I Feel Like There’s This Whole Subgenre Of Fic That Just Really, Aggravatingly, Doesn’t Get bickery

I feel like there’s this whole subgenre of fic that just really, aggravatingly, doesn’t get bickery banter couples, which means that a lot of the content for them just ends up reading like emotional abuse.

Like! The thing about couples that bicker for fun, the thing that makes it romantic, is not ‘I hate this and I’m sad and hurt and uncomfortable, but I’ll put up with it because I love you and at some point you’ll start being nice to me’. That’s not fun bantering! That is, at best, a serious miscommunication!

The thing that makes it fun and (potentially) romantic is ‘We know each other so well that we can be rude and gross and weird together, we can transgress the rules of polite society with each other without actually causing any real hurt, because we know where the real lines are and don’t have to guess at them or use the rules from a game that neither of us wants to play.’

It’s fundamentally about intimacy, not about treating your SO like they don’t have feelings that matter.

More Posts from Lotusclouding and Others

2 years ago

the eighth sense is juntaek's first acting gig and he was street casted

the korean director really said he saw him on the street and snatched him up lmaooooo

1 year ago

!! It appears some people are trying to organize a svsss Gaza fundraiser event as well for anyone interested!!

Hello all! We have started organizing a fundraising event in the same fashion as the other ones taking place currently and are looking to do a brief interest check as well as get the word out! Below is a poll for us to gauge interest in the event and more details are in our carrd

— SVSSS Gotcha 4 Gaza 🍉 (@SVSSSAction) March 15, 2024

Tags
1 year ago

Hey folks, if you want to fight back against the twitterfication of tumblr USE IT LIKE IT'S TUMBLR!!!!!! REBLOG THINGS!!!!!! USE THE TAGS TO SCREAM AT YOUR FRIENDS!!!!!!!

5 years ago
「…誰だって、ほんとうにいいことをしたら、いちばん幸なんだねえ。」 

「…誰だって、ほんとうにいいことをしたら、いちばん幸なんだねえ。」  “…a person creates happiness around them when they do something good.”

- Campanella, from 銀河鉄道の夜 by Miyazawa Kenji


Tags
art
2 years ago
Xie Lian

xie lian

5 years ago

Whatevers in Japanese

There are different expressions in Japanese that can be understood as “whatever”:

なんでもいい。"Anything’s fine"

どうでもいい。"Any way is fine"

どこでもいい。"Any place is fine"

いつでもいい。"Any time is fine"

だれでもいい。"Anyone will do"

かってにして。"Do what you want"

まいいか。"well,I guess that’s fine"

ワットエバ。"whatever(in English)“

Hope this was useful to you all mina-san!

がんばてくださいみなさん!〜

2 years ago

the way that jae won blatantly lies about not remembering details about ji hyun. “what was your name, again? where are you staying?” he knows the answers to his own questions, has no doubt repeated these small but dear details to himself more times than he would admit, but is perhaps of the mind that he shouldn’t. that the simple gesture of remembering may expose him and the nature of his desires. thus, he lies, pretends to be none the wiser to this boy’s name or sleeping arrangements as if the knowledge of both hadn’t plagued his mind for days.

the way that despite this, jae won still sits bedside ji hyun on the bus, allows him to rest his head on his shoulder, kneels in front of him to aid him into his wet suit, brings him a warm bowl of noodles (not to mention meds so that he won’t get ill when the seniors make him drink), shields him from the smoke of the grill… the way jae won is unbearably aware of what he does and doesn’t say to ji hyun, of any and all words he utters to this boy, ones meant to offer an impression of disinterest in him and the detail of his life. but the tenderness of jae won’s treatment of ji hyun utterly betray this guise of apathy, the mask he wears to shield himself and the intensity of his blossoming feelings, seemingly faltering, and for the first time in his life, at that.

4 years ago
Here’s The New Environment Study I Was Working On Over The Past Few Days!

Here’s the new environment study I was working on over the past few days!

