but that is a way to reflect being both male and female. He/she pronouns? Completely erased. It's not even a matter of multiple pronoun erasure- he/they and she/they pronouns get recognition in queer and even some allocishet spaces. I have friends who will think to include neopronouns before considering he/she, which was shocking because he and she individually are much more prevalent than neopronouns, but it seems like together they disappear. We disappear.
The way being multigender impacts sexuality gets mocked and occasionally invites harassment. Multigender WLW seem to get the brunt of it. (Nice going, exclusionists, it's really radical and woke of you to try your best to police how women express gender and sexuality. Really beating the patriarchy there /s). Anyone who's a man and a lesbian gets so much shit for it. Predators, infiltrators into the community- you name an insult, someone's probably set it. And multigender MLM who are also women can get treated as fetishizers.
This isn't just discrimination from other queer people, either. Have you seen the way cisnormativity talks about gender? We all learn that male and female are polar opposites, they cancel each other out, they contradict each other, they can't possibly coexist. But they do. It's just not recognized.
Basically, we multigender people get a lot of shit for existing, even within our own community. Now we have a word for it. So if more people talked about this, that would be very cool.