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the thing that gets me about about barbie is that barbie land wasn’t even purposefully a matriarchy, barbie land came about because of the way little girls were playing with their barbies, it wasn’t created by mattel it was created by the people using the toys, so the fact that the barbies ignored the ken’s and had girls night every night wasn’t because they had some bias against him, it was just an accurate depiction of how kids play with barbies. I had some ken dolls as a child and they were essential to the plot in the sense that of course my barbie has a boyfriend because that represented the world i saw around me, but also he didn’t have any purpose in my dream world because i was only interested in what the girls were doing because they represented me and how i wanted to be, I wanted girls night every night I wanted the girls to be president and austronauts and not because of some inherent feminist idea but because I was a girl and I wasn’t thinking about boys, ken was an accessory. this movie wasn’t made to change the world but it showed a different perspective than what we usually see which I thought was fun. Men don’t have to be the centre of all our stories and its not even because we hate them, sometimes we’re just not thinking about them

Long post incoming, but I've been on and off it for days so you're gonna see it.

On Charles and Love

I think there's a lot more to Charles' reaction to Edwin's confession than what we may first assume.

Charles loves harder than anyone, but I don't think he even knows what it means or feels like to be IN love--or to be loved back. This isn't a dig at Edwin, so don't @ me. This has to do with Charles' past.

When Edwin first confesses on the steps of Hell, Charles doesn't even hesitate with his response: "Great, love you too, can we go now?" He does love Edwin, one way or another. He hasn't needed to examine that love any further. He doesn't think Edwin could mean it that way, because Edwin probably has never given any indication of feeling that for anyone. Perhaps he didn't think Edwin capable of love in that way. Perhaps it's his own repressed sexuality. Perhaps it's the feeling that he is inherently unlovable. Perhaps it's a combination of things.

On Edwin's and Charles' Repression

Look, Edwin is clearly autistic and heavily emotionally repressed--he's British, from 1916, and male. That's the perfect storm of emotional repression. But he clearly feels and feels deeply--he just doesn't always let on about it. (Which is such a nice thing to see for autistic representation, the "unfeeling alien" trope ain't it.)

And even though they've been together for 30 years, they clearly do not talk about deep emotions much, because it makes Edwin uncomfortable and Charles probably wouldn't manage to get much out before cracking a joke instead--it's his defense mechanism.

As for his own repression, Charles grew up in the 80s as a biracial kid with an abusive father. He was also at least questionably queer while alive: he was part of an alt crowd, wore eyeliner, and wore a single dangly earring. Now that doesn't mean for certain he's queer or questioning, but it IS a pretty common code in media and storytelling. And I imagine no small part of his father's excuses for abusing Charles had to do with "beating the queer out of him." Of COURSE that led to repression--how could it not?

On Feeling Unlovable

And the feeling that he's inherently unlovable? Does he really feel that way? I think so.

He wants it. He wants to be loved so badly. And because of that, he tries so hard. He tries to stay light and happy and kind, even when he's suffering underneath--he has his own flavor of emotional repression. Because if he can't be loved, he can at least be liked.

And he doesn't just want people to like him, he needs them to like him, because he needs to know he's likable. Because there's safety in being likable. There's safety in being funny and friendly and "a good sort of chap." It's proof he's not the monster his father was--the monsters his friends were. It's his shield. The shield he uses to protect himself from the world, yes, but also to protect the world from him. Or at least, who he thinks he is, deep down.

It's also, in his mind, his only chance at being loved. His only chance at staying loved. Because love is earned. Because love is the reward for good behavior. At least, that's how it was as a kid, right? And that's all he knows. He died before he could experience any other kind of love--besides the love between himself and Edwin, which is its own complicated matter.

The other difficult aspect of growing up in a household where love and affection were weaponized and where violence is an acceptable reaction to anger, is how it radically alters your perception of love and family.

You crave the love and validation you never received, but you also fear it and don't believe it's real when it comes without strings.

You struggle to identify love in healthy relationships because if it doesn't hurt, then is it really love?

And even though you crave it more than anything, you're afraid of it. You're afraid for things to get real, because real love--or your understanding of it--is dangerous.

Because love is a weapon and you can't bear for anyone to use it against you again.