2 years ago
The Fearsome Yiling Patriarch
The Fearsome Yiling Patriarch
The Fearsome Yiling Patriarch

The fearsome yiling patriarch


Tags
2 years ago
WANGXIAN+ MDZS MANHUA Chapters 255/256 魔道祖师/255 -/256 画幅补完 Illustrations By @maotuanxjj
WANGXIAN+ MDZS MANHUA Chapters 255/256 魔道祖师/255 -/256 画幅补完 Illustrations By @maotuanxjj

WANGXIAN+ MDZS MANHUA chapters 255/256 魔道祖师/255 -/256 画幅补完 illustrations by @maotuanxjj


Tags
  • thestarsarelaughing
    thestarsarelaughing reblogged this · 1 month ago
  • caramelespresso
    caramelespresso liked this · 2 months ago
  • teddybearsandlightningstorms
    teddybearsandlightningstorms reblogged this · 2 months ago
  • pikachort
    pikachort reblogged this · 2 months ago
  • mc-tummy-blur
    mc-tummy-blur reblogged this · 2 months ago
  • vampirerex
    vampirerex liked this · 3 months ago
  • chonaku-things
    chonaku-things liked this · 6 months ago
  • gaylienz
    gaylienz liked this · 6 months ago
  • yellowashh
    yellowashh reblogged this · 7 months ago
  • captainelliecomb
    captainelliecomb liked this · 10 months ago
  • thecatspirits
    thecatspirits liked this · 10 months ago
  • cruisinforabruising101
    cruisinforabruising101 liked this · 1 year ago
  • keeperofsecretsunderthehill
    keeperofsecretsunderthehill liked this · 1 year ago
  • notanrp-wow
    notanrp-wow reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • reasons-to-be-fictional
    reasons-to-be-fictional liked this · 1 year ago
  • vins-paranoia
    vins-paranoia liked this · 1 year ago
  • spookyyarn
    spookyyarn reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • poppajeon
    poppajeon reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • atikal
    atikal liked this · 1 year ago
  • wyrmsongs
    wyrmsongs reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • anarchy-maenad
    anarchy-maenad reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • lonely-jazz-enjoyer
    lonely-jazz-enjoyer liked this · 1 year ago
  • thecuntynug
    thecuntynug liked this · 1 year ago
  • rawadaneth
    rawadaneth reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • toosheeptheorist
    toosheeptheorist reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • sparrowoftheblock101
    sparrowoftheblock101 liked this · 1 year ago
  • krazyonkatnip
    krazyonkatnip liked this · 1 year ago
  • grumpepper
    grumpepper liked this · 1 year ago
  • miss-rebel-without-applause
    miss-rebel-without-applause reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • miss-rebel-without-applause
    miss-rebel-without-applause liked this · 1 year ago
  • rzepi
    rzepi liked this · 1 year ago
  • raineaxolotl
    raineaxolotl liked this · 1 year ago
  • wayfaring-spark
    wayfaring-spark liked this · 1 year ago
  • linkeightvideo
    linkeightvideo liked this · 1 year ago
  • apersond
    apersond reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • apersond
    apersond liked this · 1 year ago
  • pato-social
    pato-social reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • pato-social
    pato-social liked this · 1 year ago
  • kilannad
    kilannad liked this · 1 year ago
  • goldwingthescholar
    goldwingthescholar reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • faith-orise
    faith-orise reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • faith-orise
    faith-orise liked this · 1 year ago
  • keyworld1101
    keyworld1101 reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • keyworld1101
    keyworld1101 liked this · 1 year ago
  • linguaphile
    linguaphile liked this · 1 year ago
  • anotherdayanotherobsession
    anotherdayanotherobsession liked this · 1 year ago
  • conditionaljewel
    conditionaljewel reblogged this · 1 year ago
  • deramin2
    deramin2 reblogged this · 1 year ago
lotusclouding - lotusclouding
lotusclouding

blogging about (mostly queer) media i'm watching 🎬📚enjoy your visit to my internet abode!

279 posts

Explore Tumblr Blog
Search Through Tumblr Tags