Me? Being Gay? For Man Next To Me?

NPD culture is 'nobody has payed attention to me in an hour, I will go insane'

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i actually completely agree with what you said. the original post i made was specifically about nondisordered plurals. my autism makes me struggle with the concept of it a lot and people consistently throwing around ableist when theyre actively trying to say its not disordered makes my struggle even worse

how is not believing in endos ableist? if you're not disordered how can you be disabled (in this specific way, def not saying you cant be at all)?

like how do you get away with calling the people that are actively disabled by this condition ableist????

i definitely dont mean a dissociative disorder specialist. i just mean a normal therapist. because even tho you might not have headmates as the result of trauma its still a neurodivergency and getting help with figuring the best way of working with your neurodivergency and figuring out and getting the accomodations you need in day to day life should be a priority for anyone.

gonna be so real

i think the only issue i really have with endogenic systems is that most are not willing to see a therapist or get professional help and theyre not willing to face the idea that they may actually have trauma or another mental health issue causing their system symptoms

i have the same issue with self diagnosed traumagenic systems that discount anything their therapists say if they bring up any other disorder first before DID/OSDD

like yall

for your health and wellbeing please be open to other options andnplease seek professional help to help navigate this stuff

like you wouldnt be like yea i have ehler danlos syndrome and not seek professional help because youre scared it could be an autoimmune disorder instead

“an anonymous introject from the show”

marc literally shut the fuck up and just sign your name

-jake

fucking homosexual

are you gay

Absolutely not. You may be my fiance but no I am extremely homophobic /j

- Punz

Yes, he is

- Dream

I am not

- Punz

feel free to ignore this

im just having a bad morning pain wise

i realized that i cant actually ever have a normal life anymore. i woke up after playing skee ball at an arcade with a pulled muscle in my shoulder that hurts so much i cant move it. and i made the realization that because of my chronic pain i can never go out and just live my life. i cant even play my instrument or draw without some part of me hurting and it just really sucks. like how am i supposed to make myself feel better when i cant do any of the things to make myself feel better because it hurts too much.

HEAR ME OUT

Frank goes to rehab and comes back and slowly starts spiraling because he's actually taking the time to focus on himself and who he is and suddenly realizes that he might not actually be a he

Cue a scene of him sobbing his heart out in Abby's arms as he has the big realization

Abby's of course super supportive (I'm a big fan of queer abby) and takes Frank out shopping to find some outfits to try out to figure out their own personal style and identity

Frank still is proud to be called a dad but absolutely loves when Tanner calls them Dad in public on a more feminine day where she's wearing a skirt and very obviously looks feminine. Frank's a chaotic bastard that takes pride in being a menace in public

She obviously tells Mel first and this sets off a course of events where Mel Abby and Frank end up in a queer sapphic polycule (mel is acearo so its very qpp too)

the others in the ED learn because one of Frank's new trans friends (because duh she abby and mel are obviously going to community events) comes in due to some injury (maybe a non serious car crash or smth) and gets super confused because that is Frankie and their pronouns are she/they why are all these people calling this badass lesbian doctor a he

they have a concussion and so in a moment of confusion lets it slip and Frank just laughs and just shrugs and is like yea youre right because she loves fucking with her friends and so now the entire ED staff are like oh god have I been misgendering my friend this whole time and none of them are comfortable enough to ask until finally santos is like dude are you trans because she just does not gaf and is tired of the others all being uncomfortable

frank's just like yea have been for a while and keeps moving

robby especially is internally freaking out a bit because hes a good attending™️ and cant believe he missed this major part of his favorite resident

yo ok syscourse moment

you can be transfem in a female body and transmasc in a male body

fuck anybody that says different

https://archiveofourown.org/works/64519702/chapters/165692209

trans langdon trans langdontrans langdonnnnn

HEAR ME OUT

Frank goes to rehab and comes back and slowly starts spiraling because he's actually taking the time to focus on himself and who he is and suddenly realizes that he might not actually be a he

Cue a scene of him sobbing his heart out in Abby's arms as he has the big realization

Abby's of course super supportive (I'm a big fan of queer abby) and takes Frank out shopping to find some outfits to try out to figure out their own personal style and identity

Frank still is proud to be called a dad but absolutely loves when Tanner calls them Dad in public on a more feminine day where she's wearing a skirt and very obviously looks feminine. Frank's a chaotic bastard that takes pride in being a menace in public

She obviously tells Mel first and this sets off a course of events where Mel Abby and Frank end up in a queer sapphic polycule (mel is acearo so its very qpp too)

the others in the ED learn because one of Frank's new trans friends (because duh she abby and mel are obviously going to community events) comes in due to some injury (maybe a non serious car crash or smth) and gets super confused because that is Frankie and their pronouns are she/they why are all these people calling this badass lesbian doctor a he

they have a concussion and so in a moment of confusion lets it slip and Frank just laughs and just shrugs and is like yea youre right because she loves fucking with her friends and so now the entire ED staff are like oh god have I been misgendering my friend this whole time and none of them are comfortable enough to ask until finally santos is like dude are you trans because she just does not gaf and is tired of the others all being uncomfortable

frank's just like yea have been for a while and keeps moving

robby especially is internally freaking out a bit because hes a good attending™️ and cant believe he missed this major part of his favorite resident

i think youre last sentence sort of summed up how we think about being plural and thats why we struggle with the idea of it being an identity on its own instead of being something that contributes to your identities.

like being multiple parts contributes to our gender identity 100% but its not its own identity seperate from that.

it also feels like saying it is is more of a way to describe it to singlets which would make sense. but i dont really enjoy having specific words and such that put us all into smaller categories so singlets can understand. its why we avoid using specific parts language outside of some of the therapy specific words.

why tf do endos treat being a system like its an identity that you can pick and choose to label? why do they constantly push the transphobic rhetoric of using "traumascum" to refer to traumatized individuals that just dont want people to treat their symptoms like its fun?

being plural/being a system is nothing like being lgbtq+ and i really think we need to stop treating it as such

yes we are a community, but this community is one formed on the basis of being traumatized as kids, its not based on something we choose to refer to ourselves as

we need to be there to support each other but not blindly. we need to help spread information to others with the symptoms so they can receive help.

you wouldnt treat people with personality disorders the way you treat systems so why is it acceptable to treat systems this way?