Holy Fucking Shit Y'all.

Robot characters who are given names like SL-308-62 but instead of their human friend going Well let's call you Sally for short, they instead ask the other if they Like their current name.

"Do you like your serial number?" they ask. "Yes, quite. It reminds me of who I am" the robot replies. "I have heard others like me go by different names after some time, and maybe one day I'll choose one for myself, too. But right now that is my full name, yes" they continue.

Because it's not your decision to make whether or not the robot will receive a new name. It should be theirs only. What's the difference? One is more complex and the other is simplified. They were both given by strangers instead of themselves.

"62 will do," they conclude. "It's my model number - there will be no other 62 after me."

Being an Aromantic Asexual is Weird

Being an aromantic asexual is weird. We defy not one, not two, but three societal norms; heteronormativity, compulsory sexuality, and amatonormativity. It gets even weirder when you’re indifferent (even favourable!) when it comes to sex and romance because you think your experience is universal, that everyone feels the way you do. It’s not feeling wrong and broken and out of place. It’s feeling normal, and then realizing that you aren’t.

Thinking (read: assuming) that you’re straight for most of your life and then finding out you’re not is weird. Mostly because once you realize you’re not straight, it dawns on you that you feel the same way about boys that you do about girls and non-binary people. And then you wonder if you’re pansexual because they’re attracted to all genders, and you have to be attracted to someone, right? And then that thought is immediately dismissed because you don’t feel attraction, at all. But it doesn’t stop you from contemplating every other sexuality and romantic orientation, because you’ve been taught that everyone wants sex and romance.

And then you remember: you like sex and romance in fiction. You like seeing your friends in happy, healthy, consenting relationships, and you’d always assumed that one day, you’d be in one too. But you’ve never pursued one. You never had more than a fleeting interest in boys, and lingering but still platonic affection for your female and non-binary friends. Those “crushes” that you had in elementary school? Maybe not crushes after all, because God knows you haven’t had one in nearly eight years. The most powerful feelings you’ve had for another person have been squishes so intense that you had to look back and question if it was actually romantic attraction (spoiler: it wasn’t).

And then there’s that epiphanic moment when things start to fall into place. Why you were always so vehement that soulmates could be platonic too. Why the idea of loving someone more than your best friend is incomprehensible (because romantic love is always shown as being more. Hello amatonormativity). Why when you ship fictional pairings, there are people you want to get together romantically, people you want to be friends so bad, and the ships that you like the most are the ones that could go either way. Why you desire emotional closeness and intimacy with the people in your life, but that had always been conflated with sex and romance so you wondered if what you wanted was more than friendship. Why you want to take the expression “more than friends”and burn it to the ground because there is no vocabulary for friendship that exceeds “best friend” without crossing over into romantic and/or sexual territory.

You realize that your ideal relationship isn’t necessarily romantic. It’s best friends who cohabitate and snuggle and hold hands and go on adventures to the library together. Kissing and sex? Well, that’s more of an afterthought. A “yeah, that’ll probably happen somewhere in there.” An assumption, because you’ve been taught that primary, monogamous relationships are always romantic and sexual. You reflect and see that there are very few things that you see and inherently romantic, and that there is a lot of cross-over between things you consider platonic, sensual, and romantic. A grey area that you can’t define.

Being an aromantic asexual is weird, because while I’ve always said that you don’t need romance and sex to be happy, I now realize that it applies to me too.

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Note from mod fitz: This has to be one of the most moving descriptions of this I have ever read. This exactly describes how I felt coming to the realization that I was not straight, and I think had I read this when I first began questioning it would have made things go a lot smoother for me. Thanks so much for submitting!

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no but how much audacity and sheer entitlement do you have to have to tell people they need to stop posting their darkfic and porn fic and any other fic you don’t like to ao3 so you can have a safe space when ao3 was literally created as a safe space for writers to post their content without fear of it being randomly wiped out by pro-censorship assholes with an agenda like what has happened to plenty of other fic archives before?

“but a lot of us see ao3 as a safe space to get away from that kind of nasty content” - lol you can see the middle of a busy interstate as a safe space all you want too but that doesn’t mean that you get to walk into the road and scream at all the cars going by that they’re the ones infringing on your safe space either

ao3 is not, has never been, and will never be a site meant for nothing but children’s stories. you can “see it” like that as much as you want but there’s a difference between fiction and reality and that view of what ao3 is like is as fictional as the stories posted on it.

