Qinghua Cuddles Solve EVERYTHING.

I think that there should be more hybrid AUs that have this misunderstanding specifically...

Bonus!!

Actually Hua Cheng just leaving Ghost City the second Xie Lian shows up is so fucking funny because that man radiates neurosis.

You can not tell me every second he spent not searching for Xie Lian he was not micromanaging that city with a fine tooth comb literally acting as mayor, judge, law enforcement and James Gatsby probably while learning some niche new information on the side. Dragging along his equally workaholic desperate to be useful sectary with his designated emo phase mask and a shovel for like 600 years only to immediately yeet all his responsibilities onto Yin Yu’s overstimulated lap with a hair twirl and giggling about his Gege.

Like I think 4 months after he comes back and is chilling in the honeymoon phase he’ll wake up at 3am realise he hasn’t looked an abacus in over a year and go on a rampage fully fuelling Yin Yu into a fully formed wrath with sheer insanity because THERE IS WORK TO DO. He’s gotta paint the city from #8B0000 to #DC143C all before Xie Lian wakes up and realises he’s let his city go to ruins.

Mobei-jun, who always has nice things to say about Shang Qinghua’s writing (mostly because he has no standards for good earth literature), but usually doesn’t get to reading it until a few days, versus Shen “You couldn’t PAY me to read this” Qingqiu, who practically rips the pages from Shang Qinghua’s hands once they’re finished and comes back with full annotations in the next two hours

standards? What are those again?

Local trans girl SQQ and her dumb fucking hamster bf

good ending

they are two whole dumbasses and I love them

cumplane doodle dump

also modern cumplane with tfem shen yuan

I don’t have issues for the other main MXTX ships, because the romance in TGCF and MDZS does not suffer from a lot of those issues. Hualian is a VERY healthy relationship/romance, with a lot of the issues that COULD be brought up being dealt with or explained later. Wangxian starts out with some questionable things (for example: teen lwj wanting to SA wwx), but they’re resolved BEFORE the couple begins to view each other in a genuine romantic light, and when they’re brought up again, LWJ doesn’t gaslight WWX about it, and is apologetic. He doesn’t make excuses or manipulate him, and they have enough trust built up at that point and open communication that WWX is able to understand it.

That said, I still am open about these issues with people I recommend the series to. That’s because even if contextually, certain aspects that would be toxic in other pairings might work in this one, it doesn’t CHANGE the actions of the characters. As fans, it’s part of our responsibility to make sure newer fans have a good experience in fandom. This doesn’t mean you have to change what you do - but simply be open about your content and fandom (thoroughly tagging, acknowledging problematic aspects, and being kind towards differing opinions), and allowing people to make informed choices to choose to interact or not interact with content.

Both Bingqiu and Moshang undoubtedly have toxic/questionable aspects to their relationship, but when looking at why I think Moshang works, and Bingqiu just doesn’t, I mainly point to how the “abuse” of their partners is handled.

When SQQ is abused by Binghe, Binghe plays the victim. Instead of being straightforward and serious, he cries and pleads, making HIMSELF the one in need of comfort, and causing SQQ to feel bad for being the ACTUAL victim. Moreover, Binghe is FULLY AWARE what he’s doing when he hurts or manipulates Qingqiu. There isn’t an excuse there.

Meanwhile, with MBJ and SQH, there’s a clear reason for their miscommunication: an issue of culture. While Binghe was raised in human society, Mobei-jun is very much attuned to demon culture - and has blind spots. But unlike Binghe, when he becomes aware of the harm he’s doing, and how it’s being perceived, he doesn’t play the victim:

He sincerely apologizes to Shang Qinghua

He offers a way of “correcting” it

He then tries to do what Shang Qinghua had told him would be better understood, showing that he cares more about Qinghua’s feelings than tradition.

Mobei-Jun isn’t mean, like I see a lot of fanworks imply. Mobei-Jun sincerely does NOT WANT to hurt Shang Qinghua, and when he realizes he is, he stops. Binghe hurts Shen Qingqiu knowingly, and when he does, he plays the victim or guilts Shen Qingqiu. This is why Moshang, in my eyes, just works.

You were so young

Mermaid Huaisang… Nie Koisang… idek but HERE HE IS!