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Just a silly qpr bkdk throwaway after getting some free time because midterms is out to get me this sem
Colored now :D
My Good Omens LGBTQ+ Headcanons
If I misused any romantic, sexuality or gender identity, let me know.
Here are mine:
Aziraphale: Panromantic, Demisexual, Graysexual, Agender(he/they)
Crowley: Demiromantic, Demisexual, Graysexual, Genderfluid
Anathema Device: Pansexual, Cisgender
Newton Pulsifer: Straight, Cisgender
Adam Young: Straight, Biromantic, Cisgender
Madame Tracy: Bisexual, Cisgender
Sergeant Shadwell: Straight, Cisgender
Gabriel: Aroace, Agender(he/they)
Pepper: Pansexual, Cisgender
Brian: Gay, Cisgender
Wensleydale: Aroace, Non-binary(they/them)
Beelzebub: Biromantic, Graysexual, Non-binary(confirmed)
Hastur: Aromantic, Gay, Cisgender
Ligur: Gay, Cisgender
Michael: Bellussexual, Agender(she/they)
Started “Loveless” by Alice Oseman last night and now it’s 3 am and I’m on page 312. Needless to say, I love it.👏👏👏👏👏🧡💛🤍🩵💙
The love that this post is getting makes me so happy and proud! I love all of you and I’m so happy that we are spreading the positivity!😊
I feel like we can all agree that labels can either bring people comfort or make people feel like they are being put into boxes. So on that note, I wish you all a good day, and I hope you find comfort with yourselves whether or not you identify with a label.
I feel like we can all agree that labels can either bring people comfort or make people feel like they are being put into boxes. So on that note, I wish you all a good day, and I hope you find comfort with yourselves whether or not you identify with a label.
*Likes girl* (Is girl)
*Likes boy* (Is boy)
*Likes person* (Is person)
*Likes nobody* (Is nobody)…
the longer I think about it the more I realize I have never actually been in love with someone
this isn’t a sad thing or anything btw I’m aroace and recently I was rethinking it but the more I think about it it’s like ,,, idk
I’ve never felt that true, raw connection w someone like other people have when they met The One
I catch feelings, sure, but they don’t feel ,, idk as deep??? as they would’ve been it’s strange
it’s either the autism or the orientation and honestly I’m not in the mood to think about it too hard anyways
Aro Joy
Aro Joy, 1/1 - it’s almost AUTUMN!!!! 🍁🎃🧣 ✨ (and I’m very excited lol, early fall is one of my favourite times of year 😂). Ok but back on topic - I’ve actually had a vision for this specific comic for … a while 😭 Like, half a year ago. It’s been a journey, accepting my arospec identity (and from what I’ve heard talking to y’all, it’s been like this for many of you too), and though I’ve been open about the bumpier parts of the experience, I wanted to also talk about the positives, all the joys of being aro, too 💚💚🐸
As a general disclaimer: The sentiments here aren’t meant to speak for all aros - because some aros want to be in romantic relationships (or be otherwise partnered), and of course this is equally valid and should be respected! And on the same note, allos can be happy with being, or just want to be single, because again - this isn’t something defined by orientation.
But I think for a lot of us, our arospec orientation can be tied to how feel about our lives in relation to partnership … which is that, we’re okay (or happy) being single! For the longest time, I held it against myself that I wasn’t in a relationship, but not because I wanted to be in one - I just thought it was a milestone that would make other people think of me as a ‘real’ adult 😭😭 Realizing I was aro gave me the opportunity to reassess how I viewed myself, and my relationships with other people. I was able to actually let go of that idea of having a “””missing piece”””, and appreciate everyone and everything I have in my life. I sound kinda cheesy saying this, but for the first time, I think I have everything I’ve ever wanted, relationships wise? I’m at peace, and I really appreciate it.
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School’s gonna start soon for me and for some of y'all, so I hope that goes well for everyone! Please take care, and as always I’d love to hear what you think! What are your favourite things about being aro? 🐸
[Image Descriptions:
Slide 1: “I find it fascinating, the way alloromantics value romance.” Celia stands outside in front on a vibrant fall day. She seems to be on a walk on a trail.
Behind her, the leaves are a bright orange, and she is wearing a white wrapped top, jeans, and an orange ribbon choker.
Slide 2: “When I bring up the fact -”
A flashback to an earlier time, where Celia is talking to another girl (who is alloro). Celia says “You know, life without Romance is not inherently bad, or unfulfilling -”
The other girls says, “yeah, but it’s DIFFERENT.”
Slide 3: [Pure text] There’s this really deep, engrained idea, even amongst people who are accepting and understanding of the idea that being aromantic is valid, that romance brings a new level of joy to life. A kind of special fulfillment they would be lost without.
Slide 4: “And I’ve got to say …” Celia speaks to the viewer.
Slide 5: “That sounds really hard, yikes” She shrugs nonchalantly.
Slide 6: Celia speaks from the bottom of the panel, and a big speech bubble says, “People seem to have such a hard time with dating? Pining? Trying to court people? (I actually do not know much about romance, despite my love of the genre) It just seems like so much work, just to feel fulfilled.”
Extra doodles of character struggle with online dating, pining with writing love letters, and dollar bills with a rose exemplify the various struggles mentioned.
Slide 7: Shot switches back to Celia in the forest. She’s now holding a maple leaf in her hand, staring down at it contemplatively as she speaks. “I’m … actually feeling pretty good about my life.”
Slide 8: She holds the leaf up to the light now. “I don’t really feel like there’s something missing without a partner. Although, maybe one day -” In the bottom half of the panel, the perspective switches to her POV centered on her hand with the illuminated leaf, “I’d also be happy with a QPR.”
Slide 9: It’s one of the things that makes me grateful that I’m aro.
