Do You Have Any Advice For Dealing With Kleptomania? I'm Realizing I Might Be...uh...that, And It's One

Reminder from someone with actual literal brain damage from a brain injury to stop fucking using "brain damage" and "brain injuries" as a means of describing someone whose opinions you don't like or deem as stupid.

It's ableist and offensive as fuck, and for some reason a lot of leftist people think it's okay to use. I've seen posts replying to right wing racists calling them "brain damaged if you believe this" and "do you have a brain injury? do you not understand X?". Just now I saw a beautiful post about fat people throughout history that was absolutely ruined by opening with "How do we break it to boomers with actual brain damage and nostalgic brainrot..." before continuing to say that fat people existed throughout history.

Brain damage does not make you racist. A brain injury doesn't make you ignorant, or fatphobic, or unaware of history and politics. Stop fucking using my disability as a catch all to describe people you think are shitty. Y'all use it like it's a replacement for how people used to use the R-slur, which shows you learned absolutely nothing about why the R-slur was wrong to use and decided to throw in other disabilities instead. Fuck off and stop doing it.

(And don't do it with other disabilities either, because I know y'all do.)

I know a lot of people with brain injuries. They're smart, and funny, and compassionate. They learn about the world and care about social issues and wish they could go to protests if their disability won't allow them to. Are there right wing people with brain injuries? Sure, absolutely. But they are not right wing because they have a brain injury, and using any disability as an insult is still fucking ableist.

Tldr - stop using brain damage and brain injury as an insult. It's ableist and incredibly offensive.

Love, your local brain injured/brain damaged pal

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Man, I’m going to have to put something like ‘lifters don’t interact’ on klepto things going forward, aren’t I? Like it really sucks, but they make actual!kleptos look shittier than we already are and I don’t want people to think the two are the same thing.

some of y’all will be like “yeah i support autistic people” and then go bully the weird kid at school

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Petch is an amputee.

no you won’t be “high support needs” “like me” if you just unmasked, especially if choose to unmask, thank you very much.

‘how do you expect people who have been abused by someone with NPD to refer to their abuse then?’

by calling it what it is: emotional abuse.

it’s not difficult.

slapping the word ‘narcissistic’ on the front of abuse is blindly assigning blame and associating the abusive behaviours with NPD, despite the fact that nowhere in the criteria does it state any abusive behaviours as a symptom.

i understand that people who are severely mentally unwell are more prone to abusing others, however to point the blame at a disorder (and therefore at everyone with the disorder) is ableist, irresponsible and grossly misinformed.

to put it into perspective as to how bad the stigma surrounding NPD is, i have been diagnosed with NPD and have been told i should be killed because of it, that i will inevitably abuse my partners i have had, i’ve had partners in the past be harassed by people saying that it’s ‘just a matter of time’ before i abuse them without any of these people ever even knowing me. i see endless amounts of things online calling all narcissists evil, as well as having my own experiences with abuse disregarded because they do not believe someone with NPD could be anything other than a perpetrator, despite the fact NPD is induced by trauma. the list goes on.

your choice of wording does matter and it does damage people with NPD.

I don't want to detract from a post so I'll give my rant here.

Have you ever seen that post about where Rogue is asking if mutants could really be cured and Storm said no, because there was nothing wrong with them? And people were calling Storm's ability one to "make clouds" and really taking the situation at face value? Storm was right.

First off, Storm's ability isn't just "make clouds." Her ability is omega-level- for the record, that's the second most powerful level. It means her powers do not have an upper limit. Storm is an incredibly powerful mutant and she had to learn to control herself from a very, very young age. Because Storm's ability is far more dangerous than Rogue's could ever be.

To start, when Storm caused weather to happen somewhere, she was basically taking that weather away from somewhere else. If she were to use her power to summon rain and end a drought in one place, she would be taking that rain from someplace else and could cause a far deadlier drought without realizing. Ororo was told this at a young age. There is absolutely no safety in her "making clouds." She has to be extremely careful what she does or she could cause a catastrophe.

Additionally, the level of power Storm has is literally world-ending. If she wanted to, she could wipe out continents, even the world. If she lost control of her powers, she could kill hundreds, thousands, millions, billions. Ororo was a child when she manifested. In some canons, she was a child when she learned exactly how powerful she was. But, child or teen, she still had to adjust to exactly how dangerous she was. She had to look back and see how many times she could have ended everything. Such difficult lessons for a child to learn, but she learned them.

