18.07.2024

Friendly Advice

Decide your major early. And don't tell anyone about it. At least not your teachers or people who will change your mind. It's application week here, and I was close to banging my head against the wall. It's not supposed to be difficult until you make it difficult. So, do what you wanna do. You do know it. You just need to shut off the noise that keeps telling you what you "have" to do.

51 days left

Did I count the days wrong? Yup, definitely did. Well, let's just say that I have no idea how I'm managing. But today's exam was suprising. Really really suprising. I surprisingly remember the lessons we'll enough even without going through them that means I've learnt them good enough.

(By the way, i completed my English exam yesterday and my business studies exam today. Now I have my English (part 2) exam tomorrow and Business studies (part 2) on Monday.)

Studied English +2 hours

Honestly I feel like English is the only subject where i actually am calm and don't panic for the exam. The poetry and everything combined is so .... Fascinatingly serene.

if you get this, answer w/ five random facts about yourself and send it to the last seven blogs in your notifs. anon or not, doesn't matter, let's get to know the person behind the blog! No pressure though! 🌻

Heyy! :)

Thanks for the ask <3

Let's see...

I have this weird habit that whenever a leaf falls directly in my hands, i'll keep it with me and call it "Destiny" (I have 4 leaves until now xD)

I have a collection of seashells and marbles

Despite being an avid reader, I hate annotating books

I have dyed my hair twice, the first was burgundy and then red

I really wanna sky dive or bungee jump atleast once in my life

Thanks again! :)

hiiii ! I just wanted to tell u that ur blog is so inspiring ! I’ll come back to school on September, and I’m so motivated, and it’s also bc of u !

Don’t even worry, cause from September I will read all ur posts and try to apply ur advices.

Much love 🩷🩷

Heyy :)

Thank you, i really appreciate it! I'm glad it's atleast alittle helpfull! :D

And sorry for the late response :")

Lots of love back! ❤️

Would you rather pick a university of informatics knowing that it'll be difficult to get a job (but not impossible) at the end or choose a university of economy and be assured that you'll be one of the first to be called for a job?

Hey Anon! :D

Honestly, i wouldn't pick both because one I'm not interested in getting a job in both of those fields but I do find certain papers/branches of it really fascinating.

But coming to your question, i don't really know myself. If you're asking for yourself then i would say choose a field that you actually like and are genuinely interested in or atleast have some curiousity about. It's good to consider job prospects while choosing majors but I also believe that many times what you study may not be what you actually purse.

I've said it once and I'll say it again, I know many people who chose one major and ended up taking a job which wasn't even their specialization.

So in simple words: choose what you wanna do. If you wanna take informatics because of interest, then do it. If you don't wanna take it because of the limited scope in jobs. Then don't. Likewise in economics. You want it? Choose it. If you don't, then don't.

What you choose is based on your preferences and individual goals. Don't let anyone else choose for you.

Hope this helped <3

People make it weird by acting weird. Nobody was looking at you when you entered the room but if you be fidgety and nervous then viola! You've made people look at you and made it awkward. Seriously. I've had this experience so many times. Even when you've done something wrong, just apologize and say that "I'll do better" and watch the reaction of the other person. While if you act all guilty and just stare at the ground, of course it's going to piss someone off and this was something i realised really late. So, the next time you have any thoughts like:

what if it looks bad?

what if they think I'm weird?

what if they talk bad about me?

what if they talk behind me?

In most cases, you're the one in this situation and your brain is indirectly controlling you into doing things that actually prove your thoughts so in other words, you're messed up by your own mind.

three months from now, you could be looking back at the hardest months of your journey and thinking, "it's so much easier to keep this up now, I'm glad I finally started back then". or you could be regretting that all you did was fantasize about changes instead of taking action. Rome wasn't built in a day, and your ideal self won't happen overnight. your future life depends on your choices today, right now, immediately.

How to avoid drama in your life. (School/Work/Family)

Hate to say this but i don't really think some people can just live their life without poking into other's business and causing unnecessary turmoil so, here's a guide to avoid all types of unnecessary drama in your life.

A full communication circle.

Communication is the main cause for most fights so, here's the thing. When there is something that needs to be done, inform all necessary people about it in advance. Here's a mistake most do, they just tell one person and ask them to put forward the message to the others but tell them directly. Literally, it is the safest option for you, like no one can blame you that you didn't tell them. No one can hold it against you. So tell them directly. And from time to time get repeated reminders so they remember.

Don't involve yourself in unnecessary talks

This is serious. If you are sitting and your friends are complaining about someone, you just listen to them. Don't add on to the things and hype up them. If you know that person isn't like that, defend them subtly. Involving in gossip is the worst. When someone says something about another person or even you then just reply with "I don't really care, they are/ I am free to do whatever they/I want." Or "I don't have the energy for this." Or "It's really none of my business/concern".

If you demand respect, you need to give respect.

Be nice to everyone, I am serious about this. Even if you're not friendly with the person or you don't like them, just be nice. It won't hurt you or them. Even if they do something to hurt you, just let it go with a "Meh it's fine but i would appreciate it if you won't do it again". This may even work people up a bit, handle yourself with care. Make it seem that their presence doesn't actually threaten you.

Calm composure.

Keep yourself calm and composed whenever you're faced with a difficult situation, do not react immediately, take a breath. I usually just frown but more than that, I won't react to anything. It takes some practice but eventually, this is useful. The reason for you to maintain a calm composure is because if the person who hurt you is looking for a dramatic reaction, don't give them the satisfaction.

Better articulation

Especially if it's important instructions! When someone accuses you of something, don't immediately raise your voice, think for a moment, let them wait and then reply with what had actually happened in your point of view.