Hurt People Hurt People...Sometimes

Trauma manifests differently in each person. There are some commonalities, but it's never exactly the same. I know the saying is "hurt people hurt people" and that's not entirely wrong. But sometimes, hurt people heal people--or at least try to. Charles is in the second group.

Charles never, ever wants anyone to feel the kind of love he knew while he was alive. So he paradoxically loves openly while remaining guarded. His loyalty and devotion are unmatched. He went to Hell for Edwin. But he also never told Edwin the truth about his father until essentially forced to. Because that involves vulnerability. It involves, in his eyes, weakness. And what did vulnerability and "weakness" get him in life? Well...dead.

But he craves reciprocation. He needs to feel like he can be vulnerable, safely. I don't think that Edwin has done anything to make him feel unsafe, but being that they're both emotionally surpressed boys killed by other boys for perceived weaknesses at 16 and the lack of a ghost therapist...it's not all that surprising they haven't dealt with their issues in 30 years.

I think this is why he latches onto Crystal so quickly and easily. Firstly, she's alive: he can at least pretend to ignore his own death for a bit. Secondly, she's his age (sort of) and can see him, which is an uncommon experience at best. Thirdly, again--she's alive, so it can never last--never be real. Either she'll age beyond him, or she'll die and likely be taken to her afterlife. Which he'll happily ignore for the first two reasons.

On Types of Love

I won't get too into this, because I'm in no way an expert in the wide variety of emotions attributed to love. But I will say this: Charles died at 16.

If we set aside the possibility of him being aromantic for now (which he absolutely could be), he may never have had the chance to fall in love while he was alive. If he could even recognize it for what it was. I mean, I'm in my 30s, been married and divorced twice, and I'm still not sure I've ever been in love. At 16, you're drowning in hormones and it can be hard to decipher feelings.

On Arrested Development

If you think about it, his death and subsequent ghostly afterlife are a supernatural version of the arrested development a lot of child abuse survivors experience. But his development arrested literally--he literally CAN'T grow up. At least, not physically.

He may have had 30 years to address his issues, but why would he have thought to? He doesn't have the same responsibilities or needs as a living adult. He's constantly on the job or on the run from Death, he's living with Emotional Repression the Person (my beloved), and frankly...it hurts to examine those problems. How many adults are actively avoiding their own issues?

On the Confession

Edwin, with the most heartwrenching tone of voice since David "I would like to spend" Tennant, makes clear that he's IN love with Charles. And for a moment Charles looks like he's been walloped in the gut with an iron bar, trying to process. But then the trauma-brain kicks in.

He finds the first "logical" explanation to someone (Edwin) telling him they love him: it's a literary reference, and Edwin is...maybe not "messing" with him, but maybe being extra dramatic about this? It can't be real.

But then Edwin gets upset--he's serious about this. And Charles sort of...short-circuits. He can't process this right now, not when they're running for their afterlives. Not when the Night Mother is waiting to split them up. Not when he's barely even begun to process his trauma. So he does everything he can to make sure Edwin knows that, no matter what, he loves him. Maybe not in the same way, but with the same depth.

Because they'll have time. They'll have all the time in the world to figure out what this means. Because they certainly don't right now, and everything Edwin is saying flies directly in the face of every opinion Charles has ever held about himself.

And what the hell is he supposed to do with that?

will byers as cats 👍

[Byler meta / ST theories & meta] posts

 Posting this to save people time looking through my posts.  Other (specifically short) character metas are at the very bottom of this post -past the byler links.last updated 9/30/2022

St theory:  Dissociative Identity disorder theory

*don’t really believe the did theory anymore- but I still believe Will may have created certain d&d creatures with his imagination (because of tra*ma).

