There Is So Much Shame That Comes With Having Amnesia And Other Memory Issues.

something i noticed with "anti-xyz" spaces is that.... there is no room for "anti-xyz" spaces, because those spaces will not be focused on support, fun, or community. it's just a cult used to diminish other people's self worth and esteem.

an example is in DID/OSDD/Plurality/Multiplicity spaces. I popped into the tag on tumblr to see what others' experiences are, and am met with something labelled "anti endo" etc. . And I think, if you're making a community, the only option is to be "pro-endo" or "pro-xyz" because that's the only way you're gonna meet individuals who are focused on safety, friendship, and community. Because if you constantly focus on how "you fan only be plural if you have trauma"- it is NOT your business to guess what another's persons trauma is! You don't need to know if a person is traumatized or not to validate their existence! You don't need to know other people's traumas! That is not your business, nor is that knowledge a suitable foundation on which to build a relationship.

The only choice is to be pro-whatever discourse. Because people are first. if all you focus on is whether or not your traumas are enough or real, you're just going to doubt yourself and cause unnecessary stress.

I love talking to kids about disability bc

1. they often just Get It, and

2. they have 0 concept of disability as a tragedy or something pitiable.

I've watched kids get into an argument with a teacher bc they thought wheelchairs were cool. I told a kid that I can't stand for too long sometimes and they replied, "That's okay, I can't do cartwheels sometimes, but I just do other stuff then. You can sit down with me if you want". Today a girl asked me what the headphones on a classmate's desk were for and I told her that headphones are important for some kids because noises bother them, and she said she wished she had headphones at home, because her baby brothers make a lot of noise and it makes it hard to think. The idea that different people could use tools at different times is intuitive and simple and when accessibility aids are explained neutrally, kids don't see them as bad or unfortunate, they're just things that are useful.

Even mental disability!! In Kindergarten the other day one of the kids asked me why his table partner got stickers when nobody else did. I started off by saying, "Well, when you do your work well, it feels good, right? That's your brain giving you a reward," and the kid just right away went, "Oh, and the stickers are like his reward?" YES! You are 5 and have a better grasp on ADHD than most adults! Kids blow me away every day.

"tumblr's the only social media without algorithms!" "you can still be anonymous on tumblr!" "tumblr's so nice because you don't have to show your face!" WRONG tumblr is special because you can have 3000 followers and still get an average of seven likes a post. i'm doing stand up comedy at a packed venue and one person is laughing

I want to do this with my friends 🥺🥺

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Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

I wanted to share some etiquette for simplifying something down for someone with a cognitive/intellectual disability

you are simplifying the information down, not sharing your opinion

if I ask for a news article to be simplified down and you tell me "they're doing fascist things" that's unhelpful. I want to know what they're doing not what you think about what they're doing.

you should be objective with it

if an article is talking about, say, a new proposed bill in Congress an example of an appropriate way to summarize would be:

"this is what the bill is proposing

this is how the article says it will affect people

this is what the author thinks about it"

and then you can start talking about your opinion

we have a right to form our own opinions about information. if the only thing you share is your opinion you're denying us that right. when simplifying language you are a translator. think of yourself as a translator.

Please spread this to non-show watchers! I want to see what others who know nothing/very little about the show would think!

2025-04-05