So Obsessed With The Idea Of Upgrading My Life & Bettering Myself

Dark feminine energy🖤

You mentioned that you don't get easily heartbroken and I was wondering how do you do it?!

Hey Habibti,

Everyone is different so don't stress about it. There is nothing wrong with heartbreak.

I get disgusted by men's actions a lot more than being sad over it. If a man decides to disrespect me, I am highly turned off. Depending on what the issue is - I can't find him attractive again. It's more "ew" than "boohoo" for me.

I have my own personal list of things I need to see from a man before I even think of allowing my emotions in. I might flirt and have a fun time with you but my feelings won't bother to develop beyond finding someone physically attractive if certain things aren't met.

I barely have time to pay attention to men who aren't attracted to me. I barely get crushes that consume me because I might find a man attractive but he will never take up space in my mind without it being reciprocated. I don't have the time or energy.

I don't believe rejection is the worst thing in the world. If someone doesn't see your value or isn't attracted to it, that doesn't mean it isn't there. I am not for everyone and not everyone is for me.

With All My Love,

Heart💚

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My mentor snapped when he said it’s imperative to always ask for what you want, because the worst they can say is no, and no stands for “Next Opportunity”. Like that’s literally my mantra.

Reflections on building a better me

Exercise is not optional. Mental satisfaction from completing yet another workout cannot be overstated. Physical satisfaction from feeling good and enjoying your body in clothes, the mirror, and photos cannot be overstated. Stop messing around, stop info hoarding, go exercise. And tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day. And the next day.

Looking your best depending on circumstances (ie, casual, dressy, bedtime, etc) is not optional. External confidence from taking care of your appearance top to bottom and loving what you see in the mirror is highly valuable.

You feel better when you eat better. You’re proud of yourself when you eat better.

Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies. Do you feel embarrassed when someone asks what you do all day and you can’t come up with an honest answer that doesn’t make you sound like a loser with no life? You need hobbies. Some that are outdoors, some that are indoors. Some that are taxing, some that are relaxing. You will enjoy life more, become a more well-rounded individual, and have positive ways to spend your time rather than racking up more hours on your phone. Get some hobbies. Plural.

Procrastination and laziness should disgust you. You shouldn’t be able to relate. You should strive to be above that. You like yourself better when you complete your tasks and get things done in a timely manner. You’re proud of yourself when you’re on a roll and have a productive streak. You’re impressed by productive people and no one likes a lazy bum.

Decide what you want from life and pursue it ruthlessly. Don’t take advice from people who don’t have the life you want, unless they were once on your desired path and fell off. Even then, you listen to them when they say what NOT to do (learning from their mistakes) but clearly they don’t know what TO do bc they didn’t make it to the finish line. Take “do this” advice from people who crossed the finish line and have what you want. You’ll find that the amount of input that is actually valuable to you has suddenly dwindled. Good. Less chatter in your ears.

Get yourself in order before you go around critiquing everyone else. Get YOUR face in order. Get YOUR body right. Get YOUR money up. Get YOUR style in order. Get YOUR relationship together.

Stop coming to everyone for validation like a toddler. Validate yourself. Do you like it? Okay then. Are you over it? Okay then. Stop being so weak. Stand tall, lead yourself. Stop being such a follower.

Be a good person. Help your family, lend a hand to strangers, give back, say sorry, do things for loved ones just because, show affection, work things out, watch your mouth, speak respectfully, remember that the world owes you nothing. Stop being an insufferable freak.

You can’t change anyone but yourself. Get yourself in order and be a good role model. That’s all you can do. Give people advice when they want it and then go about your business. Get yourself in order. Get yourself in order.

Outrage content is the lowest form of entertainment. Engage in things that make you happy or educate you. Doom scrolling only leads to doom. Don’t like this person? Don’t click on their articles or videos. Unfollow and block. Don’t like these people? Leave their spaces. You don’t have to be outraged every day.

Always keep your word to yourself. Make a plan, stick to the plan, always deliver. If you can’t be reliable for yourself then who can you be reliable for?

Me coded🩶

Level Up Daily Tip

stay ready so you don’t have to get ready!

the beginning of the day is the time to do your skincare, fix your hair, apply some makeup, and find a cute outfit to wear.

don’t wait for when an opportunity arises to rush and scram to get ready half as well as if you were to have more time. this will make you feel more inclined to go out to make connections and turn heads.