Will created the mf & the upsidedown (DID psych/narrative analysis part 1) +  Will’s alters/split personalities  ( DID analysis Part 2). (tw:csa). extra supplemental evidence for part 2 :  here, here, here, here   here, here , here  here, here, here, *here ,*here, *here, here, here, here, here, here,here, *here, *here, here  , here part 3 (just possible proof of the DID theory from outside canon sources : st comics, novels, spotify playlists).supplemental video post for  DID posts : video evidence for mf/upsideown theory  

-crashcourse of evidence that Will created the upsidedown/mf

Lonnie sold m*th theory ( it relates to did theory/s3 stolen fertilizer and the flayed eating chemicals,etc. )

Other psych posts

- vecna, El, kali  (mental health) allegory 

-  vecna’s curse/“running up that hill” mental health allegory

The kids/teens are repeating their parent’s problematic teachings/mistakes

The parentification of Jonathan byers

jonathan Byers is repeating the same romantic mistakes as his mom

Tra*ma responses of Will & jonathan

analyzing the ab*se subtext between Lonnie & jonathan

- vecna  (mental health) allegory /pscyh hospital 

- “running up that hill” mental health allegory

- hargrove/mayfield and Byers family parallels

El & Post-institutional syndrome

El wanting to be “pretty” has nothing to do with crushes

The narrative meaning behind the song ‘should i stay or should i go’

The fathers of ST (narrative analysis) 

Why Mike resented Max

analyzing the phrase  ‘only love makes you that crazy and that damn stupid.” (in relation to steve, joyce, El, hopper, Will,mike, etc) + another ref  I forgot to mention related to the 1st post-here

Other theory/ meta /analyses posts

- Will & henry parallels

-crashcourse of evidence that Will created the upsidedown/mf

- All the psychic boys with bowl cuts : that the duffers reference in the show (cough it’s a lot)

- Analyzing all the door symbolism in st 

-analyzing all the rainbows in st 

-analyzing the food in st  

-Analyzing the religious symbolism in ST

-analyzing the clothes in stranger things (s1-3) + analyzing the clothes in the 004 trailer

-analyzing the flower symbolism in st

-All the references to fire (s1-3)

- The  spying/st#lking elements in ST + phone parallels .

-S3 ST ship disses

- narrative analysis “things” in stranger things 

-analyzing  every name in stranger things (comics, books,and religious symbolism/refs) 

-analyzing Will’s b day 

-Why Will is called a “cleric” & “wizard theory/analysis

-’catcher in the rye’ ref in ST

-clown symbolism (short post).

- ‘never ending story’ ref meaning/ new coke ref

-analyzing karen’s books

-Nancy /nevermore ref other nancy easteregg here

-just a cute parallel between Joyce & El other 

-jonathan & mike parallel here

Gif sets (with parallels)

here, here,here,here, here, here, and here

Byler meta/theories  

-m*leven paralleled to family members (s4)

-byler being paralleled to Robin/vickie (s4)

-m*leven vs byler parallels:Caring, letters, truth and superheroes:s4

- mike & El hiding their feelings at the airport (s4)

-presents/byler  v m*even analysis (s4)

- byler hints in part 1 & 2

- Mike’s s4 clothing =conforming to his parents’ loveless dynamic

-m*leven & ted/karen s4 parallel

- byler painting vs m*leven letter (visual parallel) (s4)

-byler/m*leven hill parallel (s4)

-Mike’s plagarized confession (s4)

-Mike’s confession : conformity k*lling kids (s4) /similar post here

- Byler lying about being “just” friends (s4)

-byler being paralleled to otherships in s4 -here, here, here, here, here

-superman/byler analysis (s4)

-byler s4 movie/show refs + here + here

pre s4…

Why Mike resented Max 

byler s4 theory/ s4 film analyses

- reasons to ship byler (vid) if you’re a byler shipper you should watch - you’ll love it :D. My other byler vids are on here too , on my youtube channel.

*summation -explaining all the points for why mileven isn’t endgame

*byler vs mileven parallels

funny m*leven & stancy parallel

funny m*leven & l*max parallel

* Kali, El, and Mike parallels (it’s sibling love, not romantic with m*leven)

- Byler is the main pairing of st ( all ship parallels and contrasts to one another). Aka which pairings aren’t endgame (jancy, jopper, Mileven and lumax) - and why.

* Mileven being referred to “romeo and juliet’ isn’t romantic- it’s another diss at their reationship

* Mike and projecting his  romantic feelings for Will on to El 

 -Stobin vs Mileven (parallels/contrasts)

Post s3 spotify songs hint at byler being endgame. -  The duffers choices in music prove byler is endgame (*short part 2 / and part 3 of this). part 4. And 004 song choices of byler-part 5 . part 6 mf and el hint

*script releases of s3 verifying my past anti-mileven interpretations of scenes.

