OK, Fandom, Here’s A Thing About Remus Lupin We Don’t Hear Nearly Enough About: Sometimes, Being

the problem with reading and writing leading to a strong vocabulary is that you tend to know the vibe of words instead of their meanings.

if I used this word in a sentence, would it make sense? absolutely. if you asked me what it meant, could I tell you? absolutely not.

this is also why yes, Remus Lupin is canonically disabled (i don’t give a fuck if he only uses a cane in the movies, someone not using a mobility aid doesn’t make them nondisabled?? that’s such a ridiculous argument, plus just because harry didn’t mention him using a cane in the small amount of time he saw remus doesn’t mean he literally never touched a mobility aid. not to mention the movies are part of canon) and yes, it is ableist and really shitty to erase that and write him as able bodied. and this is why he will always always always be queer AND disabled in anything i write or draw.

I think some of y’all missed several days in queer history class so I’m just gonna put this as simply as I can:

If we accept the fact that lycanthropy is an AIDS metaphor (JKR has said she intended it as such so idk what to tell you), then it’s actually NOT queerphobic to extrapolate from that that Remus should be read as queer. I would argue that it’s more of an issue to read him any other way.

I know some of y’all like to make a big fuss about how it’s problematic because AIDS isn’t a gay disease. Babes, idk how to tell you this, but in the historical context in which Harry Potter was written, in the real fucking world during the AIDS crisis, for all intents and purposes, yes it was.

The powers that be in the US and UK governments knowingly and intentionally let the AIDS crisis get as bad as it did because of their belief that it was a gay disease. Were they correct? Did it ONLY kill gay men? No. But did it disproportionately affect gay men? Yes. Did we lose MASSIVE numbers of gay men during the 80’s and 90’s because the government was letting them die on fucking purpose? Baby, yes we did.

And to erase that from a text which is ostensibly a metaphor for that disease is to erase the violence enacted upon that specific population. They died quietly, and without fanfare, and so you have been allowed to forget that their deaths were targeted. They were targeted with inaction on a deadly disease and they were targeted because they were gay. It doesn’t matter if you like it. In the 80’s and 90’s, when the lycanthropy metaphor was written, when the books take place, AIDS was a gay disease.

Further, in that context, it only makes sense to read Remus as queer. The “one good werewolf” in this lycanthropy=AIDS=queerness simply cannot be read as straight.

Just in case it’s not abundantly clear where I stand- fuck JK Rowling, and ace/aro people, you are so SO valid and loved.

ai does not belong in creative spaces. period.

My domestic wolfstar headcanon: They 100% threaten each other … with affection. Constantly.

Remus working too late into the night? Sirius: “If you don’t come to bed, I will spoon you so hard you’ll suffocate on love.

Sirius leaves his boxers everywhere? Remus: “Do it again and I’m cross-stitching ‘Property of Remus Lupin’ into all your underwear.”

Remus trying to be annoyed during a fight? Sirius: “Keep scowling at me and I’m going to kiss your forehead so gently it’ll emotionally destabilize you.”

Bonus (ft. Harry)

Sirius being a menace during dinner: Remus: …Get off the kitchen counter, Pads. Sirius: Make me. Remus: I will kiss you stupid in front of everyone, don’t test me. Sirius, already leaning in: Okay. Threaten me harder. Harry, sobbing into his plate: I just wanted pasta.

Sirius hogging the blanket during movie night.. Remus: You have five seconds to share or I’m tucking you into my sweater and smothering you with kisses until you cry. Harry: For the love of Merlin, please stop traumatizing me.

a wolfstar drawing I did back in December

I somehow lost the password to this account and then completely forgot about its existence but I’m back and I’ll continue posting my art on here :)

i put remus in a pickle jar <3

dont worry he likes it trust me

HIIIIIII I saw your nonsexual wolfstarbucks headcanons and i was wondering if you had anymore???? It's okay if not but if you do i would LOVE them.

The only ones I can find are extremlely like sexualised which is fine but sometimes I just need a little bit of fluff cos yeah.

Have the best day <33333

omg HELLO this is such an exciting ask, ty for sending it!! i alwaysss have more wolfstarbucks thoughts so here’s some more i can think of rn!

