building a bond with yourself, as in
creating a gesture in lieu of giving yourself a hug
picking a small object to be your ‘mascot’ that you can keep on you as a lucky charm. holding it every time you feel particularly nervous
drawing your to-do list or other short-term goals as a board game, with rewards on some of the panels
setting an alarm for a time of your choosing throughout the day, labeling it ‘intermission’ and doing nothing for five to fifteen minutes
from my instagram
Even if you're not the target demographic, please share for any of your friends who may be.
And if you or someone you know would like to be added to the list, there's a place for that!
Did I daydream this, or was there a website for writers with like. A ridiculous quantity of descriptive aid. Like I remember clicking on " inside a cinema " or something like that. Then, BAM. Here's a list of smell and sounds. I can't remember it for the life of me, but if someone else can, help a bitch out <3
you’re hearing it more and more
protip when you need to buy something online directly from the brand's website you should put it in your cart, enter your email etc in the check-out process, and close the window right before you click purchase. sooner rather than later they will send you an email with a discount/promo. and if you do it again they MIGHT send you a bigger discount this one is a crapshoot but worth a try if you have the time. capitalism chicken
low energy ("do not ask me to do any prep work at all, so help me god")
mozzerella cheese wrapped in pepperoni ("pizza tacos"!)
hummus and pretzels or naan (putting the naan in the microwave for like 10 seconds...heavenly)
canned chili (with shredded cheese and sour cream if you have it! boom done!)
instant miso soup (warm and lovely!)
cheese and cured meat, olives, canned fish, crackers, dried fruit, or whatever easy "charcuterie" type items you like
alternate bites of apple and spoonfulls of peanut butter (mixing honey or chocolate chips to the peanut butter is my favorite)
a "deconstructed sandwich": bites of lunch meat, pickles, cheese, cherry tomato, etc (I love roast beef and white cheddar for this)
yogurt and granola or fruit
medium energy ("I'll boil water but don't ask me to chop shit")
boiled eggs and fresh veggies (put a little salt on top of the eggs for pizzaz!)
buttered noodles (take it up to level 10 and add roasted garlic; takes 30 mins in an oven, only one swoop of the knife required)
baked potato with toppings (I like cheese, bacon, broccoli, green onion, and sour cream)
quesadilla (add some canned beans, cilantro, or avocado!)
pot roast (requires a lot of time but not a lot of actual work. I love it with peas!)
cuban sandwich (bread, swiss, pickle, mustard, ham... my favorite thing to panini-ify by far)
pan-fried tofu with scallion sauce (this sauce goes well with everything and tofu is no exception)
pancakes or waffles! (I love mine with jam)
ham, pickle, and cream cheese roll-ups
fried eggs (with toast and lots of butter...so comforting)
fruit smoothie (bananas, frozen strawberries, yogurt...or whatever!)
I hate salad but could write essays on this copycat olive garden salad (throw it in a bowl! chopping required if you use onion)
spaghetti (controversial maybe but angel hair > spaghetti noodles)
pasta salad (olives broccoli fresh mozerella... those little mini pepperonis... yeah)
high energy ("I don't mind chopping some things up!")
stuffed shells with spinach
chicken and roasted garlic (oh my god.....one of my all time favorites)
beef tacos (I like mine with cilantro and onion, and when I'm feeling especially high energy I love a tomatillo salsa)
chicken alfredo
tom kha gai (a thai soup and my absolute favorite! you just need access to galangal)
lasagna! (freezes well and then boom! low energy meal for later)
pad thai! (not as hard as you'd think, as long as you have access to tamarind paste!)
potstickers! (this is a lovely group activity if you want to cook with housemates!)
rice and beans
bang bang shrimp (ogughfhgfuh I love it. you can also do bang bang tofu!)
minestrone soup (so many nice veggies!)
fried rice (put whatever you have on hand in there! broccoli, peas, carrot, and beef is my favorite combo)
broccoli cheddar soup
spring rolls and peanut sauce
skewers (such as beef, onion, zucchini, bell pepper... you don't need a grill, oven works!)
roasted turkey with garlic parmesean asparagus
pork chop with mashed potatoes
other tips:
whenever you think of a meal you'd like to make, take 3 seconds to google search it, take a screenshot of the image results, and put it in a "food ideas" folder. instant visual menu!
if you're on instagram, there are a bajillion different recipe accounts that post videos! a few of my favorites: jipsoon_kitchen, eatwitzo, cordandthekitchen, chungeats, tiffy.cooks, two_plaid_aprons
Found that How To Disappear Online post again, linking it here for anyone who might need it or know someone who needs it. This is very good information for people trying to escape abusers or stalkers, or who simply do not want to be found.
⛓: this is more for myself than anything, to be able to understand astrology and study it well, and keep track to not forget anything. however i figured other people would find it useful as well. i will always update it if i find it to be useful or necessary! <3 if i got anything wrong, please tell. look at this as an information pit! <3
these are mainly descriptions of what is ruled by what.
