Blaming women for any part of their oppression is misogynistic. Yes women are the guard dogs of the patriarchy, but because their life is on the line if they don't
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I'm gonna be super real and honest with you. If there is no gun held to your temple, I don't think you are truly forced to do something. You just choose to follow the stream because it is familiar and saying no feels scary. But choosing to conform because you are a coward is not the same as being forced.
the average man acts like a spoiled petulant disrespectful toddler because his parents and society let him do whatever he wants and men stop mentally maturing once they turn 3. you can't tell men "no" without them having a tantrum. you can't do your own thing without them butting in and disturbing your peace. you can't have fun without them because it hurts their feefees when you don't acknowledge them for one second. none of this would be an issue if the world wasn't so androcentric and if everybody realized men are too emotional to lead. they shouldn't even be allowed in public spaces due to how destructive they can be
a male could write an entire manifesto titled "I am a Rapist. I Am A Rapist Who Rapes Women" and he would receive ten thousand prizes and an online harem of fangirls and then afterwards when women come forward saying the Rape Manifesto guy raped them everyone would be like How Could This Have Happened...!
only just remembered the conversation I had with the person who said they couldn’t read anything written by a lesbian because they were a bisexual and it would be seen as infiltrating a space that wasn’t intended for them and wasting resources that weren’t theirs to use and they were terrified of getting in Trouble.
one of the most frustrating things about the neil gaiman situation (and others like it) is people who were fans immediately moving to a different person to idolise ('well, at least we still have x author' or 'please tell me y author is still a good person') and in this situation specifically, 'terry pratchett would be furious'. no!!! you do not know!!!you have no idea whether terry pratchett or any author you like was/is a predator! you cannot take a situation in which a man's public persona as a feminist and supporter of women allowed him to prey on vulnerable women without suspicion and then look at all the other men who portray themselves as good people and say 'well, these ones are still okay though.' just stop idolising celebrities!!!!!!!
I'd be less depressed and blackpilled if people were more honest about moid evil. We're all living in it, we all see it yet it's denied. Not only is it denied but moids are loved and defended despite all their cruelty. Excuses are made for them. Despite all the hatred moids show they're treated like injured animals rather than the terrorists they are. It's maddening. Women have been conditioned to hate other women & girls and love moids despite everything. Many women are ready to throw another woman under the bus to save their own skin. So in the end it's so isolating.
The thing that makes gaslighting torture isn't the primary abuse but the constant denial of the abuse as it's right in front of you. That's what drives you to insanity as you're being told what you perceive isn't so while you can see it there. It's one thing to recognise abuse and move accordingly but when it's denied outright it's another thing. Instead of primarily dealing with the abuse at hand you're dealing with proving the abuse is there in the first place. Protip: dont do this, just walk away from people who deny - it's not worth arguing the obvious; most people are more aware than they let on.
When David Foster Wallace said “there’s a lot of narcissism in self hatred” he was absolutely right.
what gets me about the radfems on here with boyfriends/husbands/children is they had to deliberately let everyone know that. they could've easily just not mentioned it and we wouldn't have been none the wiser but nope. they couldn't help themselves and had to not make a personal blog but specifically post on their radfem blog about how they don't even remotely practice what they preach. yet do think they're so much smarter and more aware than all the normie women with male partners and kids. they don't just date and marry men- they make a point of thinking they're superior than women who dont.
Right? But these women have been pushed into het relationships their whole life and have had them rewarded and encouraged, so when some women do NOT do that, they're taken aback. Like when a kid goes to school and realizes that the world doesn't revolve around them like at home.