Mileven isn’t “built up”(positively) like people claim 

-El is NOT in love with mike analysis

-Why I no longer think Mike is bi, but gay (deep-dive analysis)

Mike & El didn’t get back together at the end of s3 /  pt 2 /pt 3

- The duffers choices in music prove byler is endgame (*short part 2  / and part 3 of this).

-What Mike meant by “Not my fault you don’t like girls”

-Mike will ‘come out’ to his mother (prediction/theory)

-  d&d symbolism tells us Mike and Will love each other

-Dart & Dustin vs mileven parallels

- 80s movies referenced in the show, hint that Mike is gay

byler break up vs mileven fight

-Dustin knows what’s up…

- Lingerie-store vs sauna ( internalized homophobia analysis)

-  the mileven kisses were supposed to make you uncomfortable (physical intimacy vs being in love- show analysis)

- Byler hints in the background of s1-3

-BYLER MASTERPOST - ( mileven vs Byler parallels, why mileven isn’t endgame, Mike’s queer coding, will and El comparisons, the byler-centric ending interpretation, book/comic ref , extra stuff . Old post).

other Byler meta/ theories (down below)

 Byler in d&d comics

MAGNUM/anti mileven ref

-mileven being paralleled to Hopper/El (aka not romantic)

- mileven paralleled to Jopper and Karen/Billy

-dawson’s creek easter eggs in st- byler evidence (x) (x)

-IT easterggs -byler evidence

Weiterlesen

The Barbie movie isn't about girl power. It's not about how women can do everything they set their mind to. It's about how sometimes women are tired and average and that has to be okay too, because you don't have to do everything to be worth anything. (And that this is also true of men.)

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never forget what they took from us 😔

I never listen to men’s opinions in general but ESPECIALLY when it comes to movies. you’re going to tell, as a man, that the barbie movie was bad? you just can’t possible understand the complexities of the transition between girlhood and womanhood that happens before it should. you have no idea what it’s like to cling so desperately onto your own imagination as an adult after spending your pre-teen/teenage years pretending that playing with dolls and wearing pink was so beneath you. you don’t understand fighting with your mother only to one day realize she is living through you and doing all that she can to make sure you go leap and bounds further than her. men couldn’t possible grasp the impact watching Barbie herself cry and say she wasn’t perfect or pretty anymore, when your whole childhood was built around carrying her in your backpack and knowing that one day you’ll be the president, an astronaut, and a model because she was. because she was yours and you were her! yeah, the movie was silly and funny and self aware and maybe you don’t think it’s “that deep”, but as a woman you just get it. as someone growing up still in your childhood bedroom that no longer has a dream house but the dolls are still above you in the attic because you can’t throw them out, you get it

within the context of byler fights, i see a lot of people say that mike is short-tempered and like while that may be true i feel like will is even quicker to just... snap. like, he gets very emotional very quick. in their fights, mike's voice stays pretty constant and even, but will's quickly starts getting watery, loud, pointed, cracking, etc. he speaks from his chest. his tone goes up and down. he uses his hands a lot. his eyes are wild and wide and boring into mike, challenging him almost. he pokes at mike. still, mike doesn't escalate; he matches will's hurt with his own, but he doesn't outwardly burn quite as hot. not with him. i just.. idk. i think it's interesting. will's anger is often overlooked or outright ignored in fandom, but it's very clearly there.

a piece of me is still locked in there

I can’t remember if I have talked about this before but I think Charles might have been able to live. Like I don’t think it was certain but Edwin says he knows Charles wouldn't have survived because he could see him but Edwin has only just come back as a ghost and probably is operating on medicine from 70 years before hand. And they accept that some people who can see ghosts survived life threatening situations because that is what happened to Niko and what Monty claimed happened to him.

So I don’t think it is a certain thing but I think that maybe there was a chance and that Edwin becomes more aware of that as time goes on and feels horrendously guilty that he did nothing because Charles makes it very clear he didn't want to die. But eventually Charles finds out about these feelings and tells Edwin a) he doesn't and never would blame him for his death and b) if it was a choice between definitely dying peacefully beside Edwin or fighting for his life in a hospital and dying without ever getting to know him, whether he lived or not, Charles would pick the attic every time.