The shot has switched to be from behind Celia, staring out at the landscape of mountains, the fall foliage, and the river below. Celia has let go of the leaf and it drifts away in the wind]
LET ARO PEOPLE HAVE SEX
LET ARO PEOPLE BE VIRGINS
LET ACE PEOPLE DATE
LET ACE PEOPLE BE SINGLE
LET ARO PEOPLE DATE
LET ARO PEOPLE BE SINGLE
LET ACE PEOPLE HAVE SEX
LET ACE PEOPLE BE VIRGINS
Am I the only one who has a few specific friends who I'm really close with and love to be around, and, if they wanted to, I'd be completely down for making our relationship into something different (romantic, queerplatonic, etc.), but at the same time, I don't activity have a crush on them or want to push for a different relationship bc what if they don't feel the same way or don't know what queerplatonic relationships are.
I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.
Am I the only aro-spec person who switches between wanting a committed partnership, be it romantic, platonic, queerplatonic, etc, and wanting to be as far away from relationships as possible?
Was I the only aro-spec person who had the experience of thinking that I had crushes growing up, but looking back, they might not have been crushes because 1. I could never or only rarely name any traits that I liked about them (and those rare times that I could were traits that I simply admired), 2. I felt immense relief when they rejected me, or 3. I just wanted to have a crush, so I chose a person and consciously decided to develop feelings for them, not knowing that it doesn't work like that?
Something I recently realized that helped me understand my aro-spec identity is that my "crushes" that I can remember weren't actually fueled by romantic attraction for the person. They were actually fueled by attraction towards the idea of dating/liking them, but not actually them as a person. I wanted to find my soulmate and as soon as I found someone that I thought fit that ideal, I would start daydreaming about being with them, but I wasn't really attracted to them as a person, just my idealized version of them and the relationship. As a result, I couldn't really name any traits about those people that I liked, aside from surface level ones like, "funny," "nice," and "hardworking." And while I was aesthetically attracted to them, I never really fantasized about kissing them or being super romantic with them (aside from maybe hand-holding or hugging), and if I ever tried, it made me uncomfortable and felt like I was violating them. Did anyone else have a similar experience or is it just me?
Did any other aroace-spec people try to write fanfiction when they were younger, but struggled to write romance/romantic scenes? Because I vividly remember trying to write fanfiction when I was younger, but not really knowing how to write the romance because that wasn't something that I felt that much. And this goes for all kinds of romantic fanfic, reader insert, OC insert, shipping, etc. I tried writing all of the above, and every single time, I was unable to write, or even sometimes start, the romantic scenes, because I just didn't know what exactly that felt like or how romantic relationships started. And even when I could get through writing fanfic, it just felt SO unnatural and weird to actually write; like not bad, but just odd, like not realistic. But somehow, people really liked it, so I guess I did something right lol
I WANT A QPR SOOOOOO BADDDDD!!
I want someone that I can call my partner, but not necessarily in a romantic way. I want someone to hug and be close to. I want someone who I can listen to and who can listen to me. I want someone who shares my interests. I want someone that will agree to discuss and respect our boundaries with one another. I want someone who I can just be with, like we can just exist together. I want someone who will go book shopping with me and just listen to me gush about different books. I want someone who will walk down the halls with, and maybe we'll hold hands and maybe we won't. I want someone who will always be ready to comfort me and who I can comfort whenever they need it. I want someone who will help me calm down and think through things carefully. I want someone who I can explore and go on adventures with.
Basically, I just really want a queerplatonic partner/relationship.
Same!! What would hook me in was the elaborate plots and character backstories, not so much the romance. Like, for example, I read a lot of MHA reader insert and OC fanfic, and what I really liked was how creative the OC/reader's backstories would be, or how they would contribute to the storyline throughout the fic, not so much the romance elements; in fact, they were kind of annoying at times.
Edit: in fact, I would write fanfic myself, but what I focused on and enjoyed most was coming up with unique backstories, quirks, character dynamics, and subplots for the OC/reader. And, when it came to writing the romance, I had no idea how to make it believeable, or even how to write it in the first place.
Am I the only aroace-spec person who read a lot of fanfic when I was younger, but instead of inserting myself into the reader insert stories, I would just insert one of my characters or a random OC that was similar to me but not the same, bc it felt weird to put myself into those situations?
Or was that just me?
Am I the only aroace-spec person who read a lot of fanfic when I was younger, but instead of inserting myself into the reader insert stories, I would just insert one of my characters or a random OC that was similar to me but not the same, bc it felt weird to put myself into those situations?
Or was that just me?
made some clown designs based on the aro, ace and aroace flags!!
Yknow I still want Cressida to get a dressmaker gf like u cannot convince me that wouldn’t be perfect idk I can just see it so clearly in my mind lol
Also I so badly want Eloise to be Aromantic or some kind of aspec, strong independent woman with no need or want of romance please (my hopes aren’t high because it’s literally a romance show but still)
sigh…
it was fucking asexuality day 30 MINUTES AGO
that’s it I need a calendar
My second comic for Ace Week!
From Jughead, Issue #224 (January 1974). Reprinted in Archie 1000 Page Comics-Palooza
Yay OCs again!
Elise is 16 and from a small town in Texas so she’s just figuring herself out and has limited info, but I think it’s sweet that she would absolutely sit down with Anthony and just explain asexuality to him. Like he didn’t really care before or question why he didn’t want a romantic relationship, but he might mention casually (probably while the group is camping and Carla and Dawn are talking about how they started dating) that he never really saw himself *with* anyone and she gets SO excited to talk about the ace spectrum and where she thinks she falls on it, and he’s just happy that this new group of people is nice and they aren’t judging him.
i love aromantic relationships. shout out to aromantic relationships
The genderfluid urge to do T and become a drag queen