Self-Care Master Post

So, I’ve realized that I have all these great self care resources that I use for both myself and others and I think having them in one easy accessible location would be useful, although several of the links may be repeat links, SORRY

Other Masterlists

The Big Relaxation Post (ambient noises, nature videos, databases, just for fun)

Coping Skills and Distractions (coping skills, meditation and relaxation, crafts, games, videos)

Recovery Resources (emergencies, finding therapy/doctors/medication, general recovery, substance addictions, restrictive eating disorders, binge/compensate eating disorders, binge ed/compulsive eating disorders, general anxiety, social phobia/anxiety, depression, family/friends

Self Injury Recovery Masterpost 

Hobbies Masterpost

Back to School Masterpost (languages, research, writing, reading, studying/organization, stress/anxiety, tests, class participation, software, self help

Back to School Masterpost (not the same as above!) (college, food, helpful sites, high school, mental health, resources, motivation, music/sound, school, stress, studying, tips)

Adulting Masterpost (cleaning, money, health, emergency, food, home, job, travel, better you)

Masterpost for Rough Times (crisis, relaxation, the quiet place, comfort foods, advice and tips, videos and movie, distractions, extras)

Deathshands Self Care Masterpost (depression, self harm, loneliness, anxiety and stress, bipolar/manic depression, hallucinations/schizophrenia, eating disorders, anger, insomnia, sexual assault, domestic violence, helplines, learn to love yourself, hard day?, more helplines)

Katelynn’s Self-Help Masterpost (General, self-harm, self defense, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, insomnia, bipolar)

Masterpost of Masterposts (writing, movies/shows, food, beauty, health, education, music, art, typography, sewing, languages, communication, adulting, diy, random, masterposts)

Self-Help Masterpost of Masterposts (Cheer up and relax, fun stuff, mental illness, self harm, films, general, in case of emergency)

The Tumblr Guide To Healthy Living (nutrition, recipes, desserts, clense/detox, veganism/vegetarianism, weight loss, calculators, exercise, feeling good, battling eating disorders, “inspiration”) I do NOT promote losing weight for the sake of losing weight, thinspiration, dieting, fasting, or any of that. the list is here for recipes and exercises. I am a strong follwer of body positivity and HAES. You are wonderful the way you are!

Food to Make

Really Nice Recipes Every Hour (Seriously, thousands of recipes- well tagged and great instructions. <3)

Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Ice Cream Sandwiches

Banana Cream Pie Cupcakes

25 Hot Chocolate Recipes

2-4 Ingredient Recipes

Oatmeal Masterpost

Food On A Stick

Food in a Mug

Chocolate Chip Cookie Guide

Scotcharoos

Chocolate Baileys Mudcake

Fast Food you can make at home

Pancakes. 

Restaurant Recipes

Molten Lava Cake

Red Lobster Biscuits

Amazing Chocolate Recipes

Crockpot Beans and Rice

Broke College Kid Foods

Cookie Recipes

Reptar Bars

Things I Can Say to Myself When I Feel Shitty

Repeat after me

Daily Motherfucking Reminder

You still have

Fuck yea me

Emotional Support Bunny

I am Cute Too

Twenty Dollars

It’s Okay if you aren’t

Mental Grounding

I’m a Fucking Unicorn

Gold Stars

Permission Slip

I’m Proud

Remember the Sloths

Something Beautiful

Personal Victories Vest

Adorable Owls

You’re not unreliable

The Manatee

Motivational Cartoons

You are Good Enough

You are Making Progress

Shout Out

Puppy Love

Personal Qualities not Measured by Tests

Fat is Not a Bad Word

You are Not a Burden

I know you are feeling Sad

Eeyore

7 tips to free yourself

Bodies as Flowers

You Don’t Need To

My Pace

Note to Self

I will not hide

Kitty Loves You

Happy Monsters

I know it’s hard

Things to Be Happy About

Your Legs

Cute/Funny Stuff

Grover Does Science

Just Listen

John John counts with Grover

Classic Paintings with Sesame Street Characters

Best Song

Best Moment in Film History

Babies Experiencing Things

Low-Viscosity Rayon

Dramatic Reading of Rough and Ready

This Adorable Child

Women Rejecting Marriage Proposals (its funny I promise)

Snuff Dancing

Martians Discover a Telephone

Frozen- Everybody

Stretches for the “holy”

Fantastic Prank

Girl with the Twisted Face

Animal Therapy

The dog who can’t run

Baby Hippo

Animals being cute

Dog is Eeyore 

Cute Puppy/Kitty friends

Animals with the Vet 

This Majestic Cat 

Bunnies sticking their tongues out 

Cats sticking their tongues out

Den of Kittens 

Sloth Noises

Dogs in Leaves

Big Kitty

Puppies and Babies 

Puppies and Babies 2

Dogs Underwater

Cat Photobomb 

Cute Animal Pairs

Duck Tales

Newfies

Animals of Tumblr

Dogs with their Babies

Fat Cats

Bunnies

Giant Lap Dogs

Dog Shaming

Dog Shaming 2

Animal Thieves 

Baby Animals

Dogs Being Dogs

Dogs Being Dogs 2

Dancing Cats

Cat Conversations

Popular Puppy Breeds

Cats and Technology

Big Cats

Giant Barks and Tiny Meows

Animals are Great

Silky Anteater

Kitties Being Kitties

Kitties Being Kitties 2

Mama and Baby Animals

Cute Puppies

Animals using Animals as Pillows

Dealing with Assault/Trauma/Abuse

No is a complete sentence.

