Lonelyoneszone - Ash's Zone

can i add something. in my personal opinion the way people speak about eddie, the way people seem almost gleeful to accuse him of 'abusive behavior' or 'manipulation' or whatever else, is directly connected to the way they talk about ryan. and the way they don't talk about lfj. i've said it before but it's that casualness people exhibit while loudly and proudly accusing ryan of certain political and societal views, acting like their assumptions are an excuse for racism, WHILE twisting themselves into pretzels to excuse the behavior of their white fave who objectively has a whole portfolio of highly questionable behavior, both in his career, personal life and social media habits. it's just. a casual thing to do. it's like there's nothing wrong with it, it's normal. it's accepted. it's normal to find millions of excuses and explanations for the wildest shit when the man you're defending is white. but when he's not, god help him. the same goes for fictional characters. white guy does racial workplace harassment for fun? he's closeted, misunderstood, he's protecting himself even though he was quite literally meant to represent casual workplace bigotry. but when eddie diaz as much as waves a finger at buck? somebody call the cops, he's a danger to society, he needs to be medicated, he needs to be locked up, he's a piece of shit. it's not new, this attitude has existed in our fandom long before little racist tommy ever came back BUT tim bringing him back and trying to completely erase the context that he (and gerrard) were first introduced in has enabled a ton of fucked up behavior, too. and tim and whoever else keeping that pos hired made it worse. anyway.

TOP 3 TRAITORS:

3. Brutus 2. Judas 1. Printers when you are in a hurry

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

the only person who had a worse race than ferrari was oscar piastri – and when the leaderboard listed him as 'out', he reversed out of the grass and got back on track. he was not going to DNF at his home race without the stewards physically wrenching a front axle from his hands.

oscar piastri is a goddamn phoenix, and he will rise again and again and again. i love charles, and he is il predestinato - but oscar being a champion is not even predestined. it's literally inevitable.

“Don’t infantilize autism” should be used when people who aren’t autistic treat autistic adults like children.

It should not be said when people who are actually autistic have “childish” interests or stuffed animals and such. Autistic adults are allowed to find comfort and express their autism in ways that works for them (without causing harm), even other autistic people don’t get to tell them not to enjoy those things just because they dislike stereotypes or don’t want themselves to be infantilized.

You can’t tell someone else their life should be breaking a stereotype you dislike. That’s not up to you.

I just need to scream into the void for a solid, like, five seconds.

I’m so tired of taking medications all the time.

I’m so tired of everybody looking at me like I’m fragile even though I am.

I’m so tired of being sick and tired.

I know that accepting and embracing my chronic illnesses and disabilities has made me a stronger and more authentic version of myself but I want nothing more right now than to go back to the person I was before it got this bad.

And I also genuinely hate that I feel this way about myself.

I’m trying so hard to be nothing but a positive light and resource while advocating for the grief disabled people face while refusing to acknowledge my own.

And right now I just need to scream into the void that is my own tumblr page about how I’m exhausted about the fact that I’m visibly unwell.

That I’m INvisibly unwell.

That I am fighting for my life every second of every hour of every day.

And that this all started because I’m on my lunch break and had to take my meds.

There is so much shame that comes with having amnesia and other memory issues.

As someone that has multiple conditions that cause memory loss (DID, TBI, ADHD, etc) we can't even begin to describe the shame and guilt that is conditioned into people who are """forgetful""".

Having memory issues does not make you a bad person. It doesn't mean you are uncaring, lazy, or immature.

Memory is simply one of the many things that people can struggle with. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. We are conditioned to think otherwise because being "forgetful" makes people less productive to a capitalist society. Society is arranged to make life a living hell for people with memory issues. This is an aspect of structural ableism. People in power do not want people like us to exist because we are less useful to them.

Dont get me wrong - it can absolutely hurt when someone you care about forgets something that's important to you. You're not wrong for feeling upset that someone missed an important date, event, detail, etc. That makes sense and feeling that way is not inherently ableist.

All we ask for is for compassion to be extended to people who struggle with memory. We ask for people to stop assigning moral value to how effective someone's memory is. We desire for social structures to accommodate people of all cognitive functions, not just those who are most productive to a capitalist machine.

And if you are someone with memory issues, know you do not need to be ashamed. We've been conditioned to hold negative beliefs about ourselves and our struggles for somebody else's benefit. Guilt and shame will not resolve our struggles. You are worthy and valuable as you are.

feel like many ignore the fact that allergies are a very real and serious disability. yes even if its "mainstream" or whatever. its a disability. people suffer. people are discriminated against. peoples lives are threatened. include them in your activism.

[if you are not physically disabled or have nothing to add on to the TOPIC of this post, don't say anything. i refuse to have this derailed. make your own post.]