Hey, System Originals And Hosts--or Whatever Word You'd Use. And Anyone Else Who Needs To Hear It.

Hey, system originals and hosts--or whatever word you'd use. And anyone else who needs to hear it.

It's ok if you want to put your headmates first, before even IRL connections you have. It's not wrong. You're not "cringe". You're not evil or selfish or "worsening your condition" by default. You share your body with your headmates. Whether you view them as parts of your'self' or not, you share a singular form you all have to coexist inside of. People outside your body shouldn't get a say as to what you do with it.

It's ok if you want to do things for them that you wouldn't otherwise do with your life. It's ok if you need to make compromises together about what path you wanna take, and change up some life plans until you can all agree or at least be okay with them. It's ok if the closest connections to anyone you have are those within your own body. It's ok to not want to be close to people unless they accept everyone in your system.

You're not anti-recovery. You're not "giving up" your body to some evil parasite. You're not "throwing your life away because of an illness". You're not bad if you "make everything about your system" because those people are a part of your life as much as any other friend or partner or coworker, you should be able to talk about them.

If you want to make decisions about your body as a collective, please do. You can live a happy and fulfilling life, connected closely with your headmates and all being happy together. It doesn't have to be a struggle 24/7. There will be good days, there will be bad. You won't always agree easily. Things can be difficult, but you aren't wrong for wanting your system to be as big of a part in your life as you yourself are.

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reblog jessica i really love my headmates i know i front too much i cant imagine life without them

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jatravess

9 months ago

Being told we can't have "multiple personalities" by some chucklefuck who doesn't even have one.

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jatravess

10 months ago

Me: *hears that bottling up your emotions is bad* oh no! I will make sure I don't do that!

My brain (devious): *makes the bottle invisible and hides all evidence of unconscious bottling up*

Me: see, I'm not bottling up my emotions :) I just don't feel them very strongly and feel very detached from them :)

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jatravess

3 months ago

being plural means a headmate pulling you into headspace to cuddle with you and help you go to sleep because of your& insomnia

being plural means smiling and laughing at a joke one of your headmates made, or having witty banter with them as you make a meal that you'll both be able to enjoy

being plural means a headmate going "its okay, you don't have to do this, i can do it" and you thanking them because yeah, you cant do that, and thats okay

being plural means thinking about your headmates when buying new clothes, or seeing a shirt or pair of pants for sale and going "they'd love that !!"

being plural means making one of your headmate's simplyplural profile, and spending lots of time perfecting it so that it fits them to a T

being plural means knowing you aren't alone

being plural means knowing that your headmates, your friends, your family, are always there for you

being plural means love.

THIS POST IS INCLUSIVE OF SYSTEMS OF ALL ORIGINS !!! DO NOT BRING SYSCOURSE ONTO THIS POST.

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reblog fucking love the others in here-Aubrey

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jatravess

6 months ago

Host: *plays cool game once* That was fun

Fictive from said game: Yeah it wa-

Host: AAAAH

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jatravess

7 months ago

@funnier-as-a-system

'I always wanted to fuck him' caption under a picture of a dark room with nothing in it

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jatravess

1 year ago

this is actually how i started questioning whether or not im plural,

got what i thought where intrusive thoughts so i just internally yelled "oh shut up", and they yelled back and now here we are.

Questioning median culture is realising I've possibly been telling another facet to shut up for years just thinking they were anxiety thoughts and feeling bad about it?

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jatravess

9 months ago

our communication is pretty unreliable most of the time, but yesterday we had a full day of absolutely brilliant communication.

we spent the whole day playing fallout london together, laughing together, taking turns making dumb jokes, it was great.

the best bit was when we all went back and forth mocking the general in charge of the tommys (forgot his name but if youre playing it and have seen him you know who he is), it was amazing just all laughing together and feeling the happiness radiating from everyone else as we all brutaly roasted this moron. just pure joy.

i think that was our best system experience so far, i love being part of a system and hope our communication continues to improve like this.

Hii :) need some positivity rn, what are your best memories with your system?

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plural system system things plural endo safe plurality pluralgang fallout London actually plural plural pride the future is plural

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jatravess

10 months ago