i feel like i never really see affirmation anymore for bisexuals who don’t have a preference, for bisexuals whose fluidity is constantly changing, for bisexuals who simply do not want or care about categorizing their attraction to every gender. as a bisexual i hate getting asked “what do you prefer?” because it forces me to simplify my complex relationship with my sexuality. it’s also a biphobe’s insidious way of asking “so are you actually straight or actually gay?” people can also use whatever label they identify with, but when you try to push the “bi means gender plays a factor into your attraction/you have a preference” definition, you are a part of the problem. you’re making people who identify as bi hyperanalyze their own sexuality. bisexuals do not need to think about who they prefer. i’m just tired of seeing every single post on social media about bi people being in relationship to preferences.
preferences are just not something i think about. i know i love everyone and that’s all i need to know. and i want this to be affirmation to anyone who is bisexual. you are not some meter in a scale. you don’t have to make a bar graph to explain your attraction to different genders. you can love everyone point blank full stop. your experiences will always be more important than having to define yourself. just live your bisexual life and keep being perfect 💗💜💙
The other side of the token of the repost yesterday (the "Why bother write characters in heteronormative relationships?" One). This was created by one of my favourite bi content creators on YouTube. I don't agree with every single detail, but I agree on the essence.
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i feel like if you want to have solidarity with bisexuals you should think about which experiences you consider gay/lesbian exclusive & whether that’s really the case. like. looking visibly gay or being gnc or having a complex relationship with gender bc of your sexuality or experiencing homophobia or having your experiences “stolen” by being in the closet or having your sexuality be a major influence on your life or wanting to look a certain way for men/women bc you’re mlm/wlw etc., ive seen many gay men & lesbians reblogging bi & gay solidarity posts who treated those things like exclusively gay/lesbian experiences when they’re very obviously not
a slur that's used to target sapphics, especially ones that are butch, masc, and/or androgynous (not exclusive though)
dark brown represents black and brown sapphics, as they've historically been the backbone of our community and are so extensively targeted yet so underrepresented
purple represents butches and studs, and general sapphic masculinity and androgyny
pink(1) represents unapologetic queer love for women which may include nonbinary genders
pink(2) represents transgender and nonbinary dykes
orange represents gender nonconformity
im reclaiming the labrys (double-sided axe) as a symbol of empowerment and strength within ALL sapphics regardless of status (ex. bisexual, trans, nonbinady, pansexual, etc.) the labrys flag was adopted by violent queerphobic/misogynistic terfs. im reclaiming it from that hatred and using it as a symbol of sapphic strength and empowerment. i also added the sapphic flower symbol into the axe to emphasize sapphism.
bisexual sapphics are allowed to be assigned lesbianism, but never may they have autonomy to label themselves.
The thing is, radfems (and other biphobic lesbians) DON'T have a problem with bisexual women using "lesbian terms". Not really.
They see a woman talking about her attraction to women, and call her a lesbian with no further thought. They see a masc woman, and they call her a butch, or the d-slur (affectionately). They see a pair of women in a relationship, they call them a "lesbian couple". They see no issue with these things. If you have a problem with it, maybe you should figure out why you have such a big problem with the word "lesbian"!
It's good, when it's used for bisexual erasure. Thus, the only conclusion we can draw is that their real problem lies in bisexual women having the autonomy to call themselves these terms.
the bi one is definitely my favourite
inspired by the og bisexual and sapphic flags!
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