Lonelyoneszone - Ash's Zone

if you didn’t realize, ableism is actually bigotry and systemic ableism and inaccessibility are really oppression and it’s not something disabled people brought on ourselves by having bodies&minds that you think are inferior and therefore not worth fighting for. disabled people’s lives and wellbeing matter. we don’t have to earn our worthiness by doing “enough” to deserve a good life. nobody does.

Not "humans are inherently good" or "humans are inherently evil" but a secret third thing (humans are inherently social animals which means that we're very good at cooperating and being compassionate towards those we perceive as being part of our community but we're also very good at being tribal and violent towards those we perceive as threats to our community and everyone defines their community differently)

"You're a nice guy. Any girl would be lucky to be your girlfriend."

"If someone doesn't like you, there must be something wrong with them."

Stop. Just fucking stop.

Are you trying to turn him into an incel? Because that's how you create incels.

I get it. He's upset because people don't like him just because he's different. You want to reassure him. But this is not how you do it.

Being disliked is a fact of life. People have every right to dislike him. He also has every right to dislike someone.

If you want to reassure him, you can instead remind him that someone disliking him doesn't mean others will dislike him too.

You can also inform him of how it's acceptable to treat someone who you don't like. It's acceptable to not like someone, and there doesn't even have to be a good reason for it. But it's not acceptable to cause harm to them, to recruit others to not like them, to openly declare dislike for them when they aren't doing anything that requires liking them, or to exclude them from public places.

Here's an updated version of my pinned post 😊

An introduction by yours truly, Ash

Attempt 3000 of having a Tumblr I like.

I'm Ash, I am a 20 year old with the time zone UTC+1. Triple A battery twice (Aroace agender, AuDHD and anxiety). Some other shits might be going on with me, but I'm not sure nor am I diagnosed with other stuff. Auto-diag is valid by the way, i don't like the medical highstance most people seem to have, there's enough information to auto-diagonise yourself with some stuff, you are the only expert on your own life.

Some people need to chill

I have two side blogs : @lonebabyone (agere), @onesburyinghole (vent)

DMs open and asks too, for anything.

This blog is primarily to have a space to express myself on subjects i like. More details under the cut.

I will tell you one time if i see you don't respect my boundaries, you will be blocked.

I enjoy most humanitarians subjects, like psychology, sociology, history, philosophy, politics (because for anarchy i need to know about it urgh). I'm anticapitalist, i do enjoy some stuff produced by it tho (i mean look in which platform i am), antigovernment (authorities and stuff). I am for communities and for helping thy neighnoor, at least i'm trying. I'm just a human trying to make life in this world and help others when i can. I'm also chronically online and ill so take that as you will.

Anyways, I also love some stuff and here some of them if you want to know:

Witch Hat Atelier

Epic the musical

I don't want to be a magical girl

Formula 1

Gravity falls

Amphibia

The owl House

Hazbin hotel

Helluva boss

Marvel (Spiderman and adjacents)

DC (Batfam and Flash)

Teen Wolf

Call of Duty

Five Nights at Freddy's

Ao3

Arcane

Fandoms in general

Percy Jackson

Hunger Games

Arcane

How to train your dragon

9-1-1

Police shows (because of the investigation bit, not the police, hate that)

Winx

Monster High

Miraculous

Winnie the Pooh

The Music Freaks

Barbie (the movies)

...

This list is inconclusive and doesn't really have an order.

This is so true.

I just did some stretches ahahah

My body: "I'm in pain."

Me: "Maybe we should exercise?"

*exercises*

My body: "Now I'm in a different kind of pain."

witch hat atelier trailer!!!! witch hat atelier trailer!!!

Just saw an anti-endo calling endos ableists, then instantly using the r-slur. Genuinely pulling our hair out

I’ve seen quite a few people this past week ask something along the lines of ‘how to be up-to-date and properly informed about current events and politics and also not get super depressed?’

While most of these were phrased in a joking matter, it actually is a really good question. Being able to balance awareness of the shitty things happening in the world, but not letting that shittiness destroy you is a skill.

Being well informed is vital. However, if you become so informed that it’s starting to effect your life, you’ve gone too far.

The point of being aware of current events, especially bad ones, is so you can do something about it. Read about it, post about it, donate to charity, volunteer, etc. Something you can’t do if your overwhelmed with (rightful) anger and sadness.

So the answer to the original question is that you become informed enough that you want to do something about it, but do not overload yourself to the point where you feel too depressed to take any action.

Burying your head in the sand isn’t good. But neither is doomscrolling into oblivion. Find that middle where you are actively interested in what is happening in the world, but not to the point where it becomes a hinderance to regular life.

Being aware of the world around you is super interesting, but don’t spiral. Misery loves company. Stay informed, stay active, stay hopeful.

Oh no. No, can people not say the kitchen scene was 'abusive' please? It's so distasteful and honestly disrespectful to survivors of actual DV to twist a moment of human frailty into fuel for your dislike of a character/ship.

That scene was raw and desperate and driven by grief. Eddie let his frustrations boil over, and Buck immediately made it about himself and twisted it into a personal attack ("You think I didn't do everything I could to save him?").

Neither of them was dealing with their grief in a healthy way and they ended up taking it out on each other. Unfortunately that's what often happens when your emotions are in a bad place. It's why people keep a professional smile on their face all day at work and then rant at their partner the minute they get home. It's why children are perfect angels at school and then throw tantrums when they're back with their parents. Because they know that person is a safe space and will always forgive them. And guess what? They did forgive each other. Easily and without judgement or grudges. Because they are a family.

People are messy, life is hard and love is imperfect.