My Castmate, Getting Emotional On Closing Night: Do You Ever Think About How We Might Be In This Play

Normalizing loving plurality. Not even your own.

Normalize treating new potential headmates in other systems like a default positive until otherwise. Normalize hearing "I think there's a new guy in here" and saying "Wow! Do you wanna talk to them?" instead of "Oh, no :(" And, of course, normalize treating new headmates who front out of nowhere with no idea where they are with kindness, patience, and understanding. Normalize being a rock they can stand on while they get their footing.

Normalize being frustrated you can't physically hold all your friends in a separate system the way you might hold a non-plural friend group. Normalize adoring your friend's headmates. Normalize being happy for them when they talk about their plurality.

Normalize loving plurality.

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[boobs image]

Me: *hears that bottling up your emotions is bad* oh no! I will make sure I don't do that!

My brain (devious): *makes the bottle invisible and hides all evidence of unconscious bottling up*

Me: see, I'm not bottling up my emotions :) I just don't feel them very strongly and feel very detached from them :)

With no headmates to counsel them AGAINST murder, inevitably the singlet protagonist becomes a serial killer.

how fitting for this to be answered while we've got a really bad headache.

plural culture is headache

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relatable

New Transincidental comic!

https://www.webtoons.com/en/canvas/transincidental/the-pluralization-part-1/viewer?title_no=605328&episode_no=79

Never let your sysmates forget how much you love them.

Hey, system originals and hosts--or whatever word you'd use. And anyone else who needs to hear it.

It's ok if you want to put your headmates first, before even IRL connections you have. It's not wrong. You're not "cringe". You're not evil or selfish or "worsening your condition" by default. You share your body with your headmates. Whether you view them as parts of your'self' or not, you share a singular form you all have to coexist inside of. People outside your body shouldn't get a say as to what you do with it.

It's ok if you want to do things for them that you wouldn't otherwise do with your life. It's ok if you need to make compromises together about what path you wanna take, and change up some life plans until you can all agree or at least be okay with them. It's ok if the closest connections to anyone you have are those within your own body. It's ok to not want to be close to people unless they accept everyone in your system.

You're not anti-recovery. You're not "giving up" your body to some evil parasite. You're not "throwing your life away because of an illness". You're not bad if you "make everything about your system" because those people are a part of your life as much as any other friend or partner or coworker, you should be able to talk about them.

If you want to make decisions about your body as a collective, please do. You can live a happy and fulfilling life, connected closely with your headmates and all being happy together. It doesn't have to be a struggle 24/7. There will be good days, there will be bad. You won't always agree easily. Things can be difficult, but you aren't wrong for wanting your system to be as big of a part in your life as you yourself are.

You gotta be silly and whimsical and full of joy sometimes so baby systems know they have options. Remember: you, too, can be a random blogger of shitposts on the Internet, or an editor for nonhuman romance novels, or someone who carries a turtle down several blocks to release it into a small lake because otherwise it's going to keep trying to walk into the road. Just because you're a system doesn't mean you're locked into one strict way of life – and it definitely doesn't mean you're doomed to be miserable all the time, forever. Despite it all, we stay silly

[ID: "What if you wanted to go to heaven" meme that says: "What if you wanted to come out as plural, but anxiety said 'best I can do is jokes about being 30 birds in a trenchcoat'" /End ID]