All These "just Say You're Bi Lol I Promise It Is Okay To Be Bi" Posts Are Always Written In Bad Faith.

The problem with commercial F/M romance is that it's written by the most heterosexual women alive and reading it you feel yourself slowly suffocating from the Gender of it all like a fish in a eutrophying lake. And what we actually need as a culture is F/M written by insane bisexuals violently allergic to heteronormativity

Hesticarn Flags 🌸🌸❤️🌺🌺

Hesticarn, bi hesticarn, lesbian hesticarn, and sapphic hesticarn flags (in that order)

Hesticarn is a mixture of butch, femme, and futch, at an almost even balance, but is always/often incorporating a sparkly, pink, or typically feminine aesthetic

Hesticarns might feel liberation from wearing pink dresses but with sneakers, being a motherly/maternal figure to others but like in a fruity big bro sense, doing traditionally masculine activities but with a girly aesthetic like working out but with pink weights or pink gym clothes, dressing completely masc but with glittery pink lipgloss, and redefining what a mix of butch and femme means to them. It’s giving Barbie Butch. Think pink suits and ties rather than pink dresses. Or pink dresses but with hairy legs and “sitting/behaving masculine”. It’s however a sapphic transforms butch and femme identities while always/often incorporating girly/pink aesthetic in some form.

The name is derived from Hestia, the Greek Goddess of the Hearth, and Carnations, a flower (which is also the flower on the sapphic hesticarn flag!)

Why is the in-general hesticarn flag (for bisexuals, lesbians, all sapphics) almost identical to the bisexual hesticarn flag? 1. The crescent moon on the bi hesticarn flag will tell them apart and 2. It’s okay for different identity flags to look similar, the genderfluid flag would basically be the asexual flag if you swap the pink and blue with the grey, 3. Bi women are pushed out of butch and femme spaces so much I wanted to create a butch/femme identity flag that was centred on bi sapphics, even though it does represents all sapphics!

Flags open to all sapphics! Bisexuals, bi+ wlw, lesbians, unlabelled sapphics, nblw, etc!

Bumbleby Galaxy Bi Icons 💫

Flag made by Laurie Ray

Here is a sapphic songs spotify playist for bisexual women with songs made by bisexual women 🩷💜💙 (just to be clear, it's not my playlist. I'm just highlighting it)

we have reached a new level of hatred for bi women even i thought unimaginable. you're criticizing fascist cops? yeah well, you like bi women and that's obviously more harmful. gotcha!

like, i haven't even watched TLOK so maybe there's something i'm missing about a certain aspect of their relationship (i honestly don't know, maybe @bisexual-coala could confirm), but instead of choosing to point out something that might be legitimately problematic, your discomfort is with bisexuality...

and as one of my twitter mutuals pointed out, this is one of the few times i've seen korassami not get erased as lesbians ─ because now it's apparently bad to like them instead of the actual les4les couple*!

don't ever tell us prejudice towards bisexuals always has a reasonable, founded basis again. 🖕

*this is not me sharing my opinion on caitvi or claiming you should(n't) like them. however, it's usually a good idea to be critical of certain elements in media.

i feel like if you want to have solidarity with bisexuals you should think about which experiences you consider gay/lesbian exclusive & whether that’s really the case. like. looking visibly gay or being gnc or having a complex relationship with gender bc of your sexuality or experiencing homophobia or having your experiences “stolen” by being in the closet or having your sexuality be a major influence on your life or wanting to look a certain way for men/women bc you’re mlm/wlw etc., ive seen many gay men & lesbians reblogging bi & gay solidarity posts who treated those things like exclusively gay/lesbian experiences when they’re very obviously not

I read Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality by Julia Shaw and I was shocked at how much more severe the issue of biphobia and bimisogyny is than most people, even within the bisexual community, even realize. I’ve posted links to the relevant quotes from this book and organized them under these broad points:

bi men are targeted by both homophobia and biphobia; biphobia bi men experience is a materially distinct oppression than homophobia;

bi women are targeted by both lesbophobia and biphobia; bimisogyny, the intersection of misogyny and biphobia, is a materially distinct oppression from lesbophobia;

bisexuals of color, disabled bisexuals, and trans/nb bisexuals experience profound erasure from bi representation and scholarship, and access to necessary resources;

bi people experience "double discrimination"/biphobia from the straight and gay communities; bi ppl are at risk of discrimination for bisexuality specifically;

