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If you are a late diagnosed autistic and/or ADHDer, you may discover a very odd comment being thrown your way that will have you questioning everything:
"You didn't used to act this autistic/ADHD".
You'll stop, look at your actions and wonder "fuck... Am I faking all this because I've been diagnosed?"
No. No you are not.
What you are experiencing (and what they are seeing) is known as unmasking.
Diagnosis (for many late diagnosed adults) is a long sought after answer. Before diagnosis we often suppress all our needs, including stimming, hyperactivity, difficulties concentrating, force ourselves to go out, socialise etc.
Diagnosis is the first time we feel we have permission to not kill ourselves for the sake of a 2 hour dinner party. And we say "no, thank you" or we stim more to concentrate or cope instead of holding it all in.
And NT people see that and say "this is different. People don't change unless something is wrong with them. So, something is wrong with what they're doing."
But there is nothing wrong with unmasking. It's scary, sometimes necessary... But it's never wrong.