Storm's control is legendary. She had to learn to keep her emotions completely and utterly in check as they react hard when she's upset. To keep omega-level mutations under control as perfectly as she does is one thing. It's infinitely more impressive that she has as much control as she does when her powers are triggered by her emotions. Storm's ability to exist without being a constant threat to everyone around her is the product of years, maybe decades, of hard training to keep herself in check.

Storm does not just make clouds. She absolutely knows what Rogue is going through. But Storm is also old enough to see the full picture.

Number one, Rogue has only recently come into her abilities. Control very much could be possible for her. She's new to all of this.

Number two, there is no evidence that the cure is safe. Given the amount of genocide that goes on against mutants, the older ones were probably worried it was yet another attempt at wiping them out. Even if it wasn't, what if it hadn't been properly researched? What if medical trials hadn't been done properly? Had they bothered to look into what a "cure" would do to someone with a physical mutation like Wolverine's? There's so much unknown and the adults all know it. They don't know enough to know if this is dangerous.

And number three, the cure was dangerous. As Magneto says, how long before parents had the right to force this cure on their children, employers on their employees? How long would it have been before the cure became mandatory? They could not trust humans with a cure because humans were demonstrating a long history of wanting all mutants gone. Hell, humans literally weaponized the cure, shooting people with darts and forcibly injecting them with it, in the same movie! How long would it have been for them to go mask-off eugenics and genocide? They couldn't even make it the full movie without proving Magneto right, that this cure was going to be used to hurt them.

No matter what, the cure was a bad thing. Storm had the wisdom to know that. Rogue didn't.

This isn't comparing autism to depression in the "wanting a cure" debate, this is two high-support-needs autistics debating the autism cure thing. One desperately wants to not be autistic, the other understands that the cure is potentially unsafe and has some extremely dangerous implications. Maybe, one day, Rogue could be cured if she wanted to be. But that cure existing then, when people hated mutants, was only going to end in eugenics and genocide and could only be a bad thing. Regardless of the good uses of it, it would be used to turn all of them human.

Storm knew what she was talking about. Stop acting like she didn't.

Hi

Welcome to my blog. I'm Raven, he/him, and this blog is mostly about migraines, usually acute confusional migraines, and my experience with them. You will also find posts about migraine triggers, photosensitivity, and epilepsy. I will not most anything that flashes, strobes, uses bright colours, or anything with audio. I'm trying to make my blog as accessible as possible. If the background and text are an issue for others (they aren't for me, but I'm only one person,) I can change them.

Feel free to ask me about ACM, migraines in general, or photosensitivity for any reason, and I'll answer to the best of my ability. Remember that I am only one person, and I do not speak for everyone. I can only speak to my experiences.

What is an ACM?

An acute confusional migraine (ACM,) is basically a migraine that comes with the added bonus of rapid-onset confusion and other worrying symptoms, such as

Changes in vision and other senses

Memory loss

Anxiety

Moodiness

Agitation

Dizziness

Issues speaking in the way you normally do

Disorientation

Motor control difficulties

Comprehension issues

Many of these symptoms in a migraine are a medical emergency and require immediate emergency medical care. These types of migraines are more common in children and teens, but they can also occur in adults.

What is my experience?

For me, an ACM is triggered by a medium-to-loud high-pitched noise. I'm rarely exposed to this trigger but when I am, it almost always causes an ACM if I can't stop the migraine before it properly starts. The confusion state starts shortly after the headache, usually in under ten minutes, and progressively gets worse until I begin to lose time and can't properly remember what happens. I've got entire shifts at work I can't remember due to an ACM. What I can remember is rapidly-increasing emotional distress (anger, anxiety, irritation, etc,) difficulties with comprehension, disorientation, and my (admittedly already poor) speech skills and motor control abilities getting worse and worse.

ACM episodes usually happen at work for me, when I'm forcibly placed on one of the headsets (fast food,) which has a loud, sharp, high-pitched beep to alert me that there's a car in my lane. The constant exposure to the trigger makes the medications I take ineffective at preventing the migraine. I begin to mess up a lot, work far slower, struggle to communicate, and obviously struggle to do my job, which is handling money. Multiple managers have chosen spite and, despite my objections, put me on this lane. I've yet to find the nerve to put my foot down or ask to leave and go to the emergency room.

Don't be like me. If you have an ACM, unless instructed to do otherwise by a doctor, you should probably go to the ER or call an ambulance.

Gotta love it when our symptoms are a medical emergency, yeah?

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