CW: Death, Cheating, Grief, Mourning
CW: Death, Cheating, Grief, Mourning
I'm going to talk to the void cause shit happened among my community and I'm processing (if you know the people in the story, no you don't).
There's a unique parallel between death and the end of a relationship especially when felt in communities. Obviously both are the end of something, but there's more to it. Both are mourned under the conditions of their ending, murder victims are mourned far different than people who pass in their sleep after saying goodbye. Likewise I think that relationships are often mourned the same way.
This becomes especially poignant when it comes to relationships that die by cheating. These relationships ended by the greatest betrayal of hearts that a human can endure, and importantly revolve around the taking of consent. In these instances consent between partners is on the "contract" of being in a relationship. When you have those agreements which you promised to live by there is no guarantee other than trust that it will be upheld. This is why relationships are often scary but rewarding, it's scary to take a leap of faith like that but also deeply rewarding to trust someone that deeply. And when that trust is broken with cheating it breaks that trust and deals a mortal wound to a relationship.
Okay, so how does this relate to murder victims? When a person dies in that way they are denied agency, consent, and the ability to die on their own terms. When these things happen without someone doing this it's a tragedy and hurts more than a peaceful passing but there's extra pain when someone causes that loss.
The reason is trust, when you exist in a community there is a set of agreed upon rules that almost always include not to kill each other, it's about the most universal rule out there. The trust is what gets violated so that not only is a person gone but a deep and fundamental trust is broken. This is why I feel these types of mourning are similar.
The point to making this comparison is this, murders are felt among the whole community. They are mourned with the whole community. When people in your community experience cheating, support them and help them mourn just as you would a person lost because often times they lost the person most dear to them in the process.
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