Self-care after rape

Resources for Male Survivors

Help for Men

Signs of Emotional Abuse

Coping with Flashbacks

For Survivors and Loved Ones

Things No One Told me about being a Survivor

Are You Disassociating? 

Depression/Anxiety/Panic and Hotlines

Online suicide hotline (not 24/7) 

Virtual Hug/Hotlines

Hotline Numbers

Panic and Anxiety Masterpost

Anxiety Masterpost

Letting It Out

50 Alternatives to Self-Harm

What to do when someone has a Panic Attack

Anxiety and Helping Someone Cope

How to Help Someone with Depression

Anxiety: A Self-Help Masterpost

Butterfly Project

Distractions

Randomish distractions

Websites for when you want to…

Free Audio Books

Education at your fingertips

Educational Websites

Documentaries

Ambient Noise Masterlist

Stain Solutions

Art Masterpost

BAMF Women

Shower Thoughts with Nick Offerman

Apps for Students

Every Episode of Hey Arnold

Teen Movie 8Tracks

College Textbooks for Free

Book Resources

Download Free Books

Drawing Masterpost

Disney/Pixar masterpost

Disney Movies Alphabetically Listed

Disney Movies You’ve Never Heard Of

Useful Sites for Movie Lovers

Movie Night Masterpost

Free Classes at MIT

Finals Survival Guide

Visual Glossaries

Relaxation Stuff

All of Bill Nye the Science Guy

You’re Getting Old

Cool Sites

Skymall Catalog

List of Distractions

Have Another

And Another

And Another

No really, I insist

Just One More

Emotions and Coping

Emotions Chart

Self Care Bingo

Coping Skills Toolbox

Showering when you don’t have spoons

Breathing Technique

Techniques for a Panic Attack

Emotional Baggage Check

Degrees of Emotion

Recovery Binder Masterpost

DBT Handbook

How to Deal with Lonliness

Self Care Cheat Sheet

Coping with Overwhelming Emotions

Feeling Weighed Down?

Misc.

30 Day Positivity Challenge

Trans Resources

Tips for Dealing with People in Pain

Ways to be an Ally to non-Monosexual People

Lowest Prices for Prescriptions

App to help recover from Eating Disorders

Contraceptives Masterpost

Dealing with Worst Case Scenario 

New Kind of Workout

DMAB Masterpost

So your friend has a chronic Illness or Disability

Having a Friend with Chronic Illness

HabitRPG

Education for Cis allies

Trans Resources

Cheap Travel for Students

The worst part of Pride each year is riding the subway late at night and seeing the gay guys, mostly the ones riding by themselves, slowly take off their rainbow stickers and beads and what-not in preparation for their walk alone in their neighborhood, doing their best to prevent the off-chance of being jumped. I saw one guy with a flag in his bag turn it upside down so it wouldn’t poke out.

So yeah, fuck that heterosexual pride day nonsense.

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Aizawa’s team is here again ;)

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jokes aside i think it’s amazing and heartwarming to see like 4chan incel bros perform the miracle of crawling out of that hole and becoming real human beings and chronicling their journey to realizing that they can be well adjusted happy normal dudes

People keep searching for ways to argue that JK Rowling has always been a horrible person deep down as a way of explaining her recent behaviour.

But here’s the thing: that’s probably not true at all.

Pretending it is discounts the harsher, scarier truth: that even decent, well-meaning people can be radicalised by dangerous, hateful, predatory groups, and given enough time they can become truly hideous versions of their former selves.

It can happen to me. It can happen to you. It can happen to any of us, given the right mix of circumstances. And over the past few years, we’ve seen it happen to one of the most famous children’s authors of our age.

Nobody is immune.

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Love how tumblr has its own folk stories. Yeah the God of Arepo we’ve all heard the story and we all still cry about it. Yeah that one about the woman locked up for centuries finally getting free. That one about the witch who would marry anyone who could get her house key from her cat and it’s revealed she IS the cat after the narrator befriends the cat.