Apologize. Even if it isn't your fault.

Sometimes, people are just shitty and they won't understand even if you explain it a hundred or a million times. In those case, just say the magic two letter word -> "I'm sorry" or "I apologise". Your worth doesn't come down just because you apologised, on the other hand, you just became a better person than the other one.

It's simply not your damn business.

When someone directly tells you about their life etc etc. You lend a compassionate ear to them. If it's a story going around the whole place, it's simply not your business. And you can say this directly to the person passing the gossip, if they argue then that means you now actualy are aware of another gossip machine.

Don't EVER share your opinions on important matters with a person higher than you! Especially not in front of other people!

I'm damn serious, you don't know who will have it against you so, be careful around who you're saying things to. Other important matters include opinions about the specific person, politics, nationality, culture etc etc. Be sensitive.

Break the chain

When you hear something bad is going around and it reaches you, keep it to your damn self. Don't go adding the fuel to the fire like the rest!

Do not assume!

Don't assume about a situation or a person. Clarify. Always clarify. You may not know what the other person was going through, you don't know everything. Just don't think something, clarify it. No body is going to get mad at you for clarifying.

Make excuses.

When you hear someone talking bad about someone else. Defend them. Make excuses. I don't mean lie to them, I mean saying things like, "It's alright. You don't know what they were going through." Or "Maybe something happened that you don't know about." Personally, I always use the second one because I feel like, sometimes, people aren't bad guys. Situations make them act like that. Povs differ. So be mindful.

Don't raise your voice. Improve your argument.

If there is an argument. Do the classic Harvey Specter thing. You improve arguments with a neutral tone. Don't sound mocking or cocky, sound like you're just explaining to them. This won't escalate the scenario. (The quote was actually given by Desmond Tutu)

Hope this helps! :)

Tips To Study Concept-Oriented Subjects

I've always struggled with this. Everything is concept oriented but there are only a few that come to mind when i think about this topic. Maths. Physics. Chemistry. Economics. Accountancy. These honestly eat our heads so here are a few tips of how i study them.

Practice everyday

These subjects require practice. Most of these require a deep understanding of topics, so that's why practice it daily. Every single day.

Basic Concepts Are Your Weapons

The basic foundation must be strong because that's how you build your pillars. Understand the ground so you can build your pillars on it. You should have the foundations like the back of your hands.

Maintain a notebook for formulae and theory

Keep a separate book for all basic concepts, another book for formulae and another book for your notes. When you have to revise, you have all the materials and they're organised.

Maintain a separate notebook for concepts

The main concepts are everything in these subjects. If you get your foundations strong then viola, you're all done. Maintain one book that is fully concept based. Everything that is related to the foundations are supposed to be in that book.

Past question papers

Past Question Papers = Grade Booster. The thing about past papers is that they're literally indicators of how you exam would be. They tell you crucial elements of your whole syllabus. Important chapters, topics and repeated questions. You practice papers and you can automatically see how beneficial they really are. If you want to know how to use practice papers. Click here.

Do it. Just do it

For a procrastinator like myself, let me tell you. It is hard. Even now, i'm writing this instead of studying like a normal human being who would when there are high school finals going on so let me just say this. Get up and do it for sometime. Just some time and you'll automatically get invested in it. It may take some time but it will happen eventually. I personally just do it due to fear. I don't really wanna fail my exams so align your goals with some kind of emotion so it gets you going.

Watch videos

This is like the interest booster. You may not realise but when your teacher teaches you the subjects, it gets awfully boring and confusing. When you learn it through videos and visuals on YouTube, you know what it is, you know additional details and it sticks to you. So, watch and try not to get distracted. Period.

Break It Down

Not your chapter. I mean the topic itself. Line by line if you have to. I did this exact thing for accounts whenever i had to do ratios. It was a pain. An unwanted pain. I couldn't understand anything. But i sat down one day and read every single line of the textbook for that topic. I made what i call "Line Visuals". This is simple.

You read a paragraph => You don't understand anything.

Read every line => Draw it

Understand the key terms used there

And then draw a single visual representation for that entire topic.

I'll guarantee you, you will understand it. Review it once a day for a week and then once a week.

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Hope this helps!!! :))

Questions To Ask Before Choosing Your Major

Choosing your major is a pain, a real pain. It's the perfect time when every one, and I mean every one, decides that they should have a say in the matter when they literally don't.

Here are some questions to ask yourself which major you should choose. And I won't just cover general questions like "Is it tough?" or "Would I like it?"

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What could you talk about for hours without getting bored?

What is something that you do which makes you lose track of time while doing it?

What makes you feel alive and purposeful?

What do you enjoy working with? People? Words? Ideas? Or Systems?

What is a subject that comes to you easily?

What are the assignments that don't drain you?

What jobs are commonly associated with this major?

What do people who have this major actually do every day?

Can you talk to alumni or professors in this field and get their opinions?

Does this major offer flexibility to shift careers later in life?

Is this major aligned with who you are becoming or want to become?

Does this major offer room to grow and explore other interests

Could you combine two interests into a double major or minor?

Are you okay not having all the answers right now?

If everything changed tomorrow, would you still pursue it?

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I hope this really helps. I only included questions that I asked myself while choosing. But here's the tip. After you choose, there will be people who will want to change your mind and there will be times when you'd want to revaluate, so these questions would remind you what you thought when your head was clearer.

And I know this may look like hyping this particular topic a bit, but I'll be honest, I know many people who hate their majors but can't do anything about it. We'll spend at least 3 years with this, and I think it's better to feel that you chose this and actually like it rather than choosing something you hate and not liking it at all.

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