Ive Been Affirming All Day For Few Days, When I Fall Asleep Im So Confident And Happy That I Will Wake

so real i start looking at photos of him on pinterest and have to put the phone down cuz i go crazy

me thinking of all the stuff me & my s/o are gonna do (I’m too shy to even look at pictures of him in THIS reality)

no cuz like if anyone actually does me wrong im sorry u will lose all ur hair thats just how it works🙏🏻🙏🏻

yall i miss my mans😔😔😔

had a dream abt the walking dead which reminded me exactly why i dont shift there

How do you get over the fear of never shifting

how to get over the fear of never shifting?

right, so you’re afraid you’ll never shift. you’re staring down the barrel of an eternal non-event, the metaphysical equivalent of a dinner party where the host never shows and you’re left nursing a warm gin and wondering why you ever put on shoes. the fear, then, is not just about shifting. it’s about stagnation, about the existential itch that nothing will ever happen to you, that you are, in the grand scheme of things, a closed-loop system with no exit ramp. it’s about the dread of being one of those people who say they want to do things and then never do them, like men who buy poetry books and never turn past the preface.

let’s establish something !!! this isn’t a you problem. this is an everyone problem. but listen. listen. that doesn’t mean nothing is happening. the want itself is movement. the yearning is proof of life.

but fear can be embarrassing. the fear is what stops you from talking about it in public. the fear is what makes you try to force it, and forcing it never works. this is a truth universally acknowledged, like how the people who tell you to “just relax” are always the ones who never have to try at anything.

so, how do you get over it? you don’t. not in the way you’re thinking.

you don’t kill it, or banish it. what you do is you turn the volume down. you remind yourself that shifting is not a limited resource, it is not an exclusive club. you reframe it, because fear, at its core, is a trick of perspective. if you treat shifting like a test you’re doomed to fail, then congratulations, you have built yourself a failure machine. if you treat it like a game, like a book you can open and step into at will, then suddenly it becomes something else entirely, something less cruel, less elusive. something possible.

and listen, i could do the whole inspirational speech thing, the "trust the process," "it happens when you least expect it," "insert comforting platitude here. you can do it, you're always doing it, bla bla bla." but that’s not what you need. what you need is this: shifting is a skill. sort of. it’s not a mystery, not some divine lottery where the lucky few get golden tickets to willy wonka's chocolate factory and the rest of us are left behind in the cold. it’s a skill, which means it can be developed, honed, mastered. and if you can accept that, then suddenly, the fear loses its fangs. it becomes background noise, static on the radio. it becomes something you can live with, something you can drown out with the sheer audacity of your wanting.

so, the next time the fear comes knocking, let it in. let it sit at your table. but do not let it drive. do not let it make the rules. because the fear, when you really break it down, is just this: a refusal to believe in your own capacity for transformation. and if there’s one thing i know about you, it’s that you’ve never been one to stay the same.

I genuinely have a massive crush on my s/o

　　. . . stop putting pressure on shifting and loa ౨ৎ  i’m begging. hands and knees. nicole-kidman-in-babygirl-level pathetic. all work and no play makes jack a dull boy. all pressure and no silliness makes you a shifting chokehold artist. not cute. not camp. so why are you treating shifting like some corporate ladder you’ve got to climb in one go? why are you looking at loa like it’s a performance review waiting to tank? 

shifting is supposed to be fun!!!!!!!!! it’s supposed to feel like giggling at 3 am about how you’re gonna waltz into some alternate reality and seduce a fictional character. it’s supposed to be the kind of ridiculous that makes you laugh out loud because, you’re trying to script what your hair smells like in another world. that’s the magic. it’s light. it’s playful. it’s camp as hell. you’re allowed to have fun, to mess around, to let it all feel easy. you don’t have to wake up every day and white-knuckle your affirmations like it’s a legal deposition. shifting is meant to be yours. dreamy, light, free!!!! like a little skip in the clouds. not something that makes your stomach knot.

when you’re treating shifting like some corporate KPI or the olympics of manifestation, you’re missing the point. stop squeezing so tight. you’re not building a seven-figure empire; you’re daydreaming with a purpose. stop choking it. breathe. unclench. shifting isn’t the SATs. there are no bonus points for being the most serious or stressed about it.

you wanna know what works? what really works?????? not taking it so seriously. take the pressure off. there’s power in absurdity, in letting yourself be a little silly. lean into the fun. play around with the idea of it. laugh at yourself. go outside, sit under a tree, eat something sweet, let your brain daydream for the hell of it. shifting works better when you’re not treating it like an unpaid internship. loosen your grip. loosen your mind. loosen you. shifting is not your boss. loa is not your boss. you’re in charge here. and frankly, if you’re not spilling a drink while scribbling in your journal or dancing to some unhinged playlist about your dr, you’re doing it wrong.

loosen up. let it be fun. you are not shifting wrong because you laughed too much or didn’t meditate for 45 minutes in lotus position. joy is an amplifier. camp is an amplifier. being a little ridiculous IS AN amplifier!!!!!!!!

and here’s the tipsy genius bit i’ll drop, margarita in hand BECAUSE I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND THIS!!!!!! shifting isn’t about proving anything to anyone, including yourself. it’s about creating magic, and magic thrives on curiosity, silliness, and the occasional over-the-top flair. so get out there and be a little unhinged about it. script something stupid. throw glitter on your vision board. vibe with it. don’t choke it out. you’re doing great. keep going, but for god’s sake, keep it silly.

you’re already everything you need to be. you’re already on your way. just let it be fun. before you know it, you'll be having fun in your dr too.

new hotd dr idea

need to kiss him

My favourite sound, my serotonin boost ❤️

so here’s why i personally didn't like *and* left shifttok. the thing is. it’s not that it’s inherently bad, it’s just… sort of missing the point. like, wasn’t the whole goal to shift? to get out, to go somewhere else, to slip through the cracks of reality like a goddamn pro? but somewhere along the way, it turned into a glorified pinterest board. edits on edits on edits. wattpad drabbles disguised as scripts. playlists that are less about actually shifting and more about curating an aesthetic, a moodboard, a vibe. and suddenly, you’re not shifting, you’re just making content about shifting.

like, i get it. romanticising your dr is half the fun. i did and still do it myself !! who doesn’t want to bask in the idea of their perfect world? but when that becomes the main event, when it overtakes the actual act of shifting, what are we even doing here? it’s like planning a trip, making all the itineraries, buying cute outfits, but then never getting on the plane. just sitting in your room, looking at your suitcase, rewatching your own tiktoks about how fun the trip is gonna be. that’s what shifttok became. this endless loop of people hyping up their drs but not actually going to them.

and maybe that’s the problem. because if you spend too much time making your dr look good instead of actually experiencing it, you start treating it like fiction. like something separate from you, instead of something you’re literally living. people started making edits of their drs like they were making fandom edits of a tv show. like, is this a real place you’re shifting to or is it just your latest hyperfixation? be honest. you spend so much time cooped up on video star or capcut and suddenly you don't remember the last time you affirmed or even thought about shifting.

and i’m not saying you can’t have fun with it. obviously, dream up the most insane, gorgeous, cinematic dr possible. but at some point, you have to ask yourself: am i actually trying to shift? or am i just roleplaying the idea of shifting? because shifttok is great at making shifting look cool. but the second you start seeing your dr as something to be consumed rather than something to be lived, you’ve already lost the plot.

so yeah. i left, and as soon as i did, i started actually shifting. because i actually wanted to do it. not just make a trailer for a movie i’m never gonna watch. does this make sense?????