To Anyone Barking Racism For Pointing Out Brown Men Are Dangerous

I hate how kindness, unlike in books or films, do not yield anything when it comes to men.

My friend’s brother is the typical loner-gamer, and he seemed rather depressed to me, and I thought it must be not easy for him—he never had a girlfriend, spends most of his time alone, and the only socialization activity he has is video games.

So, I figured we could be nice to him. On his birthday, we got him a Lego set, which he seemed to like. We would often visit him with his favorite snacks, ask how he was doing, and overall make him feel cared for.

We did that for nearly a year, and that man not only has been ungrateful (at first we thought he just needs time to show emotions), he laughed how annoying we are with his game friends and mocked we keep bothering him with our “nonsense”. He also gifted us nothing back on our birthdays, and we tried to be understanding that perhaps he is shy.

Looking back, it’s sad how naive we were—he didn't need love or attention to be uplifted and encouraged, he was “lonely” because he was an asshole.

Why did we think his heart would soften, his negative thoughts would leave him, and he would begin to trust people more once we showed him continuous love and care? That's a grown-ass man, 30 years of age—his life, as miserable as it seems, is HIS active choice.

Don't believe in male loneliness epidemic propaganda. These men probably have people who care about them deeply—mothers, sisters, whoever—it’s them who do not give a single fuck about them.

i have gained the boss level skill of being incredibly difficult to shame or embarrass. more women should try it. it drives everyone crazy when you’re a woman who doesn’t self-flagellate over any mistake or quirk or prostrate yourself when you aren’t perfect in (insert social role) or hedge your words with a thousand sorries to accommodate the feelings of adults who just expect you to affirm them bc you’re a woman which means validation machine. when you’re nonchalant about your mistakes instead of monologuing about them. when people realize you aren’t bully-able because you don’t give enough of a shit to give them reactions. it’s like watching infinity war in 5d to them. they can’t fucking believe it.

new!! study discord server for women!

hi all! really excited to announce i've started an all-female discord server for students!

Gyns Get Grades (GGG) is a space for women of all ages to find community through their studies, whether you're still in high school, trekking through undergrad, working on your doctorate, or even just studying a topic/language in your free time. here, we have study room voice channels, areas to relax and take a breather, QOTDs, fun events, and more!

i would love to see this take off, so even if you aren't interested in joining, please reblog to reach as many women as possible :)

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"We're born alone and we die alone" You weren't born alone!!!!! Your mom was right there!!!! How could you be born alone??? HOW

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Today I learned if you don't feel like making the bed and tugging the sheets under mattress blah blah blah all that work, you can just clip it in place