in a situation where prongsfoot are dating and both want remus i think it’s very much just flirting with him really unsubtly, getting increasingly obvious as he continues to be oblivious. and normally remus would be really uncomfortable with his best friend who is dating his other best friend flirting with him! i’ve seen fics where they jointly decide they want remus and start flirting with him separately and personally i can’t see it. rem would be sooo uncomfortable and feel so guilty. but in my mind S & J decide to do it together. like they’re not flirting with him if they’re not both there. they’re cuddled up on the sofa with a movie when remus gets home from a late shift (or prefect rounds), and they invite him to cuddle (they even put him in the middle). he gets a new really well-fitting shirt and james tells him how good he looks while sirius is leaning on J’s shoulder, smiling and nodding. sirius offers him a massage when his joints/muscles are aching and remus is a bit hesitant but james is right there and seems fine with it?? they end up both helping tbh. sirius’s hands get tired bc literally remus’s entire body hurts so he’s like “james? you mind?” and james finishes up. anyways yeah both of them just flirting and taking care of him and being really affectionate but clearly doing it together so rem isn’t uncomfortable so much as obliviously confused. (he decides they’re just worried about him being lonely bc he’s been single for a long time and now S & J are dating so they’re trying to make sure he feels loved)

in a situation where none of them are dating before though, i think it either starts out as remus and his two boyfriends who are not dating each other (and then fall for each other) OR all three of them deciding to date each other at once, getting together neatly as a throuple. and either way in these scenarios i think remus would have a hard time adjusting to having two boyfriends. im picturing like, him being super anxious about going on a date or being physically affectionate with one of them while the other isn’t there. he kisses S or J once and the other walks in and he’s like,,acting like he got caught cheating basically and they’re like “babe. remus. please, calm down. did you forget we all agreed to this????” (he didn’t forget, he’s just nervous. he wants everything to be equal and them to know he loves them both the same and all that. they’re like “please calm down baby we know that, we don’t have to count dates and kisses though.”)

remus has like 3 stuffed animals that live on his bed at all times and gives them each a goodnight kiss every night and the first night they all spend together he’s embarrassed so he’s not gonna do it but he does end up doing it just out of habit/reflex and then he turns bright red and is sooo embarrassed but his bfs obviously find it extremely cute (and they obviously also demand goodnight kisses every night they’re together but that’s irrelevant to the stuffies)

they honestly genuinely like really cliche romantic dates, like going out for a nice dinner and/or a movie, but they hate that they’re never perceived as being in a romantic relationship since there’s three of them. when people make assumptions remus gets kinda flustered and doesn’t rly say anything, just complete silence, james sort of awkwardly fumbles out some sort of polite agreement without really directly agreeing, and sirius corrects them loudly and proudly, which embarrasses remus but he also loves it

they’ve made a lot of clumsy attempts at slow dancing around the dorm/apartment/wherever we’re imagining they live LMAO usually with remus squished in the middle, one of the others in front and the other behind him, it’s kind of just like a double hug really—remus hugs whoever’s in front of him and the other person just plasters themself to his back too. anyways it looks a bit silly but they’ve actually gotten the hang of all the feet and limbs and can do it without falling over now!

i saw a post somewhere and i cannot remember who or what platform but it was R & J braiding Sirius’s hair together, one on each side, and silently competing to make them neater and y e s i concur

when remus is upset and retreats into himself sirius just wants to baby him and let him do it and just give him cuddles and chocolate like “it’s okay baby you don’t have to talk about it” so james has to be the sensible one and gently coax remus into opening up a bit.

when sirius is upset and starts lashing out james just wants to snap back at him, and remus has to shut up his desire to hide away and be the sensible one to show sirius a bit of love and be patient.

when james is upset and tries to make jokes out of it to cover it up remus wants to smack him a bit (even though he himself is even WORSE at talking about feelings) so sirius is the one who has to indulge his jokes for a bit before pressing him a little to be honest and sincere

if it’s rainy none of those babies are leaving their house absolutely not they will spend the entire day in a cuddle pile on the bed with blankets and pillows and hot chocolate and tv. any excuse to just stay in and cuddle their boyfriends

james leaves little encouraging notes everywhere for both of them—in remus’s notebooks, in sirius’s bike helmet, on their nightstands, etc. and so they start doing it back to him too. all three of them have sappy collections of notes from the others saved up

adding onto sirius always being the middle spoon, if R & J are sitting somewhere together and S walks in he is 100% shoving his ass right in between them. one time he came home and they were kissing on the couch and he ran right over and squished himself in between them and when they looked down at him like “wtf” he just looked up with a smile

they have matching necklaces. james has a moon and a star, sirius has a moon and a sun, remus has a star and a sun.

they all refuse to get married until they can legally have a three way marriage. they’re not going to leave one of them out like that wtf (even if remus insists he’d be okay if they got married. even if he wasn’t lying about it, which he is).

okay i think that’s all i have for now, i hope you enjoy :))

reblog with a spoiler for your wip with zero context. no context allowed.

Nothing will turn me away faster from a fic/video/art than the mention that they used fucking chat gpt.

I don't fucking care if you "just" used it for ideas or to "polish" your writing because english is not your first language - I literally don't care. If you lack ideas then maybe rn is not the time to create but to experience to gain access to the creativity you obviously lack. If you can't write English well? Then learn it. Do it badly. Honestly, I'd rather read terrible grammar and spelling than ai crap.

Get a fucking grip, people.