THE HOUSES
1st house self, appearance, beginnings, body, firsts, attitude, identity, life views and morals
2nd house money, work, routines, priorities & values, habits, ambition, material stuff
3rd house mind, thoughts, communication, siblings, childhood, interest and hobbies
4th house femininity, family, children, home, emotions, self love
5th house romance, love, joy, fertility, emotion overflow, self expression, creativity and playfullness
6th house health, analytical nature, pleasing attitude, pets/animals, organisation
7th house relationships, sharing, life-long decisions, future partners, interpersonal style, equality
8th house intimacy, sex, boundaries, privacy, goals, society
9th house intelligence, education, will, mental stimulation, religion and culture
10th house masculinity, fame, success, career, reputation, public image, mental health
11th house personal bubble, social relations, friends, ignorance, technology, hopes, future
12th house healing, closure, karma, spirituality, secrets, subconscious, after life, old age
THE PLANETS
the sun individuality, pride, succes, energy
the moon personality, emotions, intuition, sensitivity, desires
mercury communication, thinking, sensory, learning
venus sociability, friendships, luxury, values, skill
mars dynamic energy, will power, aggressiveness, sex drive
saturn ambition, freedom, restrictions, realism
jupiter optimism, justice, health, wealth
neptune idealism, illusions, creativity, psychic powers
uranus news, sudden changes, knowledge, clarity, innovation
pluto transformation, sex, spirituality, evolution, extremes
THE ZODIACS
aries head, brain, face
taurus throat, neck, lips, jaw
gemini lungs, hands, arms
cancer breasts, ribs, chest
leo heart, sack, spine, forearms
virgo stomach, intestines, lower spine, fingers
libra skin, kidneys, lumbar region,
scorpio bladder, anus, nose, appendix
sagittarius hips, nerves, thighs, alteries
capricorn knees, joints, teeth
aquarius leg, ankles, blood
pisces feet, toes, lymphatic system
CONNECTIONS
1st house rules Mars which rules Aries
2nd house rules Venus which rules Taurus and Libra
3rd house rules Mercury which rules Gemini and Virgo
4th house rules the Moon which rules Cancer
5th house rules the sun which rules Leo
6th house rules Mercury which rules Gemini and Virgo
7th house rules Venus which rules Taurus and Libra
8th house rules Pluto and Mars which rule Scorpio
9th house rules Jupiter which rules Sagittarius
10th house rules Saturn which rules Capricorn and Aquarius
11th house rules Saturn and Uranus which rule Aquarius (and Capricorn)
12th house rules Neptune and Jupiter which rule Pisces
OTHER ELEMENTS
north node your destiny and karmic path
lilith strength, growth, shadow self, impulses, psyche
chiron pain and healing
fortune ur big 3 <3 (sun, moon, rising)
vertex uncontrollable fate
ascendant (ac) the way people view you
descendant (dc) relationship with others
imuni coeli (ic) origins, trauma, family, security
midheaven (mc) reputation and desired self
DEGREES
cardinal signs aries, cancer, libra, and capricorn 0, 13, and 26 degrees
fixed signs taurus, leo, scorpio, and aquarius 8-9 and 21-22 degrees
mutable signs gemini, virgo, sagittarius, and pisces 4 and 17 degrees
🖇: my knowledge on the degrees isn't far stretched, i will be updating this part as soon as I will be more educated on them.
What’s the issue with mainstream crisis lines?
In January 2022, an article came out that exposed the fact that the Crisis Text Line was selling personal data to for-profit companies. The Trevor Project also was mentioned in this article for sharing data with Google and Meta.
They aren’t the only crisis lines with issues: this article that also came out in January 2022 talks about how the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is ignoring the testimony from their Lived Experience Committee about stopping involvment with cops, and is working with the Federal Communications Comission to try to get permission to use a newer type of mass surveillence technology during their calls.
Quote from the article: “Basically, Vibrant/NSPL argued that everyone who calls, texts, or chats through the new 988 number should have their personal information and exact current geolocation to within three meters exposed to NSPL call centers automatically, immediately, and by default.”
Beyond these ethical issues around data collection, a huge problem with almost every single crisis line is their policies of “active rescue”: basically, what this means is that crisis lines will track your location and send police to your location if they think you’re at risk of harming yourself. This happens hundreds of thousands of times every single year. This is extremely dangerous, especially for Black people using these lines. There are examples of people being shot because of calls made to hotlines where police showed up. Police showing up also leads to forced psychiatric incarceration. I personally have had the police called on me twice through a crisis line that I thought was anonymous; they showed up, entered my room without my consent, and searched me without my consent. They literally made everything in that moment worse.
If people want to learn more about the history of police involvment and crisis lines, here’s an article.
Avoid hotlines that call the cops:
Crisis Text Line
Trevor Project
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
NAMI helpline
LGBT National Hotline
SAMHSA National Hotline
List of State Crisis Lines that all call cops
Alternatives that do not share data or call the cops
Pretty much every national and mainstream crisis line calls the cops. A general rule of thumb is that unless it specifically mentions that it doesn’t call the cops on their website, it does. I also haven’t done a ton of research on the data sharing side for the lines I’m listing below, but if anyone has any more info please let me know and I’ll update the list.
National:
Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860, 24/7
THRIVE: text message line at 313-662-8209, 24/7
Promise Resource Network: (833) 390-7728, 24/7
Project Return Peer Support Network: (888) 448-9777 English or (888) 448-4055 Spanish, hours are Monday through Friday 2:30 PM to 10:00 PM and Saturday and Sunday 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM
Wildflower Alliance Peer Support Line: 888-407-4515, hours are 7pm to 9pm Monday through Thursday and 7pm-10pm Friday through Sunday
Key Consumer Organization: 800-933-5397, hours are 8am - 4:30pm, Monday - Friday.
MBRLC Peer Support Line: 877-733-7563, hours are 4 pm-7:45 pm every day.
Check out this page for a directory of warmlines by state. These are much less likely to call the cops, but it’s good to check with each individual one about specific policies.
If anyone has more info, please add on!