Hate Me If You Want But I Love This Man And I Love Stricklake From Trollhunters………

How time flies. It’s been an amazing ride. Thank you so much. For the giggles that became full-on laughs to heartful cries. But most importantly, thank you for growing up with me.

Ace Visibility Matters

Being visible for ace week almost inevitably means at some point running headlong into some ugly acephobia.

Here is one that crops up a lot when people are first learning about asexuality that I’m going to tackle today.

“Why do I have to know you’re ace?/Who cares if you’re visible?/Aces are just seeking attention.”

First and foremost, ace visibility matters.

It matters that we have an identity, and that we can define ourselves and our experiences so that we can recognize and advocate for ourselves and each other. It matters that aces are visible, and that information ABOUT asexuality and asexual communities is visible, first and foremost, so that OTHER ASEXUALS can access it.

In spite of increasing traction and acceptance in online spaces like Tumblr, “Asexual” and the numerous micro labels that fall under its umbrella, are still not widely understood or even heard of by the population at large.

By being visible, the likelihood is increased that awareness of asexuality will reach other aces who do not yet know that they are ace. And that it will reach them earlier in their lives.

There are numerous positive impacts for an asexual discovering they have a recognized identity and COMMUNITY. Notably, and while this is not a comprehensive list:

Validation. The realization and sense of security that comes from learning that they are not the only one. Not “broken.” Not a mistake, or someone who just needs to “get over it.”

Freeing aces from pressure to conform to allo standards to “fit in”, which can negatively impact their wellbeing, mental health, and self esteem.

Allowing aces to Discover their communities, Receive Support from one another, and Organize to advocate for themselves

The importance of that last one cannot be overstated. Humans are social creatures with an inherent need to connect with one another. By having the labels and language to describe ourselves, asexuals are able to find those whose experiences mirror their own. This allows asexuals to explore their own sexuality in a safe space with individuals who are able to understand their experiences. It allows them to give and receive validation and share positivity. And more broadly, it leads to the formation of communities.

A community is important for the social needs of individuals aces, but it is also key to advocacy. We cannot effectively advocate for ourselves if we cannot effectively organize.

That is the most serious need for community, and by extension visibility, always, regardless of where you fall under the lgbtq+ umbrella. Isolated, as scattered individuals in the minority? We have very little reach. Together we have power to look out for one another and effect positive change in how we are perceived and treated.

(This is the same reason that the LGBTQ identities are all better served banding together under the umbrella and advocating for and with each other, but that’s another can of worms I won’t get too deep into)

With all that said, other than aces being aware of themselves, it is still very important that non-aces are also aware and educated about what ace means. Education fosters understanding and wider acceptance. It means non-aces are more likely to find common ground with their ace peers, and visible aces are more likely to find acceptance and avoid aphobia with their non-ace peers.

With all this in mind, when you encounter attitudes like those that prompted this article that boil down to “why do aces need to be visible?/isnt announcing your asexuality just seeking attention?”, please actively help to dismantle those notions as they are harmful to the ace individuals and the community at large.

Likewise, please share this if you can and support aces being out and visible.

the suffering never ends

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Hi.. just out of curiosity, do you have favorite fanfic or fic rec for bnha?

first time putting this together my chrome closed and killed all of it=‘D

they’re mostly one shots since on going ones, cause of my shitty memory i can’t remember most of them otl

they’re under the cut and separated into categories//shot sorry i can’t word well;;; enjoy//shot

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There’s a reason lots of good parents say to babies stuff like

“You’re excited to go to the park!”

“Oh, it makes you mad that we can’t go outside.”

And then when the babies get a little bit older the parents can say

“You seem upset. Are you sad?”

“Are you excited that gramma is coming over today?”

Which lets the kid (who is learning to utilize speech) respond with yes or no, which may prompt more questions, like

“So you aren’t sad, are you angry?”

“Yes, does it make you happy when gramma is here?”

And then, finally, when the child is learning to use language in a more complex way, the parents can say,

“How does it make you feel?”

“Why are you feeling like that?”

And it’s all about teaching emotional awareness. I really reccomend using the process on yourself. Learn to ask, “am I happy?” “Am I sad?” “Am I anxious?”

Then practice identifying, out loud or on paper if you can, “I’m happy.” “I’m upset.” “I’m sad.” “I’m anxious.”

Final step: “Why am I feeling anxious? I’m still thinking about that awkward conversation earlier.” “Why am I happy? It’s such a beautiful day outside.” “Why am I sad? None of my friends are responding to my messages.”

It really helps you notice patterns (“I’m more likely to be happy when I’m around this person.” “When I haven’t eaten, I often feel angry.” “If I don’t plan ahead, I get anxious.”) which is the first step in avoiding things and people that are bad for you and encouraging things and people that are good.

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i think another big thing that makes Trollhunters’ ending have such an impact…. is that they weren’t afraid to show the naked hate in Jim. he hates Gunmar. Gunmar is essentially the biggest reason his life is like it is. Jim is barely over sixteen and he’s been at war for months now, against this troll and his army, who’s efforts to conquer the earth have driven fate to choose Jim of all people to stop the apocalypse. some normal kid that never asked for any of this, but took the mantle when called upon anyways.

and he’s paid dearly for it every step of the way.

Jim’s life has been completely ruined by Morgana through Gunmar, and by this point he’s embracing the anger and hatred that inspires in him. his act of killing Gunmar isn’t just the hero’s duty, but a vindictive revenge for every ounce of pain and trauma that troll inflicted on him, and for every other life Gunmar ruined alongside Jim’s.

i honestly have a difficult time recalling any shows geared towards younger/general audiences that have given us visible and canon evidence of feelings like that. what a phenomenal performance on the animators and writers’ part.