Listen, All You Folks Out There With AvPD: You’re Amazing.

Hey everyone!

So, I’ve been getting a fair number of asks recently, which is great! I love hearing from all of you.

But if you’re waiting for a reply, please understand that I might not get to it for a while. I've been struggling to keep up with the basics lately; even writing my regular posts, although I have a lot to say.

Hopefully things will get better soon, and I’ll get back to it! But in the meantime...

Please remember:

You matter.

You are good enough.

You deserve to be happy.

And you can heal.

If you’re feeling lost, surround yourself with things that remind you of what’s important to you, and people that remind you of who you want to be. Build your inspiration into your life.

Take time for yourself. Be kind to yourself.

Be open to learning.

And at the end of every day, come home to yourself and say hello again.

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“Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. Our anger may be a message that we are being hurt, that our rights are being violated, that our needs or wants are not being adequately met, or simply that something is not right. Our anger may tell us that we are not addressing an important emotional issue in our lives, or that too much of our self–our belief, values, desires, or ambitions–is being compromised in a relationship. Our anger may be a signal that we are doing more and giving more than we can comfortably do or give. Or our anger may warn us that others are doing too much for us, at the expense of our own competence and growth. Just as physical pain tells us to take our hand off the hot stove, the pain of our anger preserves the very integrity of our self. Our anger can motivate us to say “no” to the ways in which we are defined by others and “yes” to the dictates of our inner self."

-Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Anger

I know covid 19 has been going on for long. It is terrible and I hope with all my heart that it is over soon. I want you to know that following the restrictions save lives, and it’s okay if they make you sad. It’s okay if everything seems harder now than in the first months. We have been in this a long time and now it’s (for some of us atleast) very dark outside. It is hard. It is lonely, but we got to keep on going. We will make it. There is light ahead with vaccines. More and more restrictions may be added, dependent on where we each live. It will be okay again. Hang in there. For what it is worth: You are not alone and your feelings are valid. It’s scary and it may be getting to you a lot more now as the months went on. Winter is already a tough season for many people. Adding covid 19 on top of that? That is a lot. Do not beat yourself up. Hang in there, do what you can to take care of yourself and talk to someone.

We will make it through. It will be hard, but we will make it. 🌸

Mary Oliver, from “the fourth sign of the zodiac” published in Blue Horses

“Loneliness does not come from having no people around one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”

— Carl Jung

I just read the line “President Donald Trump also indicated that federal squads would likely target cities run by the party that opposes him” in a real-life news article and I’m just thinking about how people really thought Democrats were overreacting in 2016 and that we should “give him a chance”

all i’m interested in lately is love, laughter, my personal health, growth, and becoming an all around radiant soul.

psst! they’re easy to make, too. here’s the Fu pattern. 

remember to tie the top tie straight across the middle of your ear, and the bottom tie in a criss-cross over it, like a plus sign, to the top of your head.

always wear the same side facing out!

use funky patterned cotton to make it cute and cool!

launder with soap and reuse!

MAKE MEMES

Just got back from the grocery store on my first outing with a homemade mask

Literally every store manager (and multiple older people) i passed thanked me for wearing a mask

We need to start memeing cloth mask usage to make it cool and hip to keep your germs to yourself and stop this outbreak on the ground

Hey friend, in case no one told you today:

I just thought it may be a good time to tell you that you did great today. Even if things weren’t perfect, you did your best.

I see your hard work and I see how much it took to do the thing. Great job!

I’m really proud of you.