Dangerous Dogs Behind “Beware Of Dog” Signs.

You would not believe Bill Nye

If ten million Science Guys

A couple of other things from my experience:

Unless you know for a fact that they are comfortable with it, always ask before touching them in any way. I’ve had a couple friends trigger panic attacks that way.

If you’re in a relationship try to have some sort of code for when it is and isn’t okay to be super intimate. My ex and I had a color code for what level of intimacy I was comfortable with and he would always ask what color I was.

I often flinch and put my hands up at any sudden hand movement. Don’t get offended if someone does that. It’s just an instinctive response.

Don’t slam doors, stomp around, or make unnecessary excessive noise when possible. It can often cause anxiety attacks.

Never, and I mean NEVER, refer to someone’s anxiety/panic attacks or PTSD episodes as a “tantrum” or “fit” EVER

If I say, “can you not do that? It reminds me of my abuser.” It isn’t me comparing you to them. It’s simply me trying to let you know that whatever you’re doing/saying triggers traumatic memories.

You are not alone and it is NEVER your fault if you are a victim of abuse.

THINGS TO BE AWARE OF WHEN IT COMES TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED: 💬

we all experience it differently, but these are the most common ones to me.

Since I grew up in a abusive household,

• I could tell the mood to the person who abused me by their steps, and I remember not being able to breathe when the person was mad because the footsteps were fast and heavy. I still get scared when people walk like that.

• I get scared when a person comes home without saying anything to me because it was what the person who used to abuse me did when they were angry at me.

• I still tip toe around the house at night on my way to the bathroom, scared that the smallest sound I make will get me in trouble.

• I jump at the slightest movement because I’m afraid it’s aimed at me after all the years of being threatened and hit.

• I never refuse to help with anything even if I can’t, because I remember what happened when I refused or didn’t answer right away.

• I am very observant because it’s how I got away from being abused for days, I see one thing outta place at home and I know that day will not be a great one. Is everything at place? a day without abuse.

• If a person gets a bit angry, starts rising their voice or looks at me with a sharp look, I feel like running away and never coming back because it’s how the person who abused me would intimidate me.

please, take these things into consideration and be aware of them, it would mean a lot to me and others who also went through the same things. don’t make fun of anyone who acts like this, you have no idea what they have gone through.

if you have other things to add, please do. it’s important to be aware of the things that might trigger people who have been or are still being physically abused. and if you know someone who’s being abused, please help them. it could do so much good for them.

and if anyone ever needs to speak with anyone, just know that you can message me and I’ll do my best to help as much as possible. I’m also here if you need a friend as well :)

Me: Man, Harry Potter is so dreamy.

Friend: Yeah, Daniel Radcliffe is pretty hot. He needs to ditch the beard though.

Me: No no. Not Daniel Radcliffe. Harry Potter.

Friend: But-

Me: Shhh... Harry Potter.

THEY DO THE THING

PREACH

The not so funny thing about mental illness

I’ve met a lot of people who flaunt their mental illness. They use it as an excuse to be bad to other people and to themselves, and they want all the attention that comes from that. They’re upset and need help and assume that needing help means they have a mental illness. And maybe they do, maybe they really have that mental illness. But the problem with so many people using things like depression and anxiety for attention is that it forms an image in people’s heads that mental illness is something that exists only when something bad has happened, and that everything will be ok once the situation improves. I’m gonna be honest: this gets me so angry. Not so much angry as jealous. I’m jealous of these people that can just switch off their mental illness when they’re happy. I’m happy. Everything in my life is objectively amazing, but it’s still so hard just to keep getting out of bed every day. I feel guilty cause there are people out there with problems and I want to end it all even though everything is amazing. But that’s just it; Mental illnesses don’t care what’s happening around you, they’ll do anything to keep you in their grasp. It’s not fun and it isn’t fair. Which is why when people use mental illness for their own gain without actually having it I get so upset. We should all be able to get help, with or without an illness, but these illnesses aren’t a trend or something cool to look up to, they ruin lives. Lives like mine. But, this isn’t about me. Not really. It’s about everyone with mental illnesses that they can’t just turn off when they get bored or want to be happy. I want to acknowledge the struggles they go through daily, the strain on their relationships, jobs, personal hygiene, even when everything is going well. You deserve better, and I hope one day you can find it one day. 

I wanna address something I’ve seen a lot of. Bear in mind that this post is not addressing or defending anything J.K. Rowling has said about the trans community. To be clear, trans rights are human rights. But this post is not about that. This is strictly about some of the racism accusations I’ve seen. I just wanted to clarify some things so that people don’t feel guilty for enjoying books that many are claiming to themselves be racist. The first thing I wanted to clarify is about house elves. House elves are not based on slavery, as many people have claimed. House elves are actually taken directly from English folklore. Almost every detail is pulled directly from there, so this is an extremely easy claim to debunk. I also wanted to address the discussion about goblins. First, I will say that goblins have always been portrayed as greedy with large hooked noses, though that could definitely be related to antisemitism. However, the fact of the matter is that Rowling never described the goblins as having hooked noses in the books. The only goblin described as having a hooked nose was Griphook. It was just one of his facial features. All of the goblins having hooked noses was a decision made by the film team, not Rowling. The final things I wanted to discuss are the names. Two in particular. Cho Chang and Kingsley Shacklebolt. The argument about Kingsley in particular is just ridiculous. The last name Shacklebolt has nothing to do with slavery any more than Flitwick does with candle wicks or Lockhart does with Locks or Hufflepuff does with smoking or Bagshot does with shooting bags or Fudge does with chocolate- you see my point. The books contain a myriad of ridiculous names that are not innuendos, so why should we assume this one is? As for the Cho Chang matter, yes, they are both last names. However, there was clearly no racist intent in this. She saw the names. She thought they sounded good together. It’s alliterative, like so many other names in her books. That’s it. So are the books a little insensitive by today’s standards? Yes. But so are a lot of things. Hindsight is 20/20 people. Are they racist though? No, they’re not. So think whatever you want about the books’ author, but the books themselves are not racist, so please feel free to read them without any guilt. They are wonderful books that have managed to make hundreds of millions of people happy, and it’d be a shame to stop people from reading them because of false information being spread on the internet.

Me: ex-gifted kid who has an IQ of 139 and graduated with a 4.0

Also Me: can’t add without counting on my fingers

This is beautiful.

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