What Do You Think About Toxic Masculinity? What Is Your Own Idea Of Masculinity?
What do you think about toxic masculinity? What is your own idea of masculinity?
I think the term toxic masculinity is a broad one, which unfortunately is increasingly degenerating into a buzzword. And I say "unfortunately" because the term describes important and existing problems that still prevail in the minds of many people and is responsible for a not insignificant amount of suffering on the part of individuals and their environment.
That being said, I don't think I can really add much to this rather general question, as more specific questions or deeper exchanges are needed at this point.
In order to shed light on my own image of masculinity, it is important to understand that it is divided into two different images. On the one hand, I have the idea that a man does not have to have specific characteristics (other than the biological characteristics of a man, if we are in a biological context) to be a man; a rather rational idea of masculinity that I apply to other people. The other idea is the one I apply to myself, which is less infused with rationality and more influenced by bad role models and years of negative influence during developmentally critical periods of my life; I recognize many of the negative traits of this idea in myself and am aware of their negativity as well, but that doesn't change how I feel about them - There is a difference in understanding on a rational level that something is harmful and actually internalizing that as a feeling within yourself.
Being aware of these problems, I reflected on them and found ways not to make them the problems of others for the most part and to limit negative consequences solely to myself. Is that healthy? Certainly not, but it is better than including others in this negative cycle that I am unfortunate enough to be a part of.
Maybe I will be able to get rid of this idea someday, maybe I never will be able to; after all, it didn't form over night and it won't disappear over night.
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I like your humor, but what is the real reason?
The real reason is that I know how people work and I don’t use it for the benefit of those close to me. I hurt people, often the ones I care about the most.
The closer they get to me, the stronger this effect is and this is one of the main reasons why I don’t want to let anyone get into this position anymore.
A former partner told me that I was like poison and that, as with many things, it would depend on the dosage, but that any one close to me would sooner or later get a lethal dose.
I guess she was right about that.
Kugelmensch
Four arms, four legs
and a head with two faces.
We wanted too much
endagered those in high places.
So they tore us apart
in fear of our power;
been searching for you
since this very hour.
Echoing your name
in every new thought;
to feel you once more
was what my heart sought.
And you found me again
which made me feel whole;
and freed all those things
I still can't control.
Our time was cut short
I know love is blind;
but I still can't believe
that you left me behind.
by Weltenasche.
Parallelen
Die Zeit sie zog ins Land
und Nacht um Nacht
war ich erschreckt,
was ich in ihrem Laufe fand.
Stillschweigend
habe ich darüber nachgedacht;
wie im Traum
nur niemals bin ich aufgewacht.
Es war dein Tausch
Schweigen;
das berauschten Worten wich,
doch niemals einer Wahrheit glich.
Die Zeit sie zog ins Land
und mit ihr
die Gewissheit,
dass ich dich tief in mir fand.
by Weltenasche.
Beyond words
In a world full of words, their purpose is clear,
to describe all we see, hold, and revere;
Yet when I tried to mantle you in written attire,
words could not fathom the love you inspire.
For you, my dear, defy all description,
a realm beyond words, a unique prescription;
In silence, your essence found its way,
where words, in wonder, still fail to portray.
by Weltenasche.
Would you agree that you should follow your heart and that what makes you feel good is always right for you?
Again, I would like to mention that words like "right" and "wrong" have no special meaning. I think nothing is inherently right or wrong, just as nothing is good or bad; these are all just categories into which we divide the world so as not to be overwhelmed by its complexity. With that being said, I don't think that everything that feels good is good or right for you unless you look at it from a hedonistic point of view.
Dunkelheit
Dunkelheit umfinstert
was einstig hell noch war
erobert, gar umnachtet
was früher mal so klar.
Entspringt ihr bald ein Nebel
von düsterer Gestalt
ein Durchblick gar unmöglich
man sieht nur Baum, nicht Wald.
Es bleibt die Frage übrig:
Was bestärkt sie dieser Macht
wenn sie in ihrem Treiben
nicht mehr als Leiden schafft?
Die Antwort, die kennt keiner
ein jeder drückt sich sehr
denn wer ihr einst entkommen
der scheut nur Rückkehr mehr.
- by Weltenasche.
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