Still Genuinely Baffles Me Every Time I Remember That The Average Person Isn’t In Some Form Of Pain

Why is it so hard for people to be empathic towards others? Like not even just strangers cause, sure you’re gonna meet a dick every now and then, but like family?

My sibling could not understand the fact that I cannot sleep in a “normal” schedule. I literally cannot fall asleep at night if I am not exhausted from staying up way too long. If I try to go to sleep before midnight, I won’t fell asleep and just roll around in bed and get anxious for not sleeping in the correct time and then be awake even a longer time. I have cried so many nights cause I was stressed about sleep.

I was certain that people could understand that all of us are different people and that sleeping schedules do not always fall in the correct way, but no. They were adamant that I just haven’t tried enough and that I could fix my sleep by just going to be earlier, but like no? Wouldn’t one think that if I have had these issues since I was born that I have tried to fix it? I haven’t been twiddling my thumbs about this. Being undiagnosed ADHD is already bad enough, not getting sleep is even worse.

I pulled out so many different researches and different medical diagnosis, but no. Nothing. They have never had issues with sleep, so ig it just doesn’t exist ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

It’s also so much fun to explain that cause of ADHD there is stuff that I just cannot do. I just cannot make myself do them and there is no way to go around it. There is a mental block that keeps me not doing stuff. I just don’t get it why can’t people understand that sometimes people just can’t. There is no way to push forward and sometimes there is just stuff that cannot be done. Thank god for the meds helping a little bit with the mental block and all. I’m just so tired of needing to explain myself every time that there is a conversation.

There's often an autistic to incel pipeline.

This does not mean that all incels are autistic, nor that all autistic men are incels. It means that autistic men often have a type of vulnerability that the incel community can exploit in order to recruit them.

And there's a subset of autistic men who are especially vulnerable to the pipeline. Specifically, it's those who never felt disabled until they tried to connect with women.

There are a few possible reasons for this. Maybe all of his social interactions so far have been planned by someone else and he just played along, and his social struggles become noticeable for the first time when he has to actively pursue connections with women and be constantly analyzing signs of interest or disinterest. Maybe he's been bullied so much and just accepted that he's doomed to be a loner, but when he started feeling attraction to women and wanted connections with them, he could no longer just sit back and accept being a loner.

He likely won't find other autistic people relatable, because he doesn't need many of the supports that other autistic people need. He also won't want his connections with people to be limited to only autistic people. And most support that autistic children receive is conditioning them to obey and be less of an annoyance to neurotypical people, not helping them be the most successful as their true selves. So when he sees the support that other autistic people receive, he won't even consider the possibility that it would be useful to him. He likely won't even consider the possibility that he's autistic.

He'll likely struggle to understand his emotions and figure out how to phrase his questions. So when he asks for help, he'll likely just ask how to get women to like him. He'll likely receive oversimplified advice like "just talk to them", which he's probably already tried. And when he has a single positive experience with women, even if it's a fluke that can't be duplicated, it will be used as evidence that he never struggled. He'll feel like his struggles are blaringly obvious but people are still dismissing them.

When he witnesses other men complain about the "male loneliness epidemic", he'll easily find them relatable. He'll easily feel like he finally found people who understand. But most of those men won't be autistic. They'll often have no trouble in the vast majority of social interactions and struggle only with getting women to like them because they're simply not likeable to women. They were convinced that their cruelty toward women is normal and they miss the good old days when women just played along with it.

But since he's vulnerable, he'll fall for the propaganda. Then, he'll be an asshole to women and give them a reason to dislike him. And he'll be unable to tell the difference between missing out because of his disability and being disliked because he's an asshole. He'll then seek more advice from the manosphere.

I mean not only did Oscar canonically choose to stop on his way to put his things in his locker just to watch Lando, gentle blush dusting his cheeks, he was especially fond because Lando and little kids is so natural, also because Oscar of all people knows Lando struggles with reading so maybe he even hovered for help??, and was so proud because Lando did so well??, and then mouthing “ignore me” and being lost in watching Lando, then simply having to speak and say something sweet, because Lando’s reading kind things about himself and Oscar simply has to chime in, because of course Lando lights up and his voice travels into that giddy happy register and they both just smile into each others faces The Way They Do because shared happiness is so easy for them and jfc we rly just saw Oscar wanting to stare at Lando lovingly while asking not to have his cover blown there is no predecessor for this they’re just inherently soft and sweet and bashful about each other fuck!!!!!

Some people don’t want to hear this but sometimes accessibility is not sustainable or eco-friendly. Disabled people sometimes need straws, or pre-made meals in plastic containers, or single-use items. Just because you can work with your foods in their least processed and packaged form doesn’t mean everyone else can.

Buck, coming into the firehouse: I need everyone to be clear, I am not in love with Eddie, he is straight

Ravi: If you are actually seriously trying to tell me, you are not in love with Eddie, after I spent hours listening to you talk about him last night, I am going to strangle you

i am simply an Alive Bobby Nash Truther until the bitter end. they can have a live feed of the inside of that man’s coffin as his body decomposes in the corner of every single episode from here on out and i will continue to believe that he will rise from the grave and continue to live his best most chaotic life with his hot wife and his cringefail bisexual son assigned to him by the HR department at the LAFD and his beloved dear paramedic friends who come to him for life advice and his son in law/narrative parallel with extreme catholic guilt and a nobel prize for pioneering new batshit ways to repress emotions and discovering previously unknown stages of grief. it is what he deserves

can i add something. in my personal opinion the way people speak about eddie, the way people seem almost gleeful to accuse him of 'abusive behavior' or 'manipulation' or whatever else, is directly connected to the way they talk about ryan. and the way they don't talk about lfj. i've said it before but it's that casualness people exhibit while loudly and proudly accusing ryan of certain political and societal views, acting like their assumptions are an excuse for racism, WHILE twisting themselves into pretzels to excuse the behavior of their white fave who objectively has a whole portfolio of highly questionable behavior, both in his career, personal life and social media habits. it's just. a casual thing to do. it's like there's nothing wrong with it, it's normal. it's accepted. it's normal to find millions of excuses and explanations for the wildest shit when the man you're defending is white. but when he's not, god help him. the same goes for fictional characters. white guy does racial workplace harassment for fun? he's closeted, misunderstood, he's protecting himself even though he was quite literally meant to represent casual workplace bigotry. but when eddie diaz as much as waves a finger at buck? somebody call the cops, he's a danger to society, he needs to be medicated, he needs to be locked up, he's a piece of shit. it's not new, this attitude has existed in our fandom long before little racist tommy ever came back BUT tim bringing him back and trying to completely erase the context that he (and gerrard) were first introduced in has enabled a ton of fucked up behavior, too. and tim and whoever else keeping that pos hired made it worse. anyway.

living happily in my world where maddie had to listen to her brother meltdown about the implication of being in love with his straight best friend and just. took a picture of him. in his adorable little housewife apron. and went. hmm i wonder who would enjoy this. and sent it to eddie. who she never speaks to. and eddie seeing a text from maddie and freaking out. lunging for his phone only to see a beautiful picture of buck practically glowing. and he's like :) thank you maddie :). and then he sets it as his little contact picture for buck. and he's just smiling to himself for the rest of the day.

the only person who had a worse race than ferrari was oscar piastri – and when the leaderboard listed him as 'out', he reversed out of the grass and got back on track. he was not going to DNF at his home race without the stewards physically wrenching a front axle from his hands.

oscar piastri is a goddamn phoenix, and he will rise again and again and again. i love charles, and he is il predestinato - but oscar being a champion is not even predestined. it's literally inevitable.