Nowaayjose - Lost Boy

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writing adult emails is awful

its like

hi [name of person], 

this formatting is making me uncomfortable but I have to tell you something / ask you something that is vital to my career as a student. 

I re-read and edited that sentence for an hour, but you’ll probably just glance over it for half a second.

thanks! 

- [name]

AU prompts: masterlist of lists

Okay so if you’re anything like me you see those lists of au ideas floating around and you like them but when it comes time to write something and you need an idea you have no idea what you tagged them as or if they’re buried somewhere in your likes so….have a list of some of the ones I’ve come across! (updated with more lists on june 12th, 2015)

SHOULD I READ THAT 289009 OR WHATEVER FIC YALL ARE CRYING OVER BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE I SHOULD

YES. trigger warning because Luke has cancer (Ashton has cancer as well) and there’s a lot of talk about dying in it and the reality of what cancer really is. It hurts so bad… and you’re gonna cry…but its incredible. It’s in the top 3 best things I’ve ever read in my life so far its truly amazing and a mother fucking bitch to read. Here’s the link http://archiveofourown.org/works/4687991/chapters/10701119 and GOOD LUCK

Today we have a plant theme

Cactus Cap // Cactus Shirt  

Cactus Shirt  // Cactus Shirt  

Palm Shirt // Palm Shirt

Palm Shirt // Palm Shirt

Daisy Shirt // Daisy Shirt

What’s your favorite plant?

Amazing news: Due to me working in a library full-time, I qualified for the federal Public Service Loan Forgiveness Program for student debt forgiveness. Which means most of my student loans (my Sallie Mae ones) are 100% forgiven. If you have a public service job, and you qualify, it could forgive your loans too. Below is more info on the program.

The information below describes the Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF) Program. It includes the eligibility requirements and the process for tracking your progress toward qualifying for PSLF. This information can also be found in the PSLF Fact Sheet and the Dear Borrower Letter, which can be downloaded and printed.

What is the Public Service Loan Forgiveness Program?

What must I do to have any remaining balances on my Direct Loans forgiven under the PSLF Program?

What loans are eligible for forgiveness?

What are on-time, full, scheduled, monthly payments?

What is a qualifying repayment plan?

What kinds of employment qualify?

What is full-time employment?

What does it mean that my 120 Direct Loan payments must be made while I am working full-time at certain public service organizations?

How can I keep track of my eligibility?

What should I do after I become eligible for PSLF?

On January 31, 2012, the U.S. Department of Education (ED) released an Employment Certification Package to help borrowers track their progress toward qualifying for PSLF. The PSLF Employment Certification Package includes:

Dear Borrower Letter (updated March 2014)

Instructions for Completing Employment Certification for Public Service Loan Forgiveness

Employment Certification for Public Service Loan Forgiveness Form (available only in English)

PSLF Resources

Fact Sheet (updated December 2013)

Q&As (updated December 2013)

Source: Federal Student Aid, An Office of the US Department of Education

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I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

angie’s super important and somewhat half-assed guide to basic BDSM knowledge

for cutesymichael, or anyone else who wants to write a BDSM relationship but is unsure of important dynamics. 

BDSM is an acronym, a shortened version of BD/DS/SM. This stands for Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, and Sadism & Masochism. 

Here’s a really good guide to BDSM if you’re looking for a quick but in depth read. Wikipedia also has a lot of really good information on it. Video Guide

What is BDSM and Its History?

Why 50 Shades is An Inaccurate Portrayal

Safe, Sane, and Consensual

Safe Words

Terminology for Beginners

Terminology Glossary

Beginners Tips for BDSM

Why BDSM Is Not The Same As Abuse/DV

Manners & Etiquette

Limits

What is Collaring?

How To Be a Dominant

The Eight Types of Domination

How To Be a Good Submissive // and here

Submissive vs. Slave vs. Pet

I’m a Submissive: So What Is My Worth?

Top vs. Bottom vs. Switch

What Is Total Power Exchange?

Subspace

What The Heck Is Subdrop?

Topspace/Domspace

What The Heck Is Domdrop/Top Guilt?

AFTERCARE

Hang On, There’s TYPES of Aftercare?

What Is A Mentor And Why Do I Need One?

Negotiation of a Scene

What is a “Scene” & How Do I Plan One?

Types of Play

Spanking 101

Flogging 101 // (techniques) // (demonstration)

Rope Basics

Dungeon Etiquette and Play Parties

How to Approach a Dom

BDSM In Long Term Relationships/Marriage

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