This biphobic discrimination in the gay community goes back decades;

the terminology used to describe gay rights is often exclusive of us to a damaging degree. this means in addition to specific biphobic struggles, bisexuals often must face generalized homophobia without the "buffer" of acceptance in the larger LGBT+ community and with some enhanced difficulties acquiring LGBT+ resources; and finally,

positive aspects of bisexuality and bi identity/nuance corner.

The most important information I found is that bi+ people have a higher rate of mental health issues, suicidal and self-harm issues, addiction, isolation, rape, IPV, stalking, abuse, and are less likely to be out as bisexual or to have strong connections to the larger LGBT+ community to act as a buffer against discrimination, as opposed to lesbians and gay men. They are also erased and denied access to LGBT+ spaces, resources, and legal protections. As opposed to gay men and lesbians, the particularities of the bisexual experience includes 1) experiencing double discrimination, 2) less likely to be out, resulting in mental health issues 3) bisexuals are more isolated on average than LG people, and 4) bisexuals struggle with internalized biphobia. I've broken down these arguments and sourced further information on the material affects of biphobia here on my Wordpress blog, since Tumblr won't let me post the full quote all at once, but you can find the quotes with the specific research and studies I'm basing these claims on in my tag for this book or under my general book quotes link, #education multiplies power

Bi women, you should never feel ashamed. Never.

Of being bisexual. You are not greedy, you are not looking for attention, you are not actually just gay/lesbian or straight, you are you, and that is beautiful.

Of liking women. You are not a sinner, you are not impure, you are not being sexy or fetishized for men, you are not following a “trend”. You are not broken, you are you and that is beautiful.

Of liking men. You are not faker, you are not a traitor to the queer community, you are not putting on an act or lying for attention, you are you and that is beautiful.

Of liking nonbinary folks. You are not secretly pansexual. You are not “defying the definition of bisexual” (the definition of bisexuality has attraction to nonbinary folks anyways) you are you and that is beautiful.

Of being a woman. You are not made to just take care of the house and kids (but if you want to that’s okay!) you are not a sex object, you are not weaker than men, you are you and that is beautiful.

Of being a feminist. You are not too loud or angry or dramatic, you are not hateful, you are not “unnecessarily political”, you are not shrill or annoying, you are you and that is beautiful.

Please never feel ashamed. Please treat yourself kindly. Stay hydrated, give yourself a hug, remember that you are awesome. Please love yourself. If you are having difficulties doing so, be patient with yourself, and just try to love yourself. Do it for me. Because I have felt shame for all of these reasons and I’m finally happy with myself exactly as I am. If I could do it, so can you

i feel like i never really see affirmation anymore for bisexuals who don’t have a preference, for bisexuals whose fluidity is constantly changing, for bisexuals who simply do not want or care about categorizing their attraction to every gender. as a bisexual i hate getting asked “what do you prefer?” because it forces me to simplify my complex relationship with my sexuality. it’s also a biphobe’s insidious way of asking “so are you actually straight or actually gay?” people can also use whatever label they identify with, but when you try to push the “bi means gender plays a factor into your attraction/you have a preference” definition, you are a part of the problem. you’re making people who identify as bi hyperanalyze their own sexuality. bisexuals do not need to think about who they prefer. i’m just tired of seeing every single post on social media about bi people being in relationship to preferences.

preferences are just not something i think about. i know i love everyone and that’s all i need to know. and i want this to be affirmation to anyone who is bisexual. you are not some meter in a scale. you don’t have to make a bar graph to explain your attraction to different genders. you can love everyone point blank full stop. your experiences will always be more important than having to define yourself. just live your bisexual life and keep being perfect 💗💜💙

wow everyone, the sunset was really ugly today, this planet we live on has such an unnecessary view 😒:

all biphobes ever do is lie, and this